Oh, yeah, I know a couple of girls like that. It’s like they’re stuck in 8th grade. The catty, bitchy, two-faced, back-stabbing type, right?
Can we please move on? We’re grown-ups now.
And always trust that women’s instinct.
Creepy-Guy Radar never lies.
Creepy-Guy Radar?
YES
Women Who Hate Women?
YES (Unfortunatly, my mom is one of them - shes pushing 60 and only has 2 female friends, and only acutally likes one of them - I can’t imagine the horror show if my dad dies first.
Name Droppers?
Eh - who cares - just a bit of insecurity.
However, I will add to the list:
People Who Insist On Knowing How Much Everything Costs, and Telling You How Much All of Their Stuff Costs.
GAH - I hate this! “Do you like my jacket? $500! My house was $450,000! I bought this new ass-waxer - $75!”
Honestly, I really don’t care. If you like it, and it’s not my money yer spending, I really don’t care. Please do not feel the need to share.
I also hate it when people I’ve just met tell me what to do. I was to be fixed up with this guy - we met with a group of people for drinks and I paid for the first round. With a credit card. He proceded to lecture me for 20 minutes about the evils of credit card use, and how I should get rid of mine, and how he could set me up on a budget, yada, yada, yada. Yah THAT relationship when nowhere, in a big, big hurry.
I’m rubbed the wrong way by the type of person who seems to need to do sort of a witness stand type of questioning when first introduced.
And not just too many questions. But too many why do you live there? or why do you work there? type of thing. And of course the personal version; have you ever married? no kids, humm…
To me it’s an attempt at oneupsmanship (is that a word), through the guise of “just trying to get to know you.”
And yet another vote for creepy guy radar. I have it, and my dog had it. Typically, she would approach anyone–whether it was a neighbor she had known for years or a complete stranger–with a great deal of enthusiasm. However, sometimes she would not approach a person. She wouldn’t growl or anything like that, but she would just sit down about two feet away from the individual and just stare at them. We didn’t trust people that she treated like that.
People who think I’m stupid for changing my major. (More people have said this to my parents than to me though).
People who assume they know how much my vehicle cost, and treat me like s*** because of it.
People who get upset when they hear about someone flushing a live mouse down the toilet, but think it’s ridiculous for me to still be mourning the loss of my dog.
Creepy Guy Radar – It’s the guy who stares at you without blinking. Attention guys: This does not say “I’m really into you and I’m staring at you intensely so you know that,” it says “I’m a psychopath contemplating where I’ll hide the dismembered parts of your body.” Can I get a witness?
I’m with ya Jodi. Looking - good. Staring - bad. Liking - good. Obsessing - bad. Calling - good. Creepy Note-On-The-Car-Stalker-Dude - bad.
Oh, it exists alright! The way I describe the feeling or vibe is that the CG feels as though he’s invading my personal space, even if he’s 10 feet away.
There are some people, people I just met even, that I don’t mind if they hug me. But when I get that CGF, getting within arm’s length is too close. I work with someone like that. Ick. I trust that feeling.
Another vote for the existence of Creepy Guy Radar. This isn’t only a female phenomenon (I don’t know the genders of many of the posters, but alot of the names seem to be female) - I’m a 17 year-old male whose CGR goes off pretty often. I work in a public library, so I come in contact with lots of slightly off-kilter folks. I think you’re absolutely right, Gazelle from Hell, it is the exact opposite of sexual attraction - more of a “sick to the stomach repulsion.” For some reason I seem to have the kind of look that invites lecherous, old men with no concept of personal space to approach me, so I’ve learned to trust the ol’ CGR.
Oh that’s odd! His previous girlfriend fits exactly that description. His current girlfriend’s name starts with T and rhymes with psycho-nutso-bo beena, MEE-NA. (His name starts with an M and rhymes with Why-do-I-put-up-with-this-wonderc*nt-Michael.)
Oh, kevja, how I hear you on that one… Interrogation upon introduction. A great joy that is. Only not.
Overly needy people. People who aggressively try to top anything you say, (“oh yeah? You were mugged and beaten by a gang last night? I was mugged, shot, and killed by zombie vampires!”).
I had a co-worker who acted like she had a personal laugh track going, and everything she said had to be witty. She was also dumb, and vicious.
Some guys do give off creepy vibes.
Clingy, posessive people.
Girls that squeal and giggle like Jennifer Love Hewitt.
Jennifer Love Hewitt.
What rubs me the wrong way when meeting someone: women that act like they are real tough, hardened bitches. I don’t mean a strong woman, hell, that’s a good thing. I mean a really nasty attitude. They let you know immediately how “rough and tough” they are and usually with a lot of swearing and posturing. It comes across as being really low class.
And anyone who is a crowd pleaser. Smooth talker, witty jokes, plays the whole room. They don’t relate to anyone really, just treat you like an audience and they’re “on”. Like a politician on the campaign trail.
And guys who talk garbage about women (how many they’ve slept with, or how awful their girlfriend is, or how awful their girlfriend is so they’re cheating on her to escape her, or rating women’s bodies, etc). I’m a woman, it’s a good guess that I don’t want to hear that crap. Particularly if you’re trying to hit on me. (And lordy, lord, it’s happened. Many times.)
People that spend more money per month on themselves in toiletries, cologne, makeup if female, clothing and shoes than I make in a year… and people that spend more time getting ready before going out than they actually spend out. I think everyone should look their personal best, but this is more than a little vain.
There’s probably more but that’s what stands out. Oh, and creepy guy feeling is something I’ve experienced too. It’s real. Thank god!
I’m instantly put off when someone I meet immediately starts asking if I know other people. “Oh, you went to Anytown High School? Do you know John Doe? How about Jane Doe? Did you ever meet Richard Roe?”
This drives me nuts. For one thing, I never seem to know who it is they’re asking about. For another, even if I did, what does it matter? Are we bonded over this? Is this small-scale name-dropping some remnant of humanity’s tribal past? If I knew John and Jane and Richard, does this mean I can be trusted not to raid the village?
People [no matter if they have nothing to say] who will always want to have the last word.
- I sure hope this isn’t the last post *
Ack!! Creepy Guy Radar never ever ever fails ever. I play for a local rugby club that has male & female teams. New guy come along gets introduced to everyone. Seems OK - bit quiet but you know lots of new people in one go is intimidating. The club goes out for a few beers I get chatting to new boy and within 1 minute my internal alarm is going off saying run as far away and as fast as you can from this person when you think you have gone far enough just keep on running so I make my excuses and move on the chat with other people still having that cold feeling. Long story short he is now obsessively following and calling one of my friends who was too polite to listen to her gut feeling the first time they met on the same night. Quiet words from the rest of the rugby boys have not worked next call is the police.
Aaaahhh female intuition never lies.
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Yes on the creepy guy thing. It seems I am some sort of target for weirdos, too. I think I must emit some sort of Weird Guy Scent.
What puts me off people? When they act as if no one could possibly understand their anguish and difficulties. Usually this anguish is a situation most people have been in themselves (struggling to work while being a full time student, not being able to find Mr/Miss ‘Right’) and acting as if ‘no one understands how hhaaaaaard it is for meeeeeeeeee.’ Yes, most of us understand, we feel for you, but you are NOT the first person in the universe to ever have this problem.
Also, it rubs me the wrong way when people make no attempt at all at eye contact. I have a hard time with really socially awkward people. I want to snap my fingers in front of their faces and say, “Hey, I’m over here! I don’t bite.” If you’ve gotten to the stage of life where you are a full professor in a university, you should at least be able to have a normal, civilized chat with someone without the person feeling as if you’re going to crawl under the nearest desk at your earliest convenience.
Oh my God, my sides! I’m laughing so hard that I’m crying, in my cube, at 7:30 in the morning.
Smashed, you just ain’t right!
Two new additions:
- People who talk badly about other people immediately upon meeting them. <— That doesn’t make sense.
Example: I started a new job and the cow-orker with whom I went to lunch talked some serious sht about another cow-orker in our group. "She’s so stupid, she thinks her sht doesn’t stink…" If this happens, it makes me want to be best friends with the person about whom the sh*t is being talked.
- People who one-up you, no matter what. They also seem to steer every conversation around to THEM. El Hubbo and I call them opera singers. (Mememememememe!!!)
Example: “You guys, look at this necklace my husband surprised me with! I’m so lucky.” “It’s nice. My husband gave me a two-carat diamond ring for my birthday.”
- Women who play dumb because they think men like it.
Loud, pushy, overly animated-types. They exhaust me.