People Who Talk Incessantly – What Mental Illness Do They Have?

Has 10[sup]Logorrhea[/sup] been investigated as a cure?
Maybe there’s difficulty in picking the right base, but it just seems such an obvious approach to the problem.


What do you call that disease where people are so self-absorbed, uncaring, and rude that they are compelled to ignore people that are talking to them, or worse yet, tell them to shut up?

Oh yea, I remember!

Assholia Jerkinossis!

In my household, the disease is called “being four years-old”. :wink:

Often presents in combination with constipation of the brain, in my experience.

I know several people like that (all female, not that that means anything.) Drives me up a wall.

I only have a minute, so no cite right now. I’ll be back later with what ever I can find.

In the study of family dynamics, it’s been found that middle children get less attention from parents than the youngest and the oldest. This causes them to call attention to themselves in any way they can. It’s a “look at me” response to being less noticed as children than their sibs.

I did a quick search and found this chart on birth order. I’ll look for something more when I get home.

There’s a woman in my town with this problem. She’s known as “Five Dollar Donna” because, well, you can figure it out. The drugs have messed her up something fierce, and you don’t want to sit anywhere near her (say, at the bus station) because she’ll start talking and talking and talking, generally on topics that you just really didn’t need to hear. She does this regardless of who’s around - small children, the elderly …

Then there was a guy I knew who was developmentally disabled. He could sit quietly for long periods of time, reading, listening to music, watching TV, what have you - if he was alone. But the instant somebody else would walk into the room, it was like putting a quarter in the machine. Instant “blablablablablablablablablablablabla…”

Makes sense. Thanks.

(BTW, my sister, who’s the middle child of three, doesn’t do this behavior.)

This can be an instrument of control and denial. I used to tend this way myself, although I think I’ve been over it for a while now. It’s like, if I can keep talking about all this nice, normal, pleasant conversation, I won’t have to turn my attention to stuff that really hurts, or I don’t understand, or am afraid of. The talking, ostensibly a conversation, becomes a defense mechanism.

When I worked the graveyard shift at the psych hospital, I ran across any number of people like this. Something about 'em just couldn’t stand the quiet.

Most of them, however, were capable of carrying on an actual conversation. But we did have a couple I remember who were really bad about that – their speech was not so much “conversation” as “monologue.”

Developed a bit of an attitude about people like that. Particularly since one of 'em decided I was rude for picking up my book and going back to what I was reading when it became clear that my input was neither expected nor welcome…

That just means your parents shared their attention more equally. :slight_smile:

It’s unnatural.

My father-in-law has this unfortunate condition. Unfortunate for everybody else but him. He will start telling you something, and he’ll go on without pause for more than an hour, if no one gets up to leave. By three thousand words, you can’t remember what he started about, he hasn’t gone anywhere and shows no signs of all this talking leading up to something. By twelve thousand words, you wish the floor would open up and swallow you. His family has had to put up with it for more than 30 years, although I don’t know how bad he was back then.

He seems to have no internal editor, and is compelled to tell you every thought that’s on his mind and how it connects to every other thought in his mind. He speaks very slowly and deliberately. There is no room for input. He doesn’t ask any questions, nor yield the floor to the opposition… nothing. Despite his other wonderful qualities as a human being, this inability to shut the hell up for a change has left him with no lasting friends from a 30-year career, and family members who are certain never to ask him anything if they don’t absolutely have to. They have learned to fear how long the answer will take.

We don’t know what drives him to be like that. He isn’t violent. He doesn’t drink. He doesn’t have any formal education, and only cursory social skills. We’re pretty sure he isn’t mentally unbalanced…at least we’re hoping so. Maybe it’s passive aggression, and he gets off somehow on keeping an audience captive against their will. Or maybe he has no idea what a crushing boor he really is, despite all the evidence and the consequences. If only anything he had to say was interesting, he might be a fascinating guy. Nah, it ain’t gonna happen.

Shades of your Father-In-Law. Does it ever occur to you that your libido is stimulated by the logos of your wife… perhaps you are a substitute with your apparent wordieness? Attracted to your alternate?

I have a friend who is like that - I think she’s afraid of silence. She will let others talk (occasionally) but if no one else is talking she will be. That includes during TV shows, movies, etc. There are few things more frustrating to me than to be invited over to watch a movie, only to have her talk through the entire damned thing.

Does it ever occur to you that you are an insulting moron? One who has no business commenting on things he knows nothing about?

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devilsknew and fishbicycle.

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During his last days, my dad chattered like crazy. He had stage 2 Alzheimer’s and was possibly going into stage 3. He had never yakked like that before. It was hard to get him to stop talking long enough to take a bite of food.

fishbicycle’s description of his father-in-law reminds me of a woman I work with, though she’s nowhere near as verbose as some of the compulsive chatters mentioned in this thread. It’s the “no internal editor” that reminds me of her. She seems compelled to voice every thought that comes to her, no matter how obvious.

I don’t have to deal with her much, but I’m on an employee committee that plans social events with her. We’ll be discussing an idea, the result of which is perfectly obvious to everyone, yet she has to say it aloud.

Discussion topic: what to serve for the luncheon. Idea: “Why don’t we offer hamburgers AND hotdogs?” She’ll jump in with, “yes, and then everyone can get what they want, whether they like hamburgers or hotdogs–nobody will have to choose. Say you like hot dogs: you can get those. Or–if you like hamburgers, well, then there will be those too. It works out for everyone.” :smack: :rolleyes: