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My understanding of MDMA is not that it directly stimulates sexual sensation, but psychologically it allows a person to drop the usual barriers between people, to open oneself up fully to really being with another person. Many women will tell you this is important for their orgasmic fulfillment.
MDMA has different effects on different people. It may cause some people (or a lot of people) to orgasm easier or have more fun during sex because they feel better, they feel more relaxed, etc. But there’s nothing inherently sexual about the drug. Actually, the name “Ecstacy” comes from the name under which it was marketed in Texas to the first ravers before it was illegal; the guy who made/sold it and gave it the name that stuck, said that the name had nothing to do with its effects. He just thought “Serenity” or “Peace” or “Empathy” wouldn’t sell well. I don’t remember the name of the guy or any other details, but anyone who’s interested in more info can email me and I’ll see if I can dig up the cites again.
This thread may have experienced the biggest topic drift of any thread I’ve started.
Since the thread has gone a bit into left field in the “why can’t Johnny get laid” category I might as well paddle the canoe a bit further into the morass of metaphor hash I seem to be constructing in this sentence…*
*Note to self: “Self, no more than one or two pot laced cookies before posting to the SDMB”
Okay, ahem. As a female with a pretty strong sex drive I can tell you that one thing which tends to make my mind up about whether or not to respond to overtures is whether or not I get I get a strong sexual vibe off a guy. Men with low sex drives don’t “smell” right or something–it’s a visceral cue. I guess it’s the origin of the adage that a woman knows in the first fifteen seconds whether or not she’ll ever have sex with a man. It’s pretty accurate, too, although I’ve had a couple of slow starting guys surprise me–I guess when the libido actually engages the pheromones can change the picture considerably. Generally, though, the initial impression is spot on, and I don’t want to get into a sexual situation with a man that I’m fairly sure doesn’t share my capacity or appetite–it would be ultimately self defeating for us both and liable to lead to embarrassment all around.