I once read that someone sharing my pet peeve murdered their own spouse because of it. And while I don’t quite get homicidal about it, it causes a fair amount of irritation and quiet hostility.
Food Noises… AAARRRGGGHH!!!. The sound of eating. Most especially the smacking sounds of someone who not yet learned to chew with their mouth closed. But if I am in close proximity to someone, even the sound of someone moving food around inside their mouth will drive me up a wall.
I had this pet peeve as a child, and my brother was no small cause of irritation. Dad too, but I couldn’t say anything to HIM…
I’m not sure how this feeling came about, but around age 18 I decided it was irrational. It’s just noise. Sometimes unavoidable. Rather than go through life irritated when forced to share company with a noisy eater, I should just force myself to get over it.
After all: It’s just noise, right?..
I’ve met other people with this same pet peeve, and even dated a girl who would get borderline homicical if I put gum in my mouth (And being VERY conscious of food noises, I’m a very quiet chewer…)
Recently this problem has come back with a vengeance. I attribute it to the huge amount of stress I am under. Money issues, Looming dept (despite an 80 hour work week), and the somewhat less than successful christmas season experienced by my new business. Not to mention my upcoming wedding.
My fiancee does not understand this pet peeve. She’s even OFFENDED by it. I try to explain that I understand that it’s irrational. I know the arguments - Its just noise. But I can’t seem to Will it away.
I tried at first just quietly leaving the room whenever she started to eat. I would make up an excuse (checking email, getting a book…) and quietly leave the room. She eventually noticed that I did this whenever she ate, and became VERY irrate. She said that I was insulting her, implying that she’s a disgusting pig, etc. I told her that it has nothing to do with how I think or feel about her, but it is just a noise which irritates me regardless of the source. No different than nails on a chalkboard, or the noise of balloons rubbing together.
She feels that I shouldn’t say anything about it. She feels I should not leave the room. She thinks that I should just sit there next to her through the whole meal, despite my rising irritation. I feel that with all the other stresses in my life at the moment, I should NOT have to subject myself to more. I see no problem with quietly leaving to let her enjoy her meal. If I stay I just get irritatable, hostile, and unpleasant to be around… which caused more problems. Why can’t I just leave. I don’t storm out, I’m polite about it, I assure her that I DON’T think she’s disgusting. I will eventually rid myself of this affliction again, but in the mean time the nagging and griping is making it worse.
Anyone else have this problem? Am I unreasonable?