In the midst of an ongoing debate regarding prostitution, I was reflecting on what makes me liberal to prostitution. While against trafficking, pimping and keeping the bitches in line through drug dependency and violence, I don’t see this as a result of actually selling a sexual service for money, but of illegalizing it. I say this not to make a rhetorical point, but for the purposes of the poll I want to restrict the definition of prostitution to voluntarily selling a sexual service for money, nothing else. Being coerced into it through threat of violence or poverty does not factor in, as that would be atrocious no matter the profession.
The other main argument against prostitution is that it objectifies our bodies when we sell them for sex. I would argue on the other hand, that a masseur sells his/her body in much the same way, lending an hour of well being to somebody else in exchange for money (I’m ignoring the practical uses of massage here, such as physical therapy). Most masseurs don’t have the freedom to choose their customers, and may have to come into close physical contact with customers they find repulsive. I’m aware that many other professions (such as medical practitioners) face the same dilemma, but I’ll avoid complicating the issue too much.
Personally, given the choice, I would prefer to prostitute myself but be able to chose my clientele, than be forced to massage any fat shlubb that walked in.
How picky do I get to be as a prostitute? If I go with “picky prostitute” and years tick by and as of yet I have not found a customer I’m willing to service, am I playing the choice-game unfairly? How is that different from opting out?
No, I’m a man, and I’m trying to drop the entire assumption that only women sell their bodies. I know a few (and know of plenty) gay men who willingly have sex for money, and I know of heterosexual men who have done the same for women. So men can answer the poll equally.
For the purpose of this poll, I’m ignoring being forced into prostitution by poverty or otherwise. I would find forcing somebody into a coal mine or cleaning sewers equally wrong. I clearly mean sex workers who have another profession on the side, or who could change professions at any time. So the reverse of the question, would it be wrong to buy sex from somebody who finds you reasonably attractive and is doing it of her free will?
That is, indeed, the gist of the poll =) Is selling your body from sex different from selling it for any other purpose?
I’d love to be a whore. unfortunately I’m a dude and not attractive enough for women and unwilling to have sex with guys. If I get to add in getting to be selective of my clients I wouldn’t blink twice.
As a straight male, that was my thinking as well. In truth, the idea of being a prostitute with female clients never entered my mind. Even if I was an opposite-sex gigolo, however, I’d still go with masseur.
Honestly, I’m very surprised that most people would rather be a freelance prostitute than a salaried masseur. Maybe they’re thinking of it like the masseur option means you’re not allowed to quit?
If I’m being a picky prostitute that sounds like I have sex with people that I want to have sex with anyway, and also get given some money for it. So why wouldn’t I choose that? I’m not really selling my body, the money is just a bonus for doing something I want to do.