So I am planning on going to Europe some time in Spring or Summer 2017, less than a year from now. I have an idea of visiting several cities in several countries. I know one of the cities will be Geneva, Switzerland. The others could be in countries bordering Switzerland, say France, Germany and Italy., just have not decided yet. The whole trip ideally would be two weeks. I live in Los Angeles.
Now I am not here to ask for travel advice on which cities Dopers would recommend me to visit, which hotels to stay in, what landmarks and sites to check out. So why is Geneva for sure on my itinerary? Well its because there is this young woman who lives there whom I am very interested in seeing. And this where I need your advice and general views.
This young woman has been living in Geneva for seven years, she was born in Switzerland, but lived in Iran from her pre-teen to early twenties, until going back to Geneva. She is my first cousin once removed, she is my cousin’s daughter. Her grandfather is my uncle-my mom’s brother. So we are related. Back in 2009 while I was still living at home, she and mom came over to Los Angeles for a visit and stayed for a month.
Trouble is I found her attractive and never saw her as a relative, she is not that close of a cousin. She and I have not not had much contact except once in a blue moon on social media. I have not pined over her, I live my life. However if I get the opportunity to see her, I will use it. So I am not some obsessed creep who has been thinking of her since her visit in 2009. But me going to Europe, to Geneva is an opportunity.
My idea is a month before my travel I will send her message and tell her I will be Geneva for a few days, and if it would be possible if we could meet at cafe or some public place. If things go well, she can show me around the city and do some fun stuff together. I will probably make a move on her, after gauging if she has a boyfriend, and her reaction to me giving her a kiss. I know there is no relationship potential, I live in L.A, she in Geneva. More like a vacation fling.
There are some obstacles:
She is my distant cousin
She would be surprised by my feelings to her, whether pleasantly or a repulsed manner
I have no idea if she has a boyfriend, I know she is not married and has no kids
These are risks I am willing to take, life is short and I have learned better to take risks than to wonder “what if?” If it means anything we are both 29, will be 30 next year.
I have to clarify before wrapping this up, I am not going to Europe and all this trouble just to hit on her, that would be pathetic to the ninth degree. It’s just that it’s a side thing to go with the vacation.
So is this a good idea, or will it seem creepy? Putting aside my feelings for her, reaching out to a relative when visiting their city is not weird at all.
Thanks in advance, any positive or negative feedback is welcome.