I’m getting married!! yeahhhhhhhhh. My finacees-brothers-live-in-girlfriend is trying to ruin it. Yippie.
To date she’s:
- Called me (consistently) by a bastardization of my own name (Casey rather than Cassie)
- Changed the wrong name calling to the name of fiancee’s ex-from-five-years-ago as soon as we announced our engagement.
- Hi Opal!
[sub] i just learned to do that, sorry [/sub] - Asked me to be an attendant since her boyfriend (Joe)[sub] names changed to protect the innocent [/sub] is the best man and cried when I explained that I have four sisters, which takes up an entire wedding party.
- refused to attend wedding now because of #4
- is attempting to refuse to allow Joe to attend as well.
- scheduled herself for elective surgery (two months in advance) the day before my wedding.
- uhm nevermind. too long.
- called his very religious mother to tell her that we’re living together before the wedding
- “accidentally” dropped and broke a wedding candleholder that was given to me last week
ARGHHGH. There’s more, but I’m too frustrated to deal with it and I don’t wanna go to the pit… I live in the same neighborhood as them (who also HAPPEN to live together, unmarried, unbeknownst to mom), can’t avoid her to save my life, and am on the brink of popping her in the nose.
HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS??? I adore Joe, hate feeling like there’s a family rift develping because of a wedding, which (last I checked) was supposed to be a happy occasion.
Oh, my guess to the reason she’s acting this way is she’s upset that she and Joe aren’t getting married, still, after 7 years of dating. I’m sorry for that, but not about to apologize for my own happiness.
I’d really like suggestions as to how to deal with this. I know i’m pretty new, but my lurking has taught me that dopers have the most creative advice out there, and a Heaping Gob O’ Sympathetic Ears ™, if no solution.
thanks!!
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