Actually it’s even worse – she spelled it “SanDeE.” :eek:
And there was a star over one of the "e"s.
Wasn’t there a star in there too?
Ok, so just to sum up, you guys (the helpful ones, anyway) pretty much got me thinking that, yeah, I just have to see them as part of her and I can choose between a wonderful girl, with the boobs, or quit and look for a probably-less-wonderful girl with real ones.
Of course, I choose her. I hope that doesn’t surprise anyone. I do love this girl.
Now some shouts out!
Coldfire - Thanx for the support
Purrplebear - Thanks for the welcome! I’m not really a newbie, I’m a long-time SD reader, and I had a hundred or so posts here before the big crash, but was pretty much a lurker. I’m still pretty much a lurker, and this was my first experience starting a thread. I think I’ll go back to lurking and just posting the odd comment. I dislike being in the spotlight! Also, thanks for the female insight, that was what I had hoped to get.
Ruffian - To answer your question, no, she’s not so much showing them off or bragging, it’s more that her and her best friend are always comparing them, comparing bras (they complain now that they have trouble finding bras that fit, I find that very ironic). I probably should have mentioned that they’re nurses (not at the plastic surgeon’s, but in the same hospital), so they deal with these things daily and it comes up in conversation a lot. Plus, they have a third friend who’s about to go under the knife.
Also, am I the only one who picked up on you saying your sister’s boobs FEEL funny? Thanks for the visual!
S. Mussberger - I send her flowers at least once a month anyway, but yes, I did apologize, almost in those exact words, after the crying incident.
Dragonblink - A pagan woman’s perspective, just what I wanted! Thank you so much! You know, that brings up another kinda ironic point. I’m pagan. She’s from a devout (dad’s a preacher) Pentacostal background (women can’t cut their hair, wear makeup, wear PANTS, shorts, etc., no dancing, so on…). She’s totally ok with my Pagan (druid) - ism, and is in a state of transition with her own beliefs. The ONE time me and her father would agree would probably be on plastic surgery. The one thing I wish she’d have adhered to from her upbringing…ahhhhg!
So folks, I guess what I really feel is that I just wish sooo much that I could have gotten here 6 months earlier to tell this girl that she’s great, and totally lovable and beautiful without big boobs. But, I didn’t, and all the wishing in the world won’t make it so, so I’m just going to try to accept them. I guess everything’s still new, hopefully as time goes on I’ll forget how real boobs feel, and it won’t matter 'cause I’m with someone I love.
Thanks!
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You need to consider that she may not have done this to make herself “lovable” to others, but because she felt so unhappy with her body the way it was. She did this for herself, not for the jerk. And she has a right to want to change her body. I guess the way I’d think of it like this, “If I were going to be alone on a desert island, would I want my (take your pick - boobs bigger, teeth straighter, skin clearer, to be thinner)”. And if this makes her happy, be glad that she’s happy.
StG
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You got perspective from more than one pagan woman. There are more of us here than you might think. 
Yes, Metalhead, I have felt my sisters’ boobs. I was dying of curiosity and she humored me (actually encouraged it). It’s not like I groped her for 5 minutes; it’s more like I touched and poked at them for about 5-10 seconds.
Of course, being the sensitive person I am :rolleyes: I spoke without thinking, just as a reaction, and said, “Wow, they’re hard!” She, of course, said “No they’re not!” By then I realized how lame I was to give voice to my thoughts and let it go at that.
And she is great and lovable and beautiful with big boobs too! That is important for a girl to know, especially one with her background.
I hope life is wonderful to the two of you.
"Please, help me deal with my girlfriend’s boobs!"
And here I thought this was going to be about cards.
The older I get, Metalhead, the more I look past the physical attributes of a person and instead concentrate on the mental and spiritual. I too hope you guys get everything straightened out.
Beg Pardon Seawitch, didn’t take your name seriously.
Blessed be!
Personally, I don’t see why any guy would have a problem having a girlfriend who makes other guys ogle her – that makes you the top dog for actually being her date, n’est pas?
No harm, MH. It’s my own fault, I guess - I didn’t get around to watching Disney’s mermaid flick until last month, but now I realize where most folks think I got my Board name.
Anyway, now that my ego is out of the way, I really was serious about comparing it to braces. (Not trying to be snotty, although it may read that way.) There are some forms of body modification that we consider “natural” and “right” - getting your teeth fixed is one of these. Pierced ears is another “acceptable” body mod. Would something like this bother you? If not, it may be as much a matter of cultural conditioning as it is personal philosophy. Just something to think about.
Exactamundo.
I love it when other men oogle and hit on my wife. It just reaffirms what I already know: she’s a hottie. Oogle all you want, guys, but at the end of the night she’s going home with me!
I just wanted to voice my support for Metalhead’s opinions. He doesn’t like fake boobs; what is there to debate about that? Some guys like big boobs, some guys are ass men, some women like nice, firm tushies; we all have our preferences, and his are no better or worse than anyone else’s. I think he does have a real, valid problem, and I don’t think he’s being shallow or misogynistic. What would be bad is if he knew he couldn’t have a lasting relationship with her because of her boobs, and led her on anyway. Since that’s not the case, I give you full cudos for looking for a way to deal with your issues in this relationship, Metalhead. Like everyone always says, that’s what relationships are about; working things out.
I’m sorry for not finishing reading all the posts, but I just had to add my 2 cents in…
Metalhead, I don’t think you’ve done ANYTHING wrong. I understand your belief against body manipulation. I mean, when I turned 13 or 14 I got my ears pierced, but I’ve since let them fill in. I wouldn’t dream of harming the rest of my body.
That’s not to say I’m attractive. There are many things I’d like to change about myself, but I feel it would be against nature. My X-bf used to talk about getting a tatoo, and I just HATED the idea.
So, I think it’s great that you’re being as understanding as you are. You obviously care a lot, since you posted this thread. It shows how much you love her and that you don’t want to lie to her. I mean, obviously you DO have to deal with it in the long run, but I just wanted to say that I understand how you’re feeling. 
Good luck babe!
There’s nothing wrong with not liking fake boobs, or with liking redheads, or with having a preference for slender Asian women who wear capri pants with flat-soled, open-heeled shoes, so you can see their gloriously sculpted calves twitching as they walk…
Ahem.
But when you get to know someone, physical attributes become less important–not UNimportant, but less so. And, while I don’t much like fake boobs either (they’re cold!), it’s theoretically no different from pierced ears, or even shaved armpits (which are also surgical alterations of one’s “natural body,” whatever that means). If you shave, you’re also altering your “natural self,” same as wearing braces or clipping your toenails. Some is necessary, some is cosmetic and elective, but we all do artificial things to alter our appearance. I don’t see it as a moral issue, really.
Not sure if that helps at all or not, but there it is, for what it’s worth.
I think you’ll get over the boob thing eventually. The older we get the more likely we are to have scars, stretch marks, moles, age spots, wrinkles, etc. Who cares? Love is so much more than individual body parts.
What disturbs me more about your OP, Metal, is the comment, “…which followed a nasty and irreparable breakup with the girl of my dreams.” You do mean “…with the girl that I thought was the girl of my dreams but turned out to be far less,” right?
If not, your current GF is at a distinct disadvantage, fake boobs or no.
Metalhead, I commend you on trying to handle this situation by seeking advice, rather than just being insensitive about it.
Here’s some advice from my pragmatic side: Focus on the parts of her body you do like. So she doesn’t have the tits of your dreams–do you love her ass? Her back? Her legs?
My boyfriend likes my breasts (he’s a breast man and mine are naturally large and well-shaped), but what really surprises me is that he’s full of compliments on my ass and thighs, which I consider to be “below average” on the attractiveness scale.
Make her breasts a non-issue in your mind and they will probably become a non-issue in hers, which means she’ll talk about them less and you can avoid uncomfortable confrontations over them.
Hope this helps.
Hello. I am a sort-of pagan. Actually, I’m a pagan deist Jew. And I’m female. I have no tattoos, and my boobs are real. Anyway…
It seems to me that there is an issue here that hasn’t been addressed.
You say:
I think the problem here is not her boobs themselves. I think you are unsure of whether your values are in alignment. You find this type of body modification “abhorrent.” She doesn’t. Perhaps you are wondering whether your love of the natural and her love of the artificial will cause you problems in the long run. Her boobs are just the most obvious manifestation of this difference.
uhm…all i have to say is, like purrrplebear, i too have suffered the ironic tragedy of having too much of a good thing (44dd and counting as of my soph year of hs–and i just graduated) and the only boyfriend i had in HS was emotionally abusive of me, knowing how insecure i felt about my appearance. to this day i am uncomfortable with anyone who’s nice to me about how i look (afraid they’re just trying to get on my good side and destroy me from there–it’s happened before, why not again?)
body modifications are just that–bodily. if no one can get past the physical, then what good is having a brain?
in any case, hope you can work out your situation, but i don’t know that much about it all…