Wrestler. As in high school/junior high wrestling. All three of his sons wrestle. In HS, John himself was a state contender, and this is in somewhat of a wrestling hotbed. He volunteered as a coach at their junior high. One son nearly won state a few years ago, the second one DID last year, and the last one was a state Jr. High champ and looks to do as well as his brothers did in high school. Not to mention that many of the kids he coached and stayed close with after they were his students, went on to high school and success. Someone told me once that he has about 14 former students that received full-rides to college for their wrestling, a couple at Big Ten schools.
His daughter, who seems to disappear in the house, is a 14 year old beauty. Could pass for 18 easily, dances like she was born to do nothing else, has a tremendous sense of humor, is outspoken and takes NO shit from her brothers.
Her best friends and their parents have more or less adopted her. Each night kind of ends with a round of “who’s got John’s girl?” phone calls. She’s welcome at any of their homes, but MUST call mom to let her know where she is. I should explain that mom works midnights so she can be home after school with the kids.
The oldest son is great, will break his back to help mom and has taken on the big brother/faux dad role, the middle one is quite concerned with himself and the last one is a cocky prick that if he wasn’t 16, I’d bust his nose.
The daughter needs some counseling as well, but she is getting it. Her parents didn’t tell any of the kids things were as grave as they were until the last couple months. They could get away with it because he really only got BAD at that point. So the kids went from ‘dad’s sick but fighting and it looks ok’, to “no dad” in a matter of weeks. And the daughter, being an only daughter was Daddy’s Princess, and took this very very hard. Not to mention that the outpouring from the rest of the community was all about John and all his boys (the kids he coached), so imagine losing your dad and hardly being recognized. Her relationship with her dad wasn’t out there on the mat and in the gym for everyone to see, it was a “just you and me kid” kind of thing, and now he’s not around.
She had, and has incredible anger issues over the whole thing, which I’m, sure doesn’t help the relationship with mom. Even now, she’s pretty quick to anger, but is reasonable and gets talked down ok. Like I said, she has good people for friends, and they all have good families, so her support system will be there for her.
ivylass, I’ll make sure and keep things updated here.
But I am NOT going to that party.