You do realise that he should totally take her one of theseif she doesn’t cancel this date, right?
Welp, she gave him the old heave-ho.
She told him “sure I’m an open person, but your question was creepy” and said not to text her again.
Poor guy is crushed. I mean, obviously it’s good to know she’s a f’n flake before he makes time to go out on a date with her, but going from “I have sexual thoughts about you” to “you’re creepy” is actually quite mean.
Ah well. He’ll never ask another girl about her underwear again, that’s for sure.
Either she’s had a terrible and unfortunate pantie incident in her past, or she’s found someone else and this is a convenient out, or she’s a bit of a nutter.
Ya think? She can talk about blowjobs w/o batting an eyelash, but undies are too personal? Christ, I’m glad I’m old. Dating mores today make no sense to me.
He’s better off w/o her. Take him out for a beer and commiserate about the fickle cold hearts of women. Where’s a wet trout when you need one? She sounds like a complete tool.
While as I on the other hand…!
Actually, it’s interesting how quickly conversation can devolve into conversation on a woman’s underwear depending on her flirt-level. But of course flirting and dating can also be mutually exclusive, and perhaps that’s what happened here. Once things get serious, the conversation is supposed to get serious?
And yet, she did answer it, before complaining about it. :rolleyes:
I can only guess that she has Underwear Issues. Like maybe some creepy guy in her past had inappropriate underwear discussions with her, and somehow your friend’s (relatively innocent) question got him put into their category in her mind.
Yeah, I told him this was probably the issue yesterday. No one can get that worked up about such a thing unless it’s a monster from their past.
He’s still taking it pretty hard. Artists - sheesh!
She’s nuts, he should run in the opposite direction.
It was a gross and stupid question. Nothing “gentlemanly” about it. Your friend sounds like a creep. How old is he, 12? You’re also only getting a second hand account of what she supposedly had said to him before that.
Only got his word for it about the underwear question too. Are you getting therapy for these issues you have? :rolleyes:
I wouldn’t let her have the last word on this. If I were him I’d have to send one final text pointing out how she had no problem discussing BJ’s, porn and pubic hair, but shutting him out for merely mentioning underwear reflects a real disconnect, and maybe she should have her head examined.
How do you type with boxing gloves on?
Yeah, I’m the crazy one. It’s perfectly normal to ask strange women what kind of underwear they have on.
There are ways to discuss BJ’s and porn without making it personal or flirty. We don’t have any context for how those subjects came up. And he didn’t just mention underwear, he asked about HER underwear, which is creepy and inappropriate without any kind of previously established foundation for that kind of intimacy.
What they said.
Is this really how he phrased it? Sounds… sort of off.
If it really did go down like this, yeah, she got cold feet and didn’t want things to progress any further (think of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry goes awry with dirty talk), or she was looking for a reason to flake anyway.
The OP didn’t say they talked about HER pubic hair.
I think one kind of takes that as read. You’re being silly.
I don’t think that’s a given whatsoever. Why should it be taken that way? There are any number of ways “we talked about pubic hair” can mean somthing other than “she told me about her vag.” For instance, we are talking about pubic hair in this thread, and no one is talking about their own.
So, you think they talked about how her friend likes to give blowjobs and keeps herself shaven?