Poll for totally straight people

[AHunter3]

I’m “totally straight” in the sense that until I ran across the idea from other people it would no more have occurred to me that I could have sex with another male than it would have occurred to me that I could eat with my nose instead of my mouth. (I can find males cute and attractive, but it lacks a certain “hmm bring that over here, yummy”)

The way I learned of the existence of gay males and gay sex was by being angrily called names I did not understand, “fag” and “fruit” and “pansy” and stuff like that, and experiencing that all interwoven with threatened and real violence. I can distinctly remember thinking “It sounds more like what they want to do to me” and being outraged and resentful that they were somehow blaming me for this. Excuse me, I’m not doing a damn thing, you guys are coming at me and prodding and snapping and messing with me and my stuff. Trying to stick your dick in me would fit right in with the rest of it, and you accuse me of having a sexual thing for guys?

So because that’s how I got introduced to the concept, the way I felt about gay sex was all wound up with hate and violence and making people do disgusting things in order to humiliate them, so of course yecch!

I can’t say that I don’t have any residual carry-over from that, but mostly I don’t think I feel aversive about it these days.

[Pedro]

Straight male. Gay sex is something I wouldn’t try but I’m somewhat indifferent to it. Something I do find disgusting though is two men “cuddling”.

If I may, there is another angle to the OP. The idea that, if a man is straight but bi-curious most women will be turned off knowing that, whereas if a woman is straight but bi-curious most men will be highly turned on.

[John_Carter_of_Mars]

@Vetch

In a relationship I want to be the only prick there.

Just making sure that this wonderful line doesn’t go un-noticed. You rock, Vetch.

[Loopydude]

I don’t know how to put this delicately, so what the hell: The idea of me sucking dick elicits a strong negative response. I could probably do all the other stuff in a dispassionate manner, but the skin flute is an instrument I do not ever intend to play. In fact, I have such a hard time with the whole notion I actually have pangs of guilt when I most fervently desire some oral pleasure from my wife. That she occasionally obliges such desires with what I can only describe as unbridled enthusiasm is (beyond being a thing of almost boundless joy for me), completely mysterious.

Now, my wife is a bit like me: We get lots of enjoyment out of having tab A inserted into slot B, but for sheer orgasmic intensity, nothing gets her off like a good muff dive. We’ll happily do it missionary-style 'til judgement day, but for those occasions where a really mind-blowing (ahem) orgasm is in order, nothing works like oral.

The mere thought of getting her nose near a lady’s naughty bits makes my wife gag. She’s about the most un-bi-curious woman I’ve ever been with (having dated a bisexual in the past, this is, I must confess, a teeny disappointment, but one easily compensated for :D). She doesn’t even like to watch women going at it (I’m just baffled at that). She could kiss, suck boob, maybe even finger, all while stubbornly unaroused, but ixnay on the alorlay.

My hypothesis is: If you sincerely can’t handle the idea of doing homo oral at a visceral level, you’re way straight. Maybe it’s a useful “litmus test”, I dunno.

[yojimbo]

@curly chick

A friend of mine said that to me once (not that you’re not a friend of mine, I hasten to add!!) and I asked him had he thought that if he was engaged in those same activities with another man, instead of with a woman, would he feel as delighted at the prospect of taking the part of the “woman” - for want of a better word-?

He looked at me as if I was entirely mad. It had never occured to him that he might not be the “man” in the scenario. I’m not saying you are the same as him, but when you said there that you couldn’t see how it could be different reminded me of him.

Nah, I was basically just talking about men doing it rather than man/woman. The idea of taking it in the arse doesn’t disgust me at all it just doesn’t really interest me. I don’t think I’d kick Kylie out of the bed if she came at me with a strap on though once I could return the action

[Marley23]

Sex with another guy sounds gross to me, no offense intended to anyone who’s into that sort of thing.

[Guinastasia]

@Red Stilettos

female, straight: I can remember a few times in my life, mostly with a few drinks in me, that I was attracted to a woman. But the attraction never really took an overtly sexual turn. It was more, “damn, she’s gorgeous. I can’t take my eyes of of her.” I have no interest in having any sort of physical relationship with a women. I don’t, however, find it disgusting. If I did, how could I ever expect a man to do the same thing and like it? I’ve never understood that double standard.

Yeah, pretty much. It’s kind of titillating in the abstract, but let’s think about it. Hmmm…okay, yeah, Kate Winslet, she’s gorgeous. So we’re both naked, and we have breasts…hmmm. Hmmm…uh huh. Well, let’s see there. Hmmmm…so then this goes, and it’s like…huh.

Damn-this is hard! I’d rather think about Ewan McGregor!

So there you have it-trying to even fantasize about it, in detail, is too much work for me. It just doesn’t feel “right”, or “natural”, to me.*

So count me with the "interesting IDEA in passing, but actually going through with it? Nope. Too bad-it would be kinda fun to be bi, I think.

*[sub]Note-I’m not saying homosexuality itself isn’t natural, just that for me to engage in homosexual acts would be unnatural, because I’m not wired that way. Although when I was twelve, a couple of my friends and I used to feel each other up and pretend we were with guys we liked or whatever. But even then, it felt too weird and kinda squicky.[/sub]

@Pedro

If I may, there is another angle to the OP. The idea that, if a man is straight but bi-curious most women will be turned off knowing that, whereas if a woman is straight but bi-curious most men will be highly turned on.

WHOA!!! Back that horse up there! Apparently you’ve never heard of slash fic.

[taxi78cab]

@yosemite

Same here. My thoughts never even stray to contemplating the female nether bits. I think of breasts and screeech! No breasts, other than mine, should be involved. That would be too many breasts. A dealbreaker right there. No need to think any further.

But for other people want to do, hey, that’s fine. None of my business, don’t care, don’t want to watch, yadda yadda.

Same here.

And this:

@Loopydude

The mere thought of getting her nose near a lady’s naughty bits makes my wife gag.

I will disagree with **Pedro **though. I’m very turned on by my bi boyfriend, his descriptions of past gay experiences, and his gay porn. I don’t know how common this is, but *some *women are into having bi-curious or bi-experienced guys. YMMV and all that.

[Anaamika]

@Pedro

If I may, there is another angle to the OP. The idea that, if a man is straight but bi-curious most women will be turned off knowing that, whereas if a woman is straight but bi-curious most men will be highly turned on.

I think not! I love slash fic and find guy-on-guy action quite hot.

[Kizarvexius]

Yet another stright male here.

When I was in college (a conservative Catholic university), the two guys who lived next door to me used to play the same Madonna CD at full volume every afternoon. One day I asked one of them about it, because it made it really difficult for me to study. He looked at me with a teasing leer and said that I would probably prefer the music over what I would hear if it weren’t playing. Just then it hit my poor, sheltered, conservatively-raised Catholic schoolboy mind. Bill and Slade weren’t just effeminate. They were gay. Oh my GOD! And they were going at it every afternoon right next door to me. I wasn’t the least bit concerned with the moral or theological aspects. My entire reaction could simply be summed up as “Shock and Eeeeewwww.”

That was almost fifteen years ago, and I’m no longer quite as sheltered (not to mention conservative) as back then. I have a number of gay male friends, some out-of-the-closet and others more reserved about going public. The thought of male-on-male sex no longer bothers me in the least. But I don’t see the possibility of trying it myself at any point in time because, frankly, men just don’t turn me on.

[Padeye]

I think I may have been desensitized by my brother. Once at a bar he - I was in my early 20s and he in his late teens - asked if I was all freaked out by two men who were tongue kissing. I just shrugged and said “so what” and he seemed ticked off that he couldn’t get a rise out of me. Another time we compared each other’s porn and he found big ol’ titties no more arousing that I found big ol’ dicks. He asked half in jest how I could want to do vile sex acts with women since mom is a woman too. I told him the women I was aroused by were most certainly not like mom and in any case the same could be turned around and applied to our dad.

I’m sure that at an early stage in my maturity when I was less confident in my own sexuality I would have been really uncomfortable at the thought of gay sex.

[astorian]

Not that any gay guys have expressed any desire to have sex with me (Why not? What’s wrong with me? Do I need to lose a few pounds? Sob!)…

But the idea holds absolutely no appeal for me. None.

Ah, but what if a gay Robert Redford made me an Indecent Proposal. Could I overcome my revulsion for 10 minutes, for a sufficient amount of money?

Uh, no. There ain’t enought money anywhere.

[Spoke]

Straight male here. The very thought of gay sex gives me the willies, so to speak. Definite revulsion.

Live and let live, though. Doesn’t bother me if others are into that sort of thing.

[Lobsang]

Even being too close to another male makes me uncomfortable. I find the thought of sex with another man repulsive and difficult to contemplate. I wish all the girls at my old high-school knew this

[Pedro]

I may well be completely wrong but it would take a bit more to convince me. First I wasn’t talking about watching two guys going at it, but more like a dating situation (like taxi’s). Second I did say most, as as been my overwhelming experience. But my real life experiences may not translate well to the SDMB. My opinion is that most women find dominant males attractive and a man’s bisexuality works against that.

Third, I do not wish to hijack Priceguy’s thread. I viewed my “theory” as another side of the same coin but maybe it should belong in another thread (as he sees fit).

[Inigo_Montoya]

Hetero male. Somewhere between “Eeeew!” and “Doesn’t strike me as something I’d like to try.” I tend to lean more towards “Eeeew!” Haven’t met the right guy yet, I guess.

Not at all interested in seeing 2 guys get it on, only interest in seeing 2 ladies get it on is the opportunity of seeing two wimmin nekkid at the same time.

[SusanStoHelit]

I’m 100% straight, AFAIK, and I have no interest in dating women IRL. I have girlfriends that I will cuddle with (if I just need a warm, unthreatening body), but the idea of actually touching them sexually does nothing for me. I really, really, really like men and their smell and their kissing styles and their… um equipment.

But… my sex dreams tend to have women in them as often as men.
Go figure.

[Anaamika]

I started a thread some time ago, asking if anyone else ever felt any physical attraction to their own sex. I was quite surprised when the answer came back as a resounding “NO!” Having felt it myself, and not having felt out of the ordinary in any way, I was surprised to realize it was, indeed, a rare thing.

[anu-la1979]

Straight female, have no inclination to do it, do not find it disgusting.

I also tend to “look” at female bodies a lot more than I stand around gaping at men but there has never been any sexual attraction or desire to see the woman naked etc… I have no idea what the deal is with that…I think it’s more of a basis for comparison-or objective interest in how much women’s bodies vary. I do it a lot more since my whole weightloss (went from a 6 to a 4 b/c of parental pressure). However, I’ve always been attracted to men, when one catches my eye, I do wonder about sex, nakedness etc. etc all forms of infatuation, temporary/long-lasting have been with men and I only fantasize about men…

[Cervaise]

Me = totally straight male. No inclinations toward bisexuality at all. Women for me. Well, now, woman. You know what I mean.

I’m also a “live and let live” guy. Do whatever you want with whomever you want as long as everyone involved is willing. I have gay friends and lesbian friends and I’ve hung out with various combinations of variously oriented people at a wide variety of establishments with pansexual clientele.

And yet… it bothered me that I had such a strong negative reaction whenever I tried to entertain thoughts of my own participation in sex with another man. I consider myself as far from homophobic as it’s possible for a straight guy to be, but I still got the skin-crawlies when trying to imagine myself having a gay encounter of any sort.

(I did kiss a guy once. Drunk, of course. A fellow actor, also straight, also drunk. One of those things. I found it distinctly unpleasant: rough, prickly, lips and tongue much more muscular than a woman’s. And the scent of aftershave. Ick.)

In trying to sort out my reaction, I went so far as to borrow a gay-porn tape from a friend, not to try to jerk off to it, but just to see whether I could look at it and deal with the shuddering feelings it gave me. The tape was Giancarlo Delivers, for anyone keeping score.

I got about halfway through it, and I just couldn’t look at it any more. I still don’t know if I should be worried I’m not the one-hundred-percent-progressive metrosexual male I aspire to be, but whatever. If it’s a failing, it’s a minor one.

Incidentally, this also clarified in my mind at least part of my lack of interest in girl-on-girl scenes in mainstream porn (being discussed in the “would you want your woman to get a lap dance?” thread). I’m straight, I have no interest in being with a man, I presume the straight women in porn have similar reactions to a stronger or lesser degree and wouldn’t be doing these things with other women if they weren’t getting paid, so I can’t get past the sheer artificiality of straight women performing such acts just for a buck.