Poll for totally straight people

[Martin_Hyde]

@Cervaise

Me = totally straight male. No inclinations toward bisexuality at all. Women for me. Well, now, woman. You know what I mean.

I’m also a “live and let live” guy. Do whatever you want with whomever you want as long as everyone involved is willing. I have gay friends and lesbian friends and I’ve hung out with various combinations of variously oriented people at a wide variety of establishments with pansexual clientele.

And yet… it bothered me that I had such a strong negative reaction whenever I tried to entertain thoughts of my own participation in sex with another man. I consider myself as far from homophobic as it’s possible for a straight guy to be, but I still got the skin-crawlies when trying to imagine myself having a gay encounter of any sort.

(I did kiss a guy once. Drunk, of course. A fellow actor, also straight, also drunk. One of those things. I found it distinctly unpleasant: rough, prickly, lips and tongue much more muscular than a woman’s. And the scent of aftershave. Ick.)

In trying to sort out my reaction, I went so far as to borrow a gay-porn tape from a friend, not to try to jerk off to it, but just to see whether I could look at it and deal with the shuddering feelings it gave me. The tape was Giancarlo Delivers, for anyone keeping score.

I got about halfway through it, and I just couldn’t look at it any more. I still don’t know if I should be worried I’m not the one-hundred-percent-progressive metrosexual male I aspire to be, but whatever. If it’s a failing, it’s a minor one.

Incidentally, this also clarified in my mind at least part of my lack of interest in girl-on-girl scenes in mainstream porn (being discussed in the “would you want your woman to get a lap dance?” thread). I’m straight, I have no interest in being with a man, I presume the straight women in porn have similar reactions to a stronger or lesser degree and wouldn’t be doing these things with other women if they weren’t getting paid, so I can’t get past the sheer artificiality of straight women performing such acts just for a buck.

That’s a pretty stupid thing to be worried about. You’re attracted to what you are attracted to and you’re disgusted by what you’re disgusted by. I don’t think these are decisions you make.

Some men are into anal sex with women, some find that just as disgusting as anal sex with a man. Some men are into sex with animals, lots of people find that disgusting.

Some people find cheese revolting.

As long as the fact that you don’t find something appealing doesn’t translate into you treating the person cruelly, or unfairly, or in a discriminatory manner it’s not a problem at all. Most gay men I know don’t watch heterosexual porn and express some mild disgust when they see it.

[panache45]

@Loopydude

My hypothesis is: If you sincerely can’t handle the idea of doing homo oral at a visceral level, you’re way straight. Maybe it’s a useful “litmus test”, I dunno.

No, it’s not. There are many of us totally gay guys who “can’t handle the idea of doing homo oral” either.

[Tastes_of_Chocolate]

@paulberserker

And don’t forget your right to use every given opportunity to bore people to death with the fact you’re transgendered/sexual/whatever.

She didn’t mention it, others did. So just grow up.

[Dunderman]

By my reckoning, that’s 57 total unique responders in the poll.

Of the 35 men, 17 found the idea of gay sex disgusting/revolting, 14 found it merely uninteresting and 4 were in the middle or difficult to cathegorize.

Of the 22 women, 6 found the idea of gay sex disgusting/revolting, 15 found it merely uninteresting and 1 was in the middle or difficult to cathegorize.

My hypothesis doesn’t appear to be too far off, but I did expect, based on personal experiences, more straight men to find gay sex disgusting. This is probably due to the board’s composition.

[Anaamika]

@Priceguy

By my reckoning, that’s 57 total unique responders in the poll.

Of the 35 men, 17 found the idea of gay sex disgusting/revolting, 14 found it merely uninteresting and 4 were in the middle or difficult to cathegorize.

Of the 22 women, 6 found the idea of gay sex disgusting/revolting, 15 found it merely uninteresting and 1 was in the middle or difficult to cathegorize.

My hypothesis doesn’t appear to be too far off, but I did expect, based on personal experiences, more straight men to find gay sex disgusting. This is probably due to the board’s composition.

I suppose I am the one difficult to categorize? I’m honored.

[Dunderman]

@Anaamika

I suppose I am the one difficult to categorize? I’m honored.

Actually, you’re in the “merely uninteresting” cathegory. Would you say that I cathegorized you wrongly?

For everyone’s information, trublmakr is the “in the middle/difficult to cathegorize” one.

[FaerieBeth]

Straight female. I did a little experimentation just as menarche was coming around, and it was very nonthreatening. I certainly don’t find the idea of sex with another woman disgusting, and would probably entertain the idea of trying it, if a suitable opportunity presented itself. Stonebow and I have discussed the definition of “suitable” opportunity, and I don’t really know that such conditions will ever be met.

Like Anaamika, there are all kinds of things I want to try before I’m slid under the broiler.

[Anaamika]

@Priceguy

Actually, you’re in the “merely uninteresting” cathegory. Would you say that I cathegorized you wrongly?

For everyone’s information, trublmakr is the “in the middle/difficult to cathegorize” one.

While I would disagree with my classification as “uninterested” since I do want to try it and at least one one occasion have actually thought about trying it with one female,

I do agree that **trublemakr ** is the difficult one to categorize.

[Dunderman]

@Anaamika

While I would disagree with my classification as “uninterested” since I do want to try it and at least one one occasion have actually thought about trying it with one female,

If you actively want to try it I’d classify you as disqualified from participating in the poll, since that would make you not totally straight.

[Anaamika]

@Priceguy

If you actively want to try it I’d classify you as disqualified from participating in the poll, since that would make you not totally straight.

But I *am * straight. I haven’t found anyone (other than the one girl, and she was out of the question) whom I wanted to try it with. Most girls I look at, and go, “Meh.”

Or I guess I’m not sure what my orientation would be called. I like guys, though.

[Dunderman]

@Anaamika

But I *am * straight.

You’re straight, but you’d like to have sex with a person of the same sex? I really don’t mean to be snarky, and I kind of understand where you’re coming from, but you sound bi-curious at the very least.

[Anaamika]

@Priceguy

You’re straight, but you’d like to have sex with a person of the same sex? I really don’t mean to be snarky, and I kind of understand where you’re coming from, but you sound bi-curious at the very least.

Yes, but since when does possibly bi-curious=bi? Or did I miss a memo?

[Dunderman]

@Anaamika

Yes, but since when does possibly bi-curious=bi? Or did I miss a memo?

Not so much a memo as post #1 in this thread:

This poll is for the completely straight-as-a-very-straight-thing people. No bi-curiousness in here, no sir.

[Anaamika]

@Priceguy

Not so much a memo as post #1 in this thread:

Hmm. If you ask me, I’ll say straight. I think of myself as straight. I am attracted to guys.

But you’re right, perhaps I shouldn’t be in this thread.

[Dunderman]

@Anaamika

Hmm. If you ask me, I’ll say straight. I think of myself as straight. I am attracted to guys.

And I’m not one to have any opinion whatsoever on how you identify, or your sexual orientation. I’m just saying that if you actively want to have sex with a woman (whether or not you have actually found the right woman yet), I shouldn’t use you as a data point in the poll.

[Anaamika]

Then count me in as “wandered in the wrong thread by mistake” if you wish.

[Merkwurdigliebe]

@Mississippienne

Straight female here.

I’ve got a lot of lesbian friends. A lot. I could probably take over a small South American country with my lesbian army. And my friends are all beautiful, sexy, desirable women. Several of them have expressed more than a friendly interest in me. I have a standing offer of the Hottest Lesbian Sex, Ever ™ from one.

I’ve sometimes thought that it was a shame that I wasn’t gay/bi, because if I was most of my relationship problems would be solved. But I just can’t get into the idea of having sex with a woman. I can appreciate a woman on an aethestic level, even find her sexy, but once it moves from the realm of the theoretical to the possible, my enthusiasm just dies. Bluh. Deader than a doornail.

wait a sec…

I live in the same state…

uh… So… lesbians you say?

Sorry that just blew my mind that there were hot lesbians making out in my vicinity

[LouisB]

Male, straight. I find the idea of rectal intercourse disgusting, be it with man, woman, or beast.
YMMV. The idea of digital / oral stimulation is not disgusting but I can’t picture myself with another man.

[Jman]

Straight male here. The thought of having sex with another man is thoroughly unappealing, and is not something I could bring myself to do unless horrible bodily harm was to come to me or my family. Passionately kissing another man gives me more heebie jeebies than sex. I don’t think I could do it. It would just feel so, well, ugh.

I don’t particularly like watching gay couples together, but it certainly doesn’t bother me. I also have no problems hearing about my gay friends with their SO. (As long as they don’t go into graphic detail…I really don’t need to hear that about anyone). I have no problem whatsoever with two guys (or girls) having sex or making out or whatever, but it’s not something I ever want to try.

[Dob]

straight male here. and yup, cant abide the thought of man on man sex, no matter whats involved i.e. oral, anal, hand…etc. Unless it’s Brad Pitt…I mean im not gay, but should anyone one guy be that damn good looking?