but feels sufficiently well to get erections which he can’t reach. The frustration is driving him crazy.
Ladies: Do him a favor?
Gay men: same question (he’s gay, too)
Straight guys: Consider asking a trusted female friend (to both of you) the same question?
Consider several answers and conditions under which you would say yes or no, e.g., you might say yes if you were unattached to anyone else but not if you had an SO, you’d say no but agree to ask another trusted friend, you’d say only if you were sure he understood once he’s better it’s all over, etc.
Me, I’d be up for it (am bi male) although I’d ask Ms. Malienation first (she’d say yes). If he were a straight friend, I’d try to find a female friend to (ahem) lend a hand (would say yes if Ms. Malienation wanted to give it a go).
I only have one friend who would legitimately ask me this question. And knowing the relationship we have, my answer to help him would be no. But, I would tease him abuot it relentlessly with jokes and pornography. He has a long term gf though who could help him.
Answering as a straight female:
Sorry, but I don’t think I’d be willing to…lend a hand to someone who was just a friend.
But, hey, I do feel sorry for the dude being so frustrated, so I guess I might offer to help him control the urge by bringing in really mood-killing pictures (how about my medical textbook with the decidedly unsexy photo of an elderly man’s bedsore-plagued scrotum?) or pour a bucket of cold water on him.
Yeah, and you know there are always hospital employees popping in and out regularly. I volunteer at a local hospital twice a week and I’d HATE to walk in on THAT situation while delivering flowers!
