I’ll be the negative here… I was cheating on my GF with an ex-GF and by mistake called my ex-GF by the current GF name. Fuck… did I take flak for that. She still bickers about it… and she isn’t my GF !
I have a bad feeling about this... I think you better explain yourself... even if indirectly. Don't make a big case ... but make she is sure your sorry for the mistake. Again it depends on how well she deals with stuff. (My ex-GF didn't deal well with jealousy)When my brother started dating his current girlfriend, Erica, our mom called her by the name of his ex, Angie. It wasn’t too bad the first time, because she didn’t know his ex. But after mom did it, I did it on accident, and then it took me forever to really get her name.
I don’t know what the hell is wrong with us. My brother nearly killed us, and all we could do was giggle and keep getting the name wrong. :smack:
My SO’s cousin’s first husband’s name was Brent. Her second husband’s name is Bret. It came up in a recent discussion with the family that everyone just tries to avoid calling husband #2 by name, in fear of letting the wrong name slip.
I called my husband by my ex’s name once, fairly early on in our relationship, and his mother called me by his ex-GF’s name once. Fortunately neither of us have a problem with jealousy, because we’re mature, self-confident adults, and it was no biggie at all.
wasson, I would apologize to new-sorta-GF with the explanation of the email. Then I would take her to dinner and start an official relationship with her, because you obviously care for her.
My dad has a little sister who looked almost just like me when she was younger. I am very used to being referred to as “Aunt” and she “Little Bird.” We don’t even bother to correct him anymore. Of course, this comes from the family where every noun was a “thingy,” " doohickey," or “um,” snap fingers point. 
Is it that simple? 
I don’t have the ex-SO problem, but I am called by my husband on occassion, 'Oma" (his mom) or by his sisters name.
My mom refers to me as every female in her life but my name. so I got that going for me.
Apparently she had sufficient reason.
If only it were that easy.
None of my friends or GFs ever minded that much. I’m absolutely terrible with names and will often just throw in a name or other noun that has nothing to do with anything at all when trying to say their name. If anything, they tend to find it more surreal than annoying. Oh well.
My GFs have called me God sometimes. Doesn’t bother me at all. (Oh God, oh god, oh god, oh god…)
My mom calls people by the wrong name all the time, and my brother and I seem to’ve inherited it somewhat. At a party with my brother and his friends, I once called his gf by his ex’s name; all his friends thought it was a terrible faux-pas, but my brother shrugged it off because he knows that we’re prone to it. From this:
it sounds like you’re prone to name confusion, too. If she knows that you tend to get names switched, then it’s probably no big deal.
My mom calls me by the dog’s name sometimes and she doesn’t even notice or feel particularly sorry about it. 
I’d apologize if it bothers you but otherwise wouldn’t think a rational person would make a big deal out of it.
It seems to be - maybe I’m missing something.
Okay, wasson, we need an explanation now - why isn’t it easy to make your sorta-girlfriend your real girlfriend? Are you Edda and Amos?
I made a thread about my “situation” about 6 months ago, but I’m far too lazy to dig it up. My sorta-girlfriend (SGF from here on out) got really wasted one night and confessed that she was in love with me. I, naturally, have strong feelings for her as well. The problem is that SGF played “the other woman” to one of my best friends as he cheated on his girlfriend (and this best friend gets married to that very same girlfriend in about 2 weeks and I’m the best man).
I’ve always been one of those guys who won’t date a buddy’s ex. Loyalty is the main reason, but pride is a close second. But I do feel strongly enough about SGF to pursue it. The other problem is that I’m terrible at dealing with exes. I basically can never, ever talk to them again. If things didn’t work out between me and SGF (and I can’t see why they wouldn’t, but just sayin’), then our friendship would also be over. I wouldn’t be able to watch her date other dudes. I’m not nearly mature enough for that. We’ve been friends for about 15 years now (we’re 25 and 24), and I’d hate to see that happen.
In the meantime, we flirt like mad, go to weddings and company outings with each other, and make out when we drink. It’s okay for now, but getting a bit old. Hopefully after the wedding of my friend that will get rid of a big chunk of awkwardness with dating the his “ex”… we’ll just have to see.
Yeah, you will have to decide at some point. I don’t know if the guy code considers her an ex if she was cheating with your friend - that’s not the same as exclusive girlfriend.
I dated a Gene, a John, and a Jeremy consecutively. Though I never made a mistake in bed, I would sometimes go wrong in fast paced conversation. No one much cared.
I’ve already decided SGF is worth it. She knows I’m interested. Its up to both of us to make the jump into coupledom… it’ll come.
Anyway, SGF and I went out to dinner last night, and she brought up the name mix up. Again, it was kind of as a joke, but the fact that she brought it up again probably showed she was thinking about it on and off. I told her about the email I had gotten a few hours earlier and was discussed the various ways to handle my response to the ex. It seems like its over and dealt with. We’ll see if she uses the ammo later.