The long story: I have a very, very good friend who is basically like a girlfriend, although we haven’t made the leap into coupledom yet. We confess our feelings to each other and make out when we drink, but otherwise we’re just great friends.
Just now she called me at work, and I called her by my ex’s name. She laughed it off and we continued the conversation, but I got the impression she wasn’t pleased. My ex and I have been split up for almost a year.
It’s not like I think of my ex constantly or anything. Far from it. She moved thousands of miles away and I haven’t spoken to her since the break up. The new “girlfriend” knows this. What she doesn’t know is that my ex broke the silence and emailed me today to catch up, and it threw me off-guard and has been occupying my thoughts for a while since I read the email.
So my question… Do I owe “new girlfriendish girl” an explanation? Have I done damage to her and my possible relationship by this blunder? Would telling her about the email I got be a good move or a stupid move?
Has anyone else done this/had it done to them? Is it horribly offensive? I’ve never had the pleasure of it myself…