This thread asked what is the proper number of dates a couple should go on before having sex.
A small minority said they thought it was best to wait until marriage before having sex, which prompted one poster to state the following:
Now, I have a theory that those people who didn’t wait for marriage before having sex put a lot more emphasis on sex than those who do wait. In other words, if you had “great sex” before getting married you expect to keep having it, whereas if you fall in love with somebody to the point of wanting to marry them without ever having sex with them, the quality of the sex isn’t really an issue.
So anyway, what say you all? Please state whether you think that sex is an important part of marriage (and by “important” I mean that you would not be happy staying with your spouse in the absence of good sex) and whether or not you had sex before marriage or waited to get married.
[And just for the record, I’m getting married in a couple of months to a woman I love deeply, we’ve both been saving ourselves for marriage, and I really have no idea if the sex is going to be good, bad, or indifferent. I certainly hope it will be great, but I’d also like to think that it won’t mater if it isn’t.]