Let’s see: a couple of hours at the party where I met her, about an hour and a half when she came to visit me in the hospital a week later when I busted myself up good, two or three hunt-and-peck emails typed with hands in casts, and a couple of hours at the after-party for her first Flamenco show … jeez, my wife was kind of easy at roughly 6 hours of face time. We’ve been together for almost 6 years now.
Discounting a few random chicks between (ranging from a couple or a few hours to a special case of about 10–15 minutes; still can’t believe that happened) my last long-term girlfriend was doing stuff within a couple of hours of meeting me, and we had sex later that night, call it about 4–5 hours. If you click, and there aren’t any real moral objections, you can end up with penis ensuing awfully quickly after meeting, it seems.
I don’t know that email shouldn’t count. The first conversation that I had with Euthanasiast was through email (he was at work where IMing is not allowed but email is fine) and that conversation lasted 4 hours and really, we’ve been talking ever since. I would say our total hours together, face time and talking via email and phone was probably close to 360 hours. I’d say three hours a day for 4 months? Some days we talked a bit less than that but most days MUCH more.
damn. I thought I was gonna come in here and reveal that i slut myself out or something, but I should have known better given the, ahhh, liberal attitude this board has towards sex (I’m guilty too of course)
I think the absolute fastest time was an hour between actual meeting and actual penetration, may have been more like fifty minutes. Basically met in common room of house, got her and a couple friends drinks, took her back to my room for another drink and didn’t end up drinking it.
There are several that are a few hours between meeting and the start of foreplay (one would have been at least an hour faster if my dumbass friend had gotten the hint and peaced out earlier).
First time involved a somewhat long running friend, so easily 30+ hours of face time and a couple of non-penetrative hookups. No relationship resulted.
On edit: just remembered the OP technically said relationshipwise… shortest that involved a relationship is about on par with average I guess, maybe 10 hours of face time (plus phone time, maybe).
Longest: Somewhere somewhere between 1000-1500 hours. (we did the friend thing for around a year, and then dated chastely for a 1.5 yrs before our hormones got the best of us)
Shortest: About 5 hours total to get from face-to-face to belly-to-belly. In my defence, I still waited for date #2.
Average over my last few relationships has been around 10-20 hours of face time before hopping in the sack. The first one was a bit of an anomaly for me.
One year and nine months. Friends for a year, dating for five months, engaged for four months, first time for both on our wedding night. (We didn’t use a condom, though.)
My wife and I sat together in Math class in high school, and she may have liked me then, but I was oblivious.
Years later, we recognized each other in a bar and were back at her house in about four hours.
We insisted that because we hadn’t arranged ahead of time to meet each other, it didn’t count as a date, and therefore we wouldn’t be the kind of people who had sex on the first date, as long as we didn’t do it the next time. We didn’t, so we’re still “pure”.
For my last partner: an hour on the phone, plus two dates (one long, one short), I’d say 7 or 8 hours over the course of 4 days.
Going back through the last batch of dating:
2 hours
8-10 hours, or 3 dates over the course of 2 weeks
20+ hours, or 8 dates over the course of 2 months
someone I’ve known for 15 years, so it’s hard to calculate
Current LTR: First “hello” to making out: 15 minutes. Then we didn’t speak for six months. Second “hello” to kiss goodnight: 45 minutes. Lunch + phone time + date ~= 5 hours. So six-ish hours, depending on how you count third base.
My absolute, uncontested record is shy of 30 minutes. I was in a band, and it was the after party.
Would have been about 10 minutes except…you’ll see:
[Scene: Fraternity house party room. I walk in on a bunch of the guys playing beer pong with some Thetas. I make eye contact with a cute little blond almost immediately]
“Hey”
“Hey”
“Want a tour of the house?”
“Ok”
[House foyer staircase]
{ok…so how do I get this girl to my room without looking like a scumbag}
“So…where’s you’re room?”
{booya}
[My room]
“So…” knockknockknock
[her friends walk in…one who I’ve hooked up with before]
{shit}
“um…hey…you guys want some beer”
“ok…hey these are frozen!”
“oh…why don’t you go throw them in the microwave for a few seconds?”
[friends leave]
“anyway…” [begin making out] knockknockknock
[roomate walks in]
“oop!”
[explosions and screaming down the hall]
[girl runs away]
{G*D DAMN IT!!}
My husband and I were acquaintances for some time before actually getting together, but we were not a couple at all and then became a couple (you know, by doin’ it) within an eight hour period during a Memorial Day party. The rest is history.
With my current relationship, so far more than 30 years (including time spent apart). I suspect we’ll never get to that point (though we have had four children together).
Hmm. I don’t know actually hours, but our conversation (before we met in person) was around the end of November, and we waited until we were married, which was mid-September of the following year. That’s about 9 1/2 months. However, for about seven months we lived in separate cities and only saw each other two or three weekends per month. But we talked on the phone frequently.
I’m not going to add that up but you get the idea. I’d say it was the equivalent of 5 months-worth of time spent together from our first conversation until we consummated. The advantage of waiting, of course, is that we didn’t need no stinkin’ condoms.
Now that I’ve read the whole thread and know not to count time that we weren’t actually in the same room… well, it’d still be pretty high, compared to most of you. Probably a couple hundred hours. And I always thought that meeting, dating, and marrying a girl in nine months was fairly impetuous.
Don’t feel bad, Skammer. I totally blow TDN’s averages also.
I met my now husband in 1998. We hung out a lot, we even did a bunch of kissy faced stuff but I wouldn’t date him and I wouldn’t have sex with him either.
For three years.
When I finally got over my fear, he wanted to be able to date others not just me. Fine, sez I, but no sex then cuz I don’t share fluids with someone I don’t know (aka any partners he might have in addition to me).
You should have seen his face fall.
That was the third week in January. On my birthday (Feb 3), he tells me he won’t find out what he needs to know by dating around, so he wants to date just me. Oh hell yes I was laughing on the inside. He wanted to know what sex was like with me!
With all my girlfriends it’s pretty much always been by the second or third date.
Shortest: 3 hours (we met up at an afternoon party and stopped for a shag on the way to dinner). We’d known each other beforehand, but there had been no romantic overtones of any sort (at least on my end), and it was a chance meeting several months since we’d last seen each other.
Longest: about 20 hours. I’d stayed behind at my dorm during spring break and started chatting up someone online who lived in the same dorm. We’d never met but knew each others’ names and knew people in common. We hung out at a coffee shop together the next day, went to a mall for an afternoon and spent the evening watching videos the day after that, then on the fourth day went bowling with a bunch of her friends and ended up in bed together that night.
(I’m guilty too of course)