Ignore robardin. There are those like me who have massive collections and others who have a few favorites. My roommate and I are both picky about the types of porn we like and we have very different viewing habbits. If I download a porn video, I will watch it like I would a regular movie. If it appeals to me, I will keep it, if not, then I will delete it. Most of the stuff I come across does not appeal to me, so I don’t bother keeping it. Why keep stuff I’m never going to watch again?
My roommate will skip around when watching her videos. She will download a video, skip through out it, maybe watching a minute of an hour+ video. If she likes what she sees, then she will keep the video to watch at a later date, if it doesn’t appeal to her, then she will just delete it.
It’s perfectly normal to view porn, even while having a healthy sexual relationship.
This strikes me as mean. What if she watched and was trying to please you and wore a similiar outfit or did something she saw on your porn? Why is that fuel for laughter? Unless you’re porn deals with such far out stuff (no, no, don’t share it with us!) that it would be implausible to replicate in RL.
I have never tried to emulate any woman I’ve seen in a porn film, but seriously, how is this different than you wearing that cologne she gave you because she thinks it smells nice or similiar?
laugh at her? and you want to get intimate? I don’t get it. It strikes me as mean–and a bar to intimacy and /or sex.
I prefer erotica, not porn(written, not filmed) but sometimes, depending on my energy level and my self esteem, I struggle with my husband’s porn. I’ll never be into it–a tolerance is all I can muster. Strangley enough, I always like to read the Penthouse Forum as a teen–but the pics, meh. That’s just personal preference. To the OP, I say ask him about it, if you can in a way that doesn’t create defensiveness. And, as you’re sick of hearing by now–try to make sex fun again for the two of you. Sorry, lecture over. Good luck with all of this.
Eh, all guys check out porn–it means they’re alive. I only get pissy about it when I can’t listen to Pandora and all MY downloads are choking out because HE’s got fifteen different DVD length midget fourteen year old bondage cheerleader anal creampie videos downloading. Hey, have your habits by all means, dude, but DON’T step on my goddamned bandwidth! When stuff like this occurs I go right on over to his computer and hit “delete torrent AND data” which usually gets the hint across. If the files are more than 85% complete it just drives the nail home with greater firmness. I’m gone all day at work, and when I get home I expect some wide open cablemodem action, baybee!
I talked to him about it last night on the way home from work “Were you downloading something big last night?” I asked. “Yea, porn” We talked a little about it, and ended up having some nice hot sex.
I was just in a mood and it bugged me.
And Uzi…I’m not sure why you’re laughing about me saying he doesn’t hide stuff from me. I don’t know if you have ever been in a happy relationship, but he’s an honest, loving man who doesn’t lie or keep stuff from me. Of course, I offer him the same respect.
I think you misunderstand. I’m not talking about derisive laughter – I’m talking about straightforward laughing because something is funny. (Don’t you laugh in the bedroom?)
Erm – my porn is mostly Japanese stuff featuring hyper-submissive women that inexplicably have infantile voices. If she adopted the same physical attitude and started talking to me in that high voice she uses in conversation with the cat, I know damned well I would lose my shit. It cracks me up just to hear her squeak “Vousez c’est gross chat-twa!” or whatever – if it was directed at me in bed, it would simply be too funny.
There’s nothing mean in laughing at that – it’s a simple acknowledgement that the fantasy convention that works for me is just absurd and nowhere near as sexy as the three-dimensional human being that I love.
Come on, porn conventions are hilarious, if you put them in the context of actual sex. I was with a girl once who (out of the blue, long after we were totally comfortable in the bedroom) started imitating that north-american style “angry” porn, grimacing and going “Ooooh, baby, your cock is so biiiiiiiiig!” Damn straight we laughed! That shit is funny.
I don’t think I’ve managed to have a single sex session with my boyfriend during which we haven’t dissolved into giggles. Never laughing at each other, but oh boy do we laugh.
Meaning that if you are happy it is not up to me to throw my 2 cents in and jam up the works. I’m just a stranger on the internet. What the hell do I know about your situation? Nothing other than what you’ve written. I shouldn’t have made my original comment.
Hehe, I always say to friends that my wife’s nickname for me is ‘Pony boy’… Of course it could be because she considers me full of horseshit. They don’t have to know that, though!
