Jesus. Just let it go already.
I agree with that. The guy’s wife is a bitch, you can’t hang out with him, it’s a done deal, so on with life. They are dropped. Get used to it and let it go.
ETA: But come back tell us if anything exciting happens!
Thanks for keeping me in check.
Nope - I can’t get behind it. When you help a friend move, you get to take a lot of power away from her. “Hey - it takes two people to move this couch. Either shut the fuck up and let us get it up the stairs, or I’m out of here and you get to ruin your manicure.” You can blame a lot of things on the stress of the day - cussing her out, accidentally running into her when you’re carrying a box or two, leaving her on the side of the road…
Well? How was MNF? I take it he never showed up?
…backing over her with the moving van…
Hey, you’re right! I retract my previous post. You should definitely have helped the guy [del]hide the body[/del] move.
He never responded to the invite and I had to cancel due to work.
The hubby finally posted to our FB thread about MNF after I said we have many more weeks of football left. He says he’s ready to go. Interesting.
He seems to really respond to football. Maybe you should use that as a lever to pry him from his wife (or more like, pry her from him).
If he attends MNF and never brings it up, you’re off the hook. If he does bring it up and genuinely seems to be searching for answers, I stand by my advice to be honest but not cruel. No one wants to be the guy who has to tell a friend that his breath could knock over a camel. But in the long run, it’s far kinder to be honest and risk hurting his feelings, than to be silent and let him continue on oblivious as to why people are avoiding him.
And I never suggested writing an email. With interpersonal relationships, I always advise speaking in person (ideally) or picking up the phone if in-person isn’t workable. Tone and body language are good indicators that someone is taking offense, or not, and you can edit your remarks and/or steer the conversation to safe harbors as needed. You can’t do that in an email.
Of course, I doubt he’ll show up for MNF at all.
Well? It’s been three weeks, what happened?
Nothing to report really. We were all set to go to MNF but I had to cancel. In response to the cancellation, the husband wrote back saying he wanted to go. I have not had time to reschedule and no real communication has taken place since. I guess we are just doing our own things lately. No Facebook posts of note.
I sent the semi-husband a humorous video the other day with no commentary and no response back. My sending a simple video sans commentary was as if to say, “I know you are still there, and I don’t hate you, but I’m not having a big conversation with you either.”
that should be semi-humorous, not semi-husband.
Freudian slip. 
Some time ago, the nasty wife sent a Facebook note asking if we all wanted to hang out. Instead of wrestling with the awkwardness of it all, my wife wrote her back and let her know the friendship is just not working out.
Nasty wife got pissy and then they both unfriended us on Facebook. Done deal.
Well that sucks, I got all excited when I seen a new post. Thanks for the update anyway!
You said she’s been acting this way since before they got married (wedding dress over house). He knew what he was getting in to. Is he unattractive? How attractive is she?
Either way- he knew what he was getting in to. And if he allows himself to have a child with this woman he’s only getting in deeper. It’s hard to feel any sympathy for him.
I almost forgot.
I started getting trojan horse emails from him. As a favor to him, I wrote him to let him know so he can check his computer for a virus.
He didn’t respond, so I wrote a nice email to his nasty wife’s work email to let her know that she might want to protect her personal computer. She wrote back and bitched at me for writing to her at work.
The husband then got my initial email to him and he thanked me for letting him know. He was very cordial. I replied that I was sorry that the situation wasn’t handled better and said if he ever wanted to just grab a beer, just the two of us, then just let me know. I never heard back from him.
If and when he gets a divorce, maybe he’ll call.
What do they look like… she looks like a little troll, honestly. He would be a decent looking chap if he lost his big gut. He’s also previously divorced. Our theory is that he is locked into this relationship probably out of fear of having no relationship at all. My sympathy for him is based upon his apparent inability to overcome his personal insecurities and let the bitch go.
So she has absolutely no redeeming features? Physical, mental or otherwise?
Makes me question the guy’s evaluation of his own worth.
Exactly.