No bed booked!
She thought our get together would be of the “let’s get reacquainted” variety. I want it to be a casual 1st date. IMO our expectations aren’t mutually exclusive.
And the difference is ? Its a bit late for “love at first site”.
Quoting a song because its the first thing I thought of … “How can we be lovers if we can’t be friends.”
Good call! Bolton isn’t THAT bad!
This just keeps getting worse…
Oh my tuberous friend, how you make me laugh! If there were an Oscar for timing it would be yours.
We still talk, so I dunno about that.
Actually, most casual first dates usually ARE of the “let’s get acquainted” type. You’re basically getting to know each other. So I don’t know what you mean otherwise.
Earth girls are easy.
Siri wants me.
True, but both parties generally know they’re on a first date.
Her (durp)
She, her, whatever.
Well, that’s true. I just get the impression that etv is setting his sights a little higher than that, and he’s bound to be disappointed.
Yes Guin. I’d love for this to be the beginning of a relationship. I’m almost 36 (will have birthday between now and proposed get-together) and am losing my optimism of finding someone.
Why in the name of all that is good and holy would you do that? 
Cuz I’m an idiot! I’m only slightly exaggerating. I’m single for a reason.
How not to screw up on the first date when meeting somebody from your past:
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She’s not the same girl she was 20 years ago, don’t assume you know her based on how she was back then. Don’t pretend she knows you, you shouldn’t be the same person you were 20 years ago. For all intents and purposes, treat this like you’re meeting her for the first time.
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It’s ok to reminisce about the past, but the only thing you should talk about are positive memories. What teachers did you like? Where did you guys hang out? What movies were fun that you liked back then?
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Do not, under ANY circumstances, even think about bringing up drama from the school days. Good Lord man, everybody was dramatic back in school. Do not do this, you are not the same person, she’s not the same person, you do not hang out with the same people. I can’t even fathom why you’d think it would be a good idea to ask her about dramatic situations from back in the day. To do so will make her think you’ve not had any emotional growth since then.
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A girlfriend you dated in school is irrelevant to your life now. Dating a friend of an ex is only an issue when the exes still have any sort of emotional attachment. If you have brought this up as an issue already with her then yes, you’ve triggered red flags. As well you should have.
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Keep discussion of the past at a minimum. Everything else needs to be set in the present. And I can’t stress enough - a first date needs to be positive.
Frazzled-I wholeheartedly agree! In fact I mentioned the “we’re different people now” aspect. The school was small enough we had many common pals. So we have tons of common denominators to talk about.
We just Fb chatted. She was surprised to hear from me. We both want relationships, she’s uncertain I’m a match for her. (TBH, I’m OK with her not being my match) She’s busy right now, so maybe we’ll get together later this spring.