G’Day all, I’m needing some advice so please help me out, pretty please.
Apologies in advance for the length of this OP.
So problem is as follows – I don’t like my Sister-in-Law’s (SIL) new boyfriend. This wouldn’t be such a huge issue except that we (Leechboy and I) share a house with SIL and her two teenagers.
The first time I met him I thought he was a creep, he came across as a nice guy on the surface, he’s polite, can hold an intelligent conversation and everyone else liked him – there was no obvious reason for my dislike, just some gut feeling that he’s not quite right. When he shook my hand I was just all ick – kinda instant revulsion, like when you accidentally stand on a cockroach and it pops.
That was about a month ago. Since then he and my SIL have gone on dates at least twice a week and he’s been over to visit frequently. There have also been numerous family outings were he has taken her and the kids out. Try as I might I still can’t get over that initial reaction to him and now that he’s around the house more often it’s getting worse.
I really like my SIL (wouldn’t share a house with her otherwise) and whilst we sometimes disagree its usually over trivial things – two women sharing a kitchen is always fun :). When I first met the guy and before I knew she was interested in him I did mention the creepy ick factor but since then have kept my mouth shut.
He is over a lot and I can’t keep hiding in my bedroom when he comes to visit, not only is that a bit juvenile but it’s also really boring. I haven’t told my SIL how feel since that first night as I don’t want to rain on her parade. She really likes him and has told me often over the last year how she misses having a man in her life. The kids love him because he takes them out to fancy restaurants and brings over pirated movies from overseas that haven’t been release in Oz yet.
I know its early days yet but they are getting serious really quickly and he’s always around. So do I say something or not? Should I just keep quite and hope that he really is a nice guy and my instincts are wrong? I thought about maybe approaching it another way and saying that I’m missing my personal space now that she has visitors around so often. But this may be too oblique and not have the desired effect because she could take it to mean I don’t want her having visitors at all. I really don’t know what to do.
Help me please ……….