Promiscuous sexual activity--necessarily damaging to women?

[Freudian_Slit]

Well, granted, this is about a 13 year old, so I’m aware that sexual activity at that age probably isn’t the best idea. But for example, the post down here by Martin Hyde isn’t really about concern for the kid, but more about the idea that that kind of thing just makes a girl trashy, easy, etc. I guess that just disturbs me. Or the ideas espoused by msmith upthread. I can grok why (for a kid) sex is bad, I’m just curious about the attitude that she’s degrading herself, she has no self-respect, etc.

@Martin_Hyde

When I went to junior high a girl that gave BJs at age 13 was called a slut and a whore behind her back. She got attention from the dirtbag guys that just want BJs and more. After getting used by a few guys like that, the girl is completely perceived as a whore and that’s the end of it for her, she’s a whore until she graduates high school and she’ll only attract the dregs of the school population when it comes to guys. Not to mention she’ll be socially outcast from many school groups.

That’s not necessarily fair or right but that’s just how it was where I went to school. I mean, the girls that started openly having sex in HS, that was one thing (although in HS well over 50% of the guys I knew were virgins, and trust me, a guy isn’t going to say he’s a virgin to another guy unless he really is) but the girls that slept around in junior high were socially ostracized.