I just love it when people get all sanctimonious about who’s lovin’ whom. Or what.
I’m not psychologist, but I’m betting that people who exhibit more feelings for animals than humans fall into two groups: People who are extraordinarily empathic. And people who are empathy-impaired (though, of course, not completely).
The first group feels everything intensely. They are the people you see bawling on TV whenever there’s a mass shooting a thousand miles away. They don’t necessarily grieve more over individual animals than individual humans. But because animal abuse and death is much more common than human abuse and death (or at least more visible), it just looks like they care more. If you’re one of these extremely compassionate people, you’re going to be hurt just seeing someone eating a hamburger. See someone tug just a little too hard on their dog’s leash? You’re gonna feel anger. You can’t help it. It’s just how you are.
Then there’s the other side of the coin. The people who don’t feel as much. People perplex them with their complex emotions and reactions. It’s hard for these folks to relate and to empathize with others. But they aren’t total robots. They can still feel pain and happiness and love. Animals, especially domesticated ones, not only feel these things too, but they exhibit them in a simple way unadulterated by ulterior motives and deceit. A low-empath can understand a cat or a dog, so they gravitate towards them because they fill that emotional void that would otherwise be occupied by loneliness and hopelessness. Their social difficulties almost guarantee that bond will be closer than the one they form with humans. They can’t help it. It’s just how they are.
I don’t know why the existence of either of these groups should engender feelings of concern or disgust, though I understand how individuals could be annoying. Personally, I can’t fault anyone for feeling how they feel. I can’t help how I feel, so how in the world could I expect someone else to? The only thing people can help is how they verbalize their preferences. If you hear me talking about my cat, I don’t wanna hear how much you hate cats. And I’d prefer you not tell me how much you love your dog over people, because I’m “people” and I don’t think I’m that bad. But I can’t possibly see how it helps anyone or anything to judge someone because they didn’t cry loud enough for your liking. I’ve heard of the thought police. Feeling police is worse, IMHO.