I’m only putting this thread in the pit out of FEAR that it will take an ugly turn…but I honestly have some questions and without anyone accusing me of being a bigotted bitch, I want you to know, in the words of Bloom County:
Lord knows…I cherish gay people.
OK, no. Here’s my question:
What IS, exactly, Gay culture, and what is so different about it that I am unable to understand it? I’m told that the purpose of the proposed “Queerdope” is so that you can get together and celebrate gay culture. And yet, no one is able to tell me what exactly that is. Or rather, what aspects of it are unable to be shared with straight friends. I love to go to museums, parades, film festivals. I like to go out to eat and drink. I like to talk about sex and flirt and go shopping. I like to do touristy things…I mean…what am I missing?
All my life, I’ve strived to tell the conservative, close minded, idiot people who are ‘scared’ of gay people that “they’re just like you and me” “they like movies and music and going to ball games and they have jobs and families and going to Chilis for an awesome blossom.” The only difference between us is what they do in the bedroom.
Today, as I peruse the boards, I’m learning that indeed there IS a gay culture and scott evil assures me that it’s because they are ‘different’ and they want to ‘celebrate’ the differences. That gay pride parades are for homosexuals to celebrate their differences from us.
So…we’re not…the same? What IS gay culture? Aside from the man/man woman/woman sex…I betcha we’ve got a lot in common.
Which brings me to The Cellblock…a leather bar in chicago that will not allow women in unless they have a gay male escort. I don’t think this is fair. I don’t know any straight leather bars in Chicago. I don’t know where I can watch some hot D/s in action…and yet…they feel it’s not right for me to go in. Nor do I think it’s fair that women are asked to leave The Manhole, a gay dance club. Would it be fair for ‘straight bars’ to kick out gay men and women because they make us ‘uncomfortable’? I’m confused as to why I’m not allowed to even go in to a bar and dance with gay men. It’s not like I’m going to scatter Jack Chick tracts around.
I’ve tried to word this as delicately as I can. I don’t know how to say that I “love gay people” without sounding false. I attend the parades, I go to Halsted market days…I go on double dates with gay men…I interact with them in the same manner as I do with anyone else.
I guess it just hurts my feelings that I’m excluded from things because homosexuals automatically assume that I won’t ‘understand’ them, when really I’ve been striving for a long time to make them feel comfortable and welcome.
Does that make sense?
tell me if it doesn’t, I’m on back pills today