So, when you’ve, like, got the hots for someone and then you go and blurt out something really stupid, will they remember you for your charm and wit, or for that one random -shit-what-was-I-thinkin’ comment?
Thanks in advance.
I like to think that the guy won’t remember, but lord knows, every stupid thing I’ve said tortures me while I relive it over and over.
Could just be my paranoia though.
I think you’d be fine, as long as you wipe it from your memory. It may have been stupid to you, but chances are it isn’t something the object of your affection is going to dwell on. Just don’t dwell on it yourself.
In my experience, most people shrug that sort of thing off; it’s neither endearing nor repulsive. If it’s a largish faux pas, I think you might lose some ‘sociability points’ with your object of affection, which could lead to them classifying you into the “slightly odd” category. They might have certain expectations when they run into you next time, but that’s it. You can win those points back by being friendly and blunder-free as you get to know each other better.
Lots of people say that individuals are too fixated on themselves such that other people’s behavior doesn’t resonate all that much. We’re our own worst critics and it’s incredibly hard to make someone write you off as a loony by saying one single odd thing.
It might help if we know what was said. What you deem “stupid” might be quite the opposite; or it could be worse… Either way, more details would help.
It depends on what you say and who you say it too (and how hot you are).
I learned a long time ago that a girl will either like you or not like you. For the most part if they like you, any stupid thing you say will largely be regarded as just goofyness or a rough edge that needs to be smoothed out. If they don’t like you, it doesn’t matter what you say or do, it will be considered a nusaince.
For guys, pretty much the only things you have to worry about blurting out that will kill the deal is “no”, “you’re like a brother/friend/etc” or pretty much anything that can be construed as complaining or makes you look psycho.
Doesn’t anyone watch Sex in the city?
I say forehead-slappingly stupid things all the time. Generally speaking, people who want to get in my pants laugh it off and people who don’t, don’t.
As long as you aren’t being cruel, don’t worry too much about what you say.
Depends if they like you or not. If they like you , they will think anything you say is cute and endearing. If they dont like you , or are not attracted to you , nothing you say or how you say it, will make a difference.
After asking so many girls out , you get to notice what works and what does not.
Declan
Been there, done that LolaCocaCola! In the short term I think that as has been said, if they fancy you they will either find it cute, or shrug it off, or at worst consider you a little odd (depending on what you said). What might help, and mebbe even be a sweet line is to mention to them next time you see them that you tend to babble when you are nervous, that tips them off that they make you nervous, and also that you are not generally a foot-in-mouth kinda girl.
Crap, submitted too soon, I meant to say that you should absolutly not mention the specific dopey thing you said! Don’t say like “Sorry I implied your grandmother was a hooker last week, you make me nervous”, more like say it in conjunction with the next time you babble/say something dumb/ get tonguetied whatever.
Mmmmm… tonguetied…
Depends on the other person and what you said.