When you think of the person you are infatuated and/or in lust with, do you imagine something sexual, generally romantic, or something else?
Sex please.
Male in mid20s.
This was meant to be a poll. Stupid SDMB.
When you think of the person you are infatuated and/or in lust with, do you imagine something sexual, generally romantic, or something else?
Definitely sexual. The women I’m “after” – not in a perv way, just interested in – tend to be pretty, smart, and not afraid to talk to me about innocuous stuff (books, movies, whatever). I can imagine myself being tender and caring towards them in various ways, but only after they’ve proved themselves worthy of being a woman about whom I’d caren-- through their tenderness and caring dispositions (I don’t mean about me, necessarily, but if they did wrong to various domesticated animals, it would be a dealbreaker in the extreme).
If I didn’t really like a girl that much, I might fuck her, but I wouldn’t (probably) go down on her or make her breakfast. She’s got to be a good person, in my layperson’s opinion.
Sex. I’m not a very romantic person.
Straight male. Sex and romance. Probably sex more often, however.
Sexual, of course.
Lots of things, it’s not just sexual.
Merged duplicate threads (one with, one without poll).
Straight male: both.
I can’t say there’s been a single girl I was interested in that I haven’t had sexual thoughts about. But the ones I really cared for I also had romantic thoughts and fantasies about as well. The one that had the most romantic thoughts about eventually ended up as my wife, but there were a few others who got both treatments in my head.
Could you define “romantic” both in general definition and by giving specific examples?
Me, I think of sex, cuddling, talking/relating, taking walks, planning the future and perhaps some other things I can’t think of right now.
This is if my attraction is physical, emotional and intellectual. If it’s just physical attraction, then I only think about sex.
Sex is orgasm oriented; romance is other physically and emotionally intimate interactions without the intent of orgasms.
Still don’t get the distinction between sex and romance. Finance without romance, I get, and vice versa, but isn’t all romance basically about fucking and being nice to another person?
What is a romantic thought? I really don’t know. Some women with whom I was close merited flowers sent from across the globe and nice letters, but is that what romantic is? Because, in those cases, when we saw each other, just did it in the road, pretty much, which is probably not romantic according to most definitions.
nm.
Women’s #1 complaint about men…
Though the sending of the flowers and nice letters indicates you might know more than you claim…!
Sex.
No. Romance is defined as a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. Sex is in no way required, and isn’t even restricted to interpersonal interaction.
I stop imagining at kissing. Because that’s where it ends in '80s romantic comedies, and that’s what I base my life on.
“Something else”, but I don’t know exactly what.