From “Devil With the Blue Dress”: “Not too skinny, and she’s not too fat.”
Where the “too skinny” and “too fat” lines are drawn are different with different guys. One’s “deliciously curvy” is another’s “too plump for my taste.” I think for most fellows, a few extra pounds is not an issue, but a lot of extra is.
I have noticed that as I get older and wiser (I’m in my 50’s now), my appreciation for the totality of what a woman has to offer has increased, while my “automatic limitations” on what looks appealing have decreased. In other words, younger men may be more picky about what body types they’ll pursue.
I don’t think there’s one standard answer, but for each guy who might say, “Yuck! A few extra pounds!” there’s probably another guy who says, “I am sensing a real problem in self-confidence with this girl.” So, one possibility is that it isn’t really the fact there’s a few extra pounds, but sensing that there is some issue behind the few extra pounds.
Different things attract different guys.
I usually had just 2 criteria that would immediately attract me to a girl (if all we’re talking here is appearances).
A nice butt and a cute face. Hair didn’t really matter or even chest size.
But they had to have both.
I’ve seen girls from across the gym with killer bods and then when you get close they have a horse face that just kills it.
Or I’ve seen really cute faced gals working behind the counter at a store but then when they come out from behind the counter they have an extra-extra wide butt that just kills it also.
I go by Southwest Airline’s standards… As long as the arm rests go down and you’re not Kevin Smith, it’s all good.
Ok, that was just a joke… Honestly, I tend to go more on personality. I also think it really depends on how you carry the weight. Are the boobs bigger in proportion to the rest of the body? Pretty face is very important to me though. Hair, not so much.
Speaking of kinds of guys, what type of guy are you shooting for, Kamrusepas? You say you haven’t found male companions lately but presumably you’re not really looking everywhere are you? There’s individual variation between all people and plenty of guys of any type will just have their own standard of too heavy, but certain types will likely be somewhat similar. Lot’s of men who are really fit will prefer women who are fit, which is kind of logical. But, as an example, successful men who make lots of money may be looking for thin women even if they are heavier, just because they can. So you’re probably not holding out for a surgeon with washboard abs, but maybe you should examine your dating standards?
Funnily enough, my own preferred type is blonde, slightly chubby and ideally wearing glasses. I love nerds tbh (Oh and to clarify, I never said I haven’t been finding male companions lately. My last encounter was on New Year’s [haven’t been out on a weekend since] when I found a cute, younger and a somewhat skinny dude who was happy to take me home xD).
I’m not asking because I’m looking for serious husband material right at the moment (I’m 23 so in no rush), but simply as a curiosity of everyday life.
Oh and thank you for all your answers, I’m glad to learn of your opinions