The woman I am having a relationship with is far from svelte.
However, the fact that you even ask the question indicates to me that you think you are becoming a porker. You know what you need to do about it if it worries you.
6 or 8 is not a large woman and I agree, could be an improvement (it’s impossible to say a priori.) I don’t think of a single-digit size as being very large at all. If the other conversion is correct, 12 is also not that large. But a lot would depend on the overall build, how the “extra weight” was distributed, and so on.
Personally, I figure that if you’re healthy and happy with the way you look, it’ll come through in other ways and will probably make you more attractive overall.
And some guys think that combo is hawt! 
I think someone is pretty when they don’t know they are fat or that it doesn’t seem to bother them.
Not me. I like some extra meat. It feels nice to the touch. And my wife is extremely pretty, and very overweight. A LOT of guys don’t care so much about weight, in my experience.
Joe
I agree with the “hit the gym”-type comments above. You seem to feel pretty super about yourself now–imagine how great you will feel when the few extra pounds are no longer an issue.
Of course not.
I have solved a mystery: according to this chart on wiki there are three European measurement standards, all of them different, making a 42 anywhere from US size six to US size 12, which is a pretty big range. So knowing the possible conversions doesn’t help at all unless we know which of the three OP was using.
No. Plenty of guys like women with “a few extra pounds”.
With the risk of deluding myself*, I think I like women with a few extra pounds more than the skinny ones.
- on the other hand, I’m amazed at the number of healthy and attractive looking girls who think they’re too fat. Really, you - all of you - if you can move like you want to, you’re not too fat.
This could actually be your issue.
Personally, I don’t single anyone out to be ignored, I ignore everyone equally (which is to say, I only talk to people in general when I’m in the mood to do so).
But if you’re referring to guys looking to sleep with you, or guys approaching you in the sense that they might want to be romantically involved, the issue could be they’re assuming you’re much larger than you are because you’re making a point to hide it.
You can get shirts that are designed to show off your breasts, while hiding your stomach (they use an elastic thing around the bottom, with a billowy top thingy), if that’s the core of your problem, but to me it sounds like it’s more of a psyching yourself out thing.
People can tell who is and is not confident, and people tend to gravitate to confident people.
Thats pronounced…yummy. I miss my g/f now 
10 or 12 does make a little more sense, since, in the media at least, they are considered a bit overweight. But I generally don’t think it’s a problem. Though I’d feel more confident if we knew how tall the OP was.
I did catch that she wears large T-shirts to cover up: please don’t do that. It just makes you look larger and more insecure about how you look. But don’t go overboard the other direction and wear something that is too small. Wear clothes that fit you like your clothes did when you were smaller.
Some extra curves, if not exactly ideal, are still pleasant to look at. A gut, cankles, third chin, flabby arm fat, not so much.
I myself am rather slim, so I tend to prefer women slimmer than I am. Shallow, sure, but it just doesn’t look right when the girl has a larger waste than the guy.
I’m a guy, and it wouldn’t matter to me. Or, rather, I’ve found myself attracted to a wide range of physical types. I tend to not find the extreme ends of the spectrum attractive, but pretty much anywhere in between I’ve found attractive at one time or another. Or, perhaps more accurately, I’ve been attracted to specific places all along the spectrum rather than anywhere on the spectrum.
Personality and chemistry matter. Thinking of the physiques of the girls I have recently been interested in the range goes from quite skinny to slightly pudgy. On another spectrum they range from not very prominent hips, breasts and butt, to quite prominent. All of these people I’ve been attracted to. In every case I’ve found their physical features attractive, but probably as much because those features were attached to that particular person rather than the other way around.
How many extra pounds?
If you are over 165…is it because you are a really really good cook, or do you just like eating?
Is your newfound tonnage in proportion?
Is your mother fat? Does it bug her or is she ok with it?
Do you come from an ancestry of larger-than-average people? Did it bug them or were they ok with it?
Does your relative weight affect your personality in any way?
Are you an active person or relatively sedentary?
Do you think/talk about things other than your weight?
OK, I know I’ve been a bit mean here (and I apologise), but really woman, if you are worried about not being attractive to guys who are only attracted to skinny women, well…
The title of this thread says the question is for men only, but I’ve been in your exact position so I feel I have something valuable to contribute even though I’m a girl.
I’m 23, and at my heaviest (which was about four years ago) I was a size large/12 (curvy body type, huge tits, face and hair reasonably attractive but not gorgeous). I lost weight until I was a size extra small/0. Men don’t automatically ignore you when you gain weight, but being thinner undoubtedly gets you more attention. As some other posters have mentioned, the biggest difference is that skinny girl can coast by on their looks, while thicker girls just need to make sure that they’re projecting an attractive personality.