Men who are my height or shorter can be perfectly attractive but many don’t look quite right to me, proportionately (short little arms and legs). But I’m not tall myself - barely 5’5". I really don’t like tall guys, strong preference for average-height guys about 5’6" - 5’10" max (taller than that, weird proportional issues start to come into play again). So I picked taller. But I only want a bit taller.
I admit I’m a sucker for taller men. My SO is 6’1".
I’m 5’1", so not many guys are shorter than me. In fact, I’ve never dated a guy shorter than me, though I did date a guy who was only a couple of inches taller. The reasons I broke up with him had nothing to do with his height, though.
I almost clicked “it doesn’t matter” but in fact, I do have a preference for “about my height”. As a practical matter, that would include some very short men, as I’m not a particularly big woman.
That said, height isn’t a deal-killer - I’ve dated really big guys and short guys. My husband is about two inches taller than me, which makes him below average male height. It’s a preference, and I wouldn’t dismiss any man just because of his height.
I prefer dark hair men, too, but I wouldn’t write off a guy because he’s blond, or bald. I’m probably more flexible about my height preferences than most women in this culture, though.
When I was young I only would see a man that was my height or equal.
Then as the years went by, I not only lowered my standards but my height requirements as well.
Right now I’m at invisible guys who are midgets
I’m 5’6" or so, and I really, honestly don’t care. I’ve had relationships with men shorter than me, same height and taller. Taller is more frequent, but that’s due to statistics, not choice. My son’s father is barely taller than me and my daughter’s father is 6’4", so it’s obviously not played a role in my reproductive choices. I can ogle at any height, too.
I really don’t care. I’m 5’7" and I’ve had relationships with men taller and about my height; not sure I’ve ever dated a shorter guy but that isn’t for any particular reason.
Out of the 7 or 8 guys I’ve dated, all but two have been 6’ or taller. My SO is 5’10, I’m 5’4.
Sounds like my mom, except she’s 5’4". (My dad was about 5’7" and my siblings dad is 6’3")
It doesn’t matter to me. I had to stop and think about it, to be honest. I’ve dated a guy that was shorter than me (and I’m 5’3") all the way up to 6’0"+. The rowr!! factor was independent of their height.
::distracted by memories of the rowr!! factor::
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What were we talking about, again?
I like a man to be taller than me, but I’m kind of short even for a woman, so I expect men to be taller. But whether he’s 3 inches taller (which is still a short man) or a foot taller, I don’t really care.
Women my height (6’4") or taller are vanishingly rare…
In theory, it doesn’t matter. But, in practice, the women 6’3 or over that I meet are often quite masculine. While androgyny doesn’t bug me, masculinity does.
In other parts of the world, I understand this is not necessarily the case, though, so in that scenario, it wouldn’t matter. I thus went with all the applicable choices other than preferring someone taller than me. You can see my vote as 2/5s each for short or same height, and 1/5 for taller.
I’m a straight woman, and voted for the “taller than me” option, but (at 5’9") I’ve dated guys shorter, my height, taller, and significantly taller. I generally am attracted to taller men, but height isn’t the most important factor in a relationship. (It’s actually penis size!)
My husband is the same height as I am. When I was younger, I was self-conscious about “towering over him in heels.” My first husband was 6’4", so no worries there. I got a little older, and a little wiser, and my second husband was a little shorter - about 6’ tall. I got still older, and still wiser, and now I don’t care: If I want to wear 4-inch heels, I will, and my husband doesn’t care, except to point out that he’s with the tall, hot redhead!
Straight woman (about 5’7) and I’d say the ideal height is around my height, because it makes hugging/kissing the easiest for me.
Some of my friends are obsessed with the concept of a couple’s height ratio and take it very seriously. “The guy HAS to be much taller than the girl or else he’s unattractive” kind of attitude.
Never understood that, but hey.
So many women are shallow about height in men. I choose to be proud of the fact that I am not.
I am a 5’5" male. All of my girlfriends (all three of them) have been a bit taller than me (5’6" - 5’8").
Well the results so far are depressing. I’m a short dude, 5’6". My height has been a major hangup because of the results shown above.
That said, I no longer care - I reckon I’m so awesome that women would overlook it (in the same way they’d overlook me… haha). I married a girl 6" taller than me, and since I got divorced have had a couple of girlfriends who have been 3"-4" taller.
About 80% of the women I’ve been with have been pretty much the same height.
My current girlfriend is 6" shorter than me.
'evs. I just like women.
I’ve dated all three height-types, but three of my four “serious” relationships were with significantly shorter women: one was more than a foot shorter (4’8" to my 5’10"), two were at least half a foot shorter (5’2" and 5’3"), and one was the same height as me. I think the trend towards shorter women is more of a side-effect of the fact that I tend to be more attracted to rounder faces; IME shorter girls are more likely to have rounder faces. (And, yes, the woman my height had a round face, which she hated since she got called “cute” instead of “hot.”)
So, since the poll asked about sexual attractiveness, I voted shorter, since statistically they’re more likely going to be the cute round-faced one.
For sexual activity and overall physical compatibility, OTOH, I definitely prefer someone at or near my height; when I was with the 5’10" girlfriend, I was surprised to discover that we could have sex face-to-face without me having a backache afterwards. I’d gotten used to having to be hunched over/contorted to be able to be face-to-face with previous partners. I could look her in the eyes without looking down on her. We could walk hand-in-hand or arm-in-arm without me being bent over. Hugging no longer felt like a bearhug/protective thing, but a mutual embrace. It really emphasized our overall equality in the relationship, which matches my approach to relationships in general.
Male person here.
Somewhat shorter than me, like, say, 3-4 inches, works out really nicely in f2f guy-on-top sex, because in insertion mode my pelvic bones end up positioned about 3-4 inches downstream of hers and that way we’re at mutual eye level and I like that. If it’s a bigger height disparity I’d rather she were taller, it’s awkward when her nose comes to mid-chest, although fortunately there are other positions and etc. Not a dealbreaker under any circumstances.
ETA: Or what Student Driver said. Yeah, that.