People do stupid things. For the most part, this can be attributed towards someone’s lack of information, but for the really big, profound stupid stuff I’ve found that it’s often because of people not asking themselves the right questions, or at least not least following through on those questions by trying to find an answer.
I know I can’t be alone in this observation, so I have to ask: If you could make everyone in the world ask themselves one question, or a series of related questions, what would it be?
I would ask people: “why do they get angry?” See, I grew up with a few people who had very short tempers and would just flip out over nothing…and I’ve never been able to figure out why. I have my bouts of anger once in a blue moon, but for the most part I’ve turned that emotion off without much trouble. I did this by asking myself questions, such as:
Why am I angry?
Do I benefit in any way from getting angry?
Does anger make me a happier person in the long run?
When I become angry, does it decrease the chances I’ll become angry in the future or solve my problem?
Is [subject of anger] really so bad? If I’m in no physical pain, then I’m likely just sitting, standing, or walking someplace as a result of [subject of anger]…isn’t that about what I’d probably be doing if [subject of anger] didn’t happen? Why do I find it so unpleasant that I have to walk, sit, or stand just because it’s not on my terms?
Would this really be a problem if I had a book to read with me? Perhaps there’s someway I can enter this predicament and still remain productive. Perhaps I can make phone calls or think about things I’ve been putting off.
If I’m not getting in trouble for being in my situation, what’s the big deal?
If I do get in trouble, is that really so bad in itself?
And so on.
Once I found myself at the end of this line of questioning, I was a pretty laid back dude. I’ve had my car blow up on a day I still consider “alright”, and I’m considered a pretty level headed guy.
What would you make people ask themselves?