Whew, yeah. Every time I see a beard I think “I wonder what he looks like without a beard.” Really nice trimmed beards I can hang with, my boyfriend has one. But the more scraggly and the longer the more of a turnoff for me.
But I totally get than men’s beard styles are a completely personal thing, just like women’s hair length, and are fully a part of their personal comfort and self expression. So I’m not trying to bash beards! Just saying I’m with Jasmine, they don’t appeal to me at all.
19th century consumptives!
Upthread I posted that I appreciate a bit of “extra poundage,” but it occurs to me there’s one more thing: If she’s left handed, that’ll catch my attention as well. Or, I mean, it would if I were on the prowl.
Both describe mrs. dirtball.
Other women being interested in him, before I am dating him. I don’t like feeling like I’m in competition with other women. If other women are interested in him but he is NOT interested in them, then that’s fine. Although it would be weird, because all my life I’ve been the weird girl crushing after the weird boy. My friends in junior high and highschool would be all, “You like who?"
Once I’m with a guy I assume he wants to be with me until he tells me otherwise. I’m not a very jealous person. My husband has many women friends because his field tends to be female-dominated. I have no idea if they find him attractive. I don’t worry about it. If he ever runs into some issue, he’s going to tell me about it.
This isn’t a jealousy thing. It’s a thing where I don’t want to feel like I’m in competition with other women.
Are you left-handed?
I am. I have to assume you’re attracted to women who have had to fight to overcome the adversity of living in a right-handed world. We lefties have to be tougher, and adopt strange, imperfectly designed tools. It’s a miracle we figured out how to open doors.
Hmmm,
Man, attracted to women,
Is it “fighting the hypothetical” so to speak to say that I have types that I fantasize about, but don’t really look for in a woman? I’m more attracted to personality and do they like the same sorts of stuff that I like, are we compatible politically/religiously? Is she independant or am I going to be the financier of the relationship? Those are the questions I ask myself. Physical attributes come second if at all into consideration.
I’ll admit I never thought it through that far. I’ve just looked at it as some kind of thing I weirdly considered exotic. But I do admire toughness in a woman.
Man attracted to women. I have always noticed tall women. Only (many years) after I married one did I find out that my Mrs. HATES being taller than me. Turns out most women want to have equal power in a marriage,… but they wish their man to be taller. Who knew?
I’d go with Andie MacDowell, especially the way she sounds in Groundhog Day. For physical features, my tastes are too broad to pinpoint any one thing, to the point where I would say I find a solid 90% plus of women in the age range I would consider dating if I was single (late 20s through early 60s) attractive. But a sexy voice? That’s rare.
Cishet male here. I’m delighted that small men get some love here, and nerds too (though I expected THAT from the Dope, notwithstanding gender, sexual orientation or attraction). Personally, I seem to be an outlier, I don’t have any fixed type, physical feature or quirk I’m fixated on, like Hans Rühmann used to sing “Ob blond, ob braun, ich liebe alle Fraun” (Blond or brunette, I love all women). Though like someone else upthread, I have a special fondness for the Snow White type, pale skin, dark hair and red lips. But I also sometimes like a blond bombshell. If you ask me the classical question who’s more attractive, Audrey Hepburn or Marilyn Monroe, I’d be undecided, they both have a lot going for them.
Dude who likes women here.
First point: I like hair. And I like it to be left more or less in its natural state and not tampered with much. Mainly this means: 1) that it be worn in a simple blunt (more or less one-length) style and not “layered” or “feathered”; 2) that it be left in its natural color. So for example, I prefer a one-length bob to very long hair worn in 2000s-style layers. (How it gets styled afterward, be it curled with an iron, braided, put up, etc. doesn’t matter, in fact, be my guest, if the structure of the hair is left intact, I’m cool with it being changed up very often or very little. Also any accessories - clippies, scrunchies, whatever, that’s great).
While I like hair to be long, I also like simple bobs as an alternative to classic long hair. On some women, something like a bob worn exactly at chin length looks very good.
N.B. My hair is like this too. I wear it long, in a one-length bob (*when* it gets trimmed.)
I also like buns very much, neat round buns.
What natural color a woman’s hair is doesn’t matter to me, be it brown, red, prematurely gray, whatever. However, my preference is for brunettes, and in fact my favorite shade is dull ash brown / “mousy” brown hair. My ideal woman’s coloring would be that paired with green eyes.
Next point: legs. I’m a leg person. But I like legs with some muscle tone (as in female college athlete legs, not bodybuilder legs). So someone of medium height with longer but athletic legs would definitely be my “type.”
That said, there is a different specific type I really have a thing for: women who are petite but curvy, even leaning a bit toward the chubby side.
I will only comment on one article of clothing here: I think high-waisted jeans / slacks look good on a woman. I mention this one article of clothing only because this might qualify as a “quirky/oddly specific” preference - based on comments online, it would seem that many men dislike high-waisted pants. I OTOH think they suit the female anatomy.
OK, let me throw in one accessory as well - I think it’s cute when a woman lifts up her sunglasses and puts them above her forehead like a hair band.
Disclaimer: I’m asexual, so in my case we are talking about aesthetic attraction rather than sexual attraction.
Well, yes.
If I’m attracted to any man, it’s because he already ticks the personality/values boxes. That’s like the first threshold. Then he becomes attractive to me.
I’ve always liked short guys and guys with dark hair, but I’ve been attracted in real life to a variety of types… though I do apparently have a primary type, lol.
There was this guy I crushed on hard-core in highschool. A few years into college I took my husband (then boyfriend) to see a play involving former high school buddies. We ran into this guy, and no sooner had I opened my mouth to introduce Sr. Weasel, when it became immediately apparent to all concerned that my high school crush and my boyfriend were doppelgangers. Despite a slight difference in height, both had dark, curly hair, glasses and vaguely Mediterranean features. So embarrassing!
I later talked to the guy on Facebook though and he turned out to be a flaming asshole of the transphobic religious fundamentalist sort. So I married the right one.
Male attracted to females here.
I am attracted to mid-length dark arm hair. And slightly bushy eyebrows are nice too (though not unibrows. Usually). And a bit of garlic on the breath isn’t a turnoff either.
Man who likes women. I like women with open faces, who are smart and self-assured, and who laugh like they mean it. Like my present spouse.
Not surprising. One common feature of attractiveness is sexual dimorphism. Those who are attracted to women are (mostly, overall) attracted to more feminine-looking women, and those who are attracted to men are (mostly, overall) attracted to more masculine-looking men. And men tend to be taller than women, so women want taller men.
There aren’t many women more attractive than Marilyn Monroe, but Audrey Hepburn was one of them.
(Male, attracted to women)
I like academically accomplished women. My wife is a graduate of arguably the top university in China, my two serious relationships before that were women who graduated from Ivy League schools. And my high school crush left the country because she was admitted to MIT.
My siblings joke that I have a brainiac kink.
You’re implying a contradiction where there isn’t one.
Unless you’re talking about the power to get things down from high shelves, I guess?
And open jars. We need you to open jars.
I was tasked with opening a jar tonight.