Random thought on a relationship

So, I was trotting along through my happy little life and remembered a fascinating statement I heard once.

“Let me get this straight, your cheating with your wife on the secretary at your office that you cheated on with the intern at your wife’s workplace.”

Thoughts?

Coherence?

Apologies. That was the exact wording. In other words he was being asked if he was having an affair with his wife, behind the back of the secretary. He cheated with the secretary behind the back of one of his wife’s underlings. He cheated on the wife with the underling.

Understand?

First thing that came to mind was the distinction between “your” and “you’re”.

Again, I apologize for the bad grammar, possible mispellings, and possible punctuation errors.

How do you have an affair with your wife?

Do not ask me. That was Person B’s words. I was just a bystander in a semi-hilarious discussion. That’s the only bit of conversation that I could remember. Sorry.

Let me add this. If I understand it, he has an affair with his wife’s intern. He then screws his secretary. I’m not sure that counts as cheating on the intern, assuming he is still married. Same thing with the secretary. The only person being cheated on is the wife.

I somewhat disagree. If he promises the intern that he is being faithful to her, and then breaks that promise, then I see no difference in whether the guy was married or not.

All cheating is is breaking a promise to be faithful. The only difference here is that, when you are married, there’s an default assumption of being faithful, while, in an affair, the promise would pretty much have to be explicit.

IOW, the only way I agree with you is if no one has promised anything.

If you are fucking around with a married person and expect fidelity you are an idiot.

I think the technical term at that point is horndog and you no longer worry about the relationships between the people - unless they are actually closer than second cousins.

It’s possible that there were previous marriages involved, and that the cad in question has a history of leaving his (current) wife to marry his (current) mistress.

My ex-wife, in an attempt at levity, suggested once that she could run off with the guy she’d cheated on me with and then cheat on him with me.

She made that joke on two different occasions.

I didn’t laugh either time.

What movie does this remind me of? It’s Scarlet Johannson as an up-and-coming singer, boffing her manager <or someone like that>, and he’s supposedly not getting on with his wife. Then his wife visits his office as Scarlet and he are getting busy, and the wife wants to boff, so they boff while Scarlet’s in the closet.