I knew what city I was born in, called the registrar’s office and I was sent an application. Filed it out, sent it in & eventually they sent me a copy of my birth certificate, all easy as pie.
Without going into too much personal-ID-compromising detail, I was not born in the country where I live, and I no longer speak more than a smattering of the language of my birth country.
Also, I don’t want a copy, I want the original, dammit! It’s mine!
You’re Mila Kunis???!!!???
Marry the New Guy and then ask for the birth certificate. She won’t need to keep it from you after that, right?
About a month and a half ago, I started seeing this guy. Apparently, he’d been interested me in a while, but we never met.
So, we go on some dates and things are going really well. Spend 4 / 5 days together per week, for some period of time (be it the majority of the weekends, or a few hours on a weeknight). He’s constantly telling me that he likes me and is extremely affectionate - a lot of talking during the workday on Google Chat and texts… all that stuff. We “make it official” for whatever that’s worth and take the step from “dating” to “boyfriends.”
Well, fast forward to a few weekends ago, when we are about to leave brunch. We’d each had a margarita or two and as we’re walking out, we’re talking when he casually says “I love you.” Caught off-guard as to whether it was an accident or if I heard him correctly, I pause, at which point he amends it to say “I really like you.” It was all of two or three seconds between the initial statement and the amendment.
For the past two weeks, he’s been more distant and we don’t talk nearly as much. Where it used to be a foregone conclusion that we would do something on Tuesday night, now it feels like it has to be a little more “planned” or “scheduled.” When I ask him if everything is okay, he says it is, but by no means is he the same as he was beforehand. I feel if I say anything now, it’s gonna seem like it was brought on as a result of his “slip-up.”
I was actually at a point where I probably would’ve said it back to him, if I knew he meant it, but now, the relationship kinda seems like it’s circling the drain and there’s not much I can do, because if I keep asking if he is alright, he’s gonna feel like I’m hounding him (especially since I’ve told him recently that I miss “how things were,” not specifically referring to the verbal slip-up as the point where things changed).
Better talk about it with him. The fact that he was spending so much time with you was plenty of evidence that he “really like[d] you.” Sounds like he might have thought you were freaked out by the statement and he’s trying to not spook you (or trying to un-spook you).
The only factor that mitigates against this analysis is that it’s way too pat, in a sitcom kind of way…
Anyway, if it’s correct, clearing the air about it might be the only way you two can move forward.
Possibly bad advice: on a better moment (when things aren’t quite so forced/awkward, if that can still happen) bust out with a heartfelt “I love you” to him. It might be piss-or-get-off-the-pot time.
I agree with kaylasdad99, though: if you’re at a point where you like each other so much, and are spending so much time with each other, then you are – or should be – at a point where you can talk about Big Important Shit with each other.
I’m lazy, so, re: my previous rant about my computer, please enjoy my slightly edited Facebook update:
It may be too early to tell, but I think I’ve solved a problem without even knowing precisely what was causing the problem. I’m amazing like that.
I’ve been having major computer issues: not responding errors, everything locking up for a few seconds several times a minute, graphics loading wonky, etc. I went through my whole litany of fix-attempts: virus scans, system diagnostics, deleting every app I wasn’t 100% sure about, etc. When that didn’t work, I cracked my case open and cleaned it all out. There were some major dust-bunnies, but everything seemed in order; all the fans were working, there were no loose wires or anything. But that didn’t really work either.
So, just as I was preparing to go into full-on freak-out mode and heave the thing into the middle of the street, I decided to go for the nuclear option and restored it back to factory settings.
Lo and behold, it seems to be fixed. Of course, I lost all my bookmarks and logins, and I’ll have to re-download any game I want to play on Steam, but it’s like having a brand new computer, so that’s somewhat refreshing.
Sometimes I think you just need that clean slate. I had to replace my phone recently and I lost all my contacts – but again, that clean slate was refreshing.
Where is August thread?