Now she’s getting love from non-Dopers, too? That woman has some serious power. I’m pretty sure she’s the next Google.
I’ve been posting to various message boards for nearly ten years, so my husband doesn’t really think anything of my now ancient habit. He might say “which message board is that from?” but that’s it.
He does ask me “what are you laughing at?” quite a bit, though. I’ll read him favorite threads or posts and he enjoys them when I do.
This made me chortle.
My husband hated me being on message boards at first. He firmly believed participating them was going to lead to me being abducted by a 300lb hillbilly, who would do unspeakable things to my body before burying me next to his trailer. He was a bit unclear how said hillbilly would get me to the States, but he was convinced it was going to happen.
Since I have been on the message boards for 10 years without anything sinister occuring, he is now totally indifferent. I lurk (but don’t post) at a tennis board & I relay that information to him. Other than that, the only 2 things I can recall him being interested in was a thread of the funniest lawyer jokes ever at the now defunct TPO board & some pictures of the recent weather conditions in Iceland (I think that was GB)
My wife doesn’t seem too interested in reading things or writing here on the Dope, but she does have questions from time to time. We often discuss things on here, though, such as I will reply to a thread and then ask her the same type of stuff or what she thinks, but that is about the extent of it. I think she would really like it here, but I also think that the message board thing just isn’t her idea of a good medium…
Brendon Small
Mr. Serenata often wonders what I enjoy so much about the SDMB and why I spend so much time on it. He used to be really confused about it, having never really partaken in any sort of online community (no MySpace or Facebook or anything). He’s just kind of accepted that I enjoy it and that’s going to have to be fine with him.
He has gotten on board a bit more because of the poetry workshops, of all things. He knows I’ve been having issues with writer’s block lately and these get me writing. Also, since I “won” the last one, he has been more on board. He really saw the boost it gave me and now he is okay with it.
Every now and then he has a question that I bring to the SDMB. A while back, we were discussing who would win in a fight: Paddington Bear or Corduroy? So I brought it to The Dope on his suggestion.
He’s okay with it. I mean, it’s not his favorite hobby of mine, but he’s cool with it.
My SO can’t complain if it bothers him because it’s his fault I’m here. He kept telling me to read Cecil’s column and when I did I ended up gravitating to the boards.
Luckily he appreciates the SDMB. I read the really funny or really sad stuff to him. When I come across something he’d know, he’s more than willing to answer. He has once or twice asked me to relay a question for him. My mom and sister have also asked me to get questions answered for them.
I am all alone so I have no one with whom to discuss the SDMB ):
How many of you have told your wives about PSXer?
I used to tell my then-wife about the SDMB, and then she joined. We later divorced. No cause-and-effect is intended, nor should it be inferred.
Talking about it with a girlfriend led to her joining.
Later still, talking about it with a different girlfriend led to her joining.
Talking about it with my current girlfriend led to her joining.
In short, I am apparently incapable of having a non-Doper spouse or girlfriend.
My spouse is every bit as computer literate as I am, and has often in the past spent time on various websites and message boards (though he’s trying to cut way down, as he can go a bit overboard with it if he’s not careful). I’ve occasionally thought about encouraging him to join the Dope, but to be honest I kind of look at it as “my thing,” just like some of his stuff is “his thing.” That, and while he likes to hear some of the stories I tell him about threads here, this place is probably way too liberal for him, and he’s convinced he’d find it frustrating even though I told him that outside political threads folks are usually pretty even-handed. So I continue with my solo Doping, and I prefer it that way. 
My family are all non-Dopers,and they refer to it as '[my] message board," as in “Hey, why don’t you ask your message board about that?” They all tend to view my membership here as just another one of the slghtly pixilated things that I do.
Came back to post that my wife knows my user name, or could at least guess it pretty easily. I wonder if she ever searched for my postings here? Anyone else wonder that about their SO?
I’ve never mentioned the SDMB to my wife. I doubt she knows I post here. I post mainly from work.
I’ve mentioned the Dope to my boyfriend. I link him to threads all the time, too. I know he’s read my back posts; it’s worked something like a Cliff’s Notes for him :D.
Really, he’d pretty much have to know about this place. I’ve been posting since 2001, I’ve met friends through here, and it takes up some portion of my free time (though it’s mostly downtime at work, to be honest). And since, you know, I’m serious about him, it’s important to share. Fortunately for me, he’s internet-attuned, so it works.
Or learning your lesson.
My husband is a mostly lurker/sometime poster at a forum called Cymbalholic devoted to cymbals.
I’m a mostly lurker/sometime poster here at the SDMB
I figure it evens out in some strange way. I don’t really care all that much about cymbals and drumming, he doesn’t much care what goes on here.
The Dope became one more point of contention between my ex-husband and I. He thought it was a waste of time I should have spent cleaning house. To be honest, I was spending way too much time here, “hiding” from my fairly miserable real life life. That’s one of the reasons I took a hiatus last year.
My new SO knows I used to be “addicted” to the Dope (my words), and knows that I intentionally quit. So when I started Doping again, he was concerned for me and wondered if there was something in our relationship or life together that I was hiding out from. We’ve had several talks about it, but they’ve all been concerned productive ones, not judgemental or forbidding ones. (Ha! Like “forbidding” me from doing anything would work, anyhow! He’s too smart to try that. )
I think I’ve been doing okay enjoying some time here without engaging in self- or relationship- destructive behavior, so he’s okay with that. He’s said he trusts me to let him know if I need help or if there are problems in our relationship, rather than hiding out here. Similarly, I trust him not to hide in his television watching or neglect our family for Fox News or the game.
He’s not interested in becoming a Doper, although he’s computer savvy and runs a blog and internet radio show of his own. It’s just that for him, the computer is about work and communication, not socialization. That’s cool.
And yes, he does sometimes suggest I ask “the boards” a question he’s interested in.