For my part, that was the point: I was sharing things that seemed f-up to me.
I know there’s guys into mmf relationships, for example. Maybe the girl whose profile pic showed her and her bf will get a responses from them. Maybe that’s what she’s looking for, I don’t know.
They seemed like counterproductive stuff you see in dating profiles to me, but that’s just IMHO.
On a different note, wtf is “syh”?
Shaking your head–responding to the poster’s saying something like, “these are things that make me smh (shake my head).”
That’d explain all the dick pics…
I don’t know too many men who are looking to jump into a relationship with a woman with five kids, even fewer who think that them coming last in that relationship would be awesome. Sounds like perfect bait for a pedophile, however.
As a woman, this may sound very very important to you that you need a man who understands that they come last and your kids come first. However, this is not an attractive proposition to a very large number of men, and you’re just going to become more angry and more bitter if you stake your flag on that hill.
If that makes you angry, then perhaps you completely fail to understand that the world does not revolve around you and your kids, and that other people have their own needs and wants in life that aren’t subject to your demands. Of course, that’s a completely redundant statement if you’re the kind who makes those profiles.
Jesus Christ on a pogo stick, did I ever parse that wrong.
Of course it’s not an attractive proposition to most people. This is the very reason for mentioning it up front. You get past a very large amount of wasted time that way, by attracting only those who, you know, might actually continue to be attracted.
There’s a part of me that wants to say “how is this not obvious,” but it’s so obvious I also feel sure I must be missing something w.r.t. what you’re trying to say. Am I?
From some responses here, I get the impression that people think when a woman says “I have kids and they come first,” she’s somehow meaning to imply “if you’re a decent human being, you’ll be attracted to me anyway.” That’s the only way I can make sense out of characterizations of her as being somehow demanding or thinking the world revolves around her. But this will typically be not at all what she means. What she means is, literally, “I have kids and they come first.” Her purpose is not to lay down a challenge or a demand. Her purpose is to narrow down the range of prospects such that very improbable ones won’t waste their own time (and, of course, hers).
You know, actually, screw what you just said tbh. “This may sound very important to you”? How about, she gets to determine for herself, and then may choose to inform you, as to what is important to her?
Isn’t it? Obviously children will come first relative to someone who is still a stranger at this moment. So why say something that goes without saying? To me this reads “I have no room in my life for a man, move along”.
I saw a guy with the name of ChristianFatherof 3.
In addition to writing about how much he loved his sons and doing things with them, he also wrote about going to church 3 times a week, Bible study and accepting Jesus as his Lord and Savior.
All very nice except it was on a Pagan dating site.
Then there are the men pushing 60 who are into hiking, camping, backpacking, canoeing, white water rafting, gourmet cooking, sailing, snorkeling, diving, parasailing, snowboarding, rollerblading, skiing, dancing, going to the movies, going to sporting events - basketball, football, baseball, hockey, traveling, going to the beach, going to wine tastings, visiting museums…
Honey, I’m 58 years old and I’m exhausted just reading your damn list.
Is there anything you’re not interested in?
My favorite ad of all time though was in the dating section of the paper
MAN
wants WOMAN
Had I not been in a relationship at the time I would have checked it out.
My plan has always been to post the following profile:
“Mysterious person seeks same”
And then of course immediately go for the meetup without exchanging any information.
What drives me crazy is when a woman has a picture for her profile picture that is *significantly *slimmer than her more current pictures found further on within her profile. I just don’t understand this. It’s not as if someone is not going to see the other pictures once they click on the profile. Time after time, I’d see a pretty profile picture, click on it, only to find the other pictures to be about at least 50lbs heavier. And significantly older. Why? 
Bait and Switch
That is genius. 
Even more so if he was paying per word. 
I guess it’s sort of like going to the store: you put a loss-leader in the window, and then hope they buy something else once they’re in there.
I probably did online dating before most people, around 1995. And ultimately met my wife that way (she wasn’t my wife at the time)
Anybody posting pics with kids or pregnant belly is doing so to filter out the people who don’t accept that right away.
Annoyances from that era:
Women starting right off that they were doing this on a dare, as a lark, or their friends were making them do it. “I’m too good for online dating, but here I am…”
Anyone using “LOL” after a comment that was not funny. E.g., “I would like to find a man who believes in God and doesn’t smoke. LOL” It was weird how common this was. I think maybe LOL was fairly new to their vocabulary back then and they sprinkled it in for no reason.
People who would list as hobbies/interests things like “hanging out with my friends” and “having fun.” Oh, you like fun, eh? Me too! We have so much in common! I kind of assumed these were people with no interests or hobbies. Also surprisingly common.
I don’t know if it’s changed much since then but I met my wife in 2004 and haven’t been on since.
Not much anyway.
JK.
Reminds me of the quote (by a woman): “Many women want to marry Mr. Perfect so that they can remain Miss Flawed.”
“I’m looking for a man who won’t abandon me the way my father abandoned my mother.”
The problem with things like “no crazies” is no one thinks of themselves that way. So it won’t actually help.
How about an MD/Ph.D. (lots of those), JD/Ph.D. (somewhat fewer) or other people who have more than one terminal degree?
There was a woman in my old town who was a DDS/MD. She was a dentist who went to medical school, and is now an otolaryngologist (dentist is easier to type! :p). IIRC, her husband was a schoolteacher who became a SAHD when they had kids. That same town also had a male nurse/female physician couple.
One woman on another board, who considers herself a confirmed bachelorette (and is doing some man out there a big favor - trust me on that; she’s incredibly bitter) is an attorney, and she’s always talking about how the young men lawyers want nothing to do with dating the young women lawyers. 
:rolleyes: I replied, “Has it ever occurred to those women that maybe the men don’t want to date/marry another lawyer, because they want to, like, GET AWAY from that, and that there are plenty of men out there who aren’t lawyers?” I added that I wouldn’t totally rule out dating or marrying a pharmacist, but I wouldn’t want that to literally be my whole life, either, even though I do know a lot of pharmacist couples (and a few ex-couples) and there are plenty of lawyer couples out there too.
I can think of pharmacists who married accountants, construction workers, engineers, graphic artists, teachers, nurses, and one who’s married to a man who’s our local expert in repairing high-end racing bicycles (although that’s not all he does). Most of them nowadays are women, and I have NEVER ONCE had a woman pharmacist tell me that her husband had a problem with her making more money than he did. 
Yeah, they all have pix. I wouldn’t go out otherwise. But it’s very hard to tell how someone will look like from just a few photos. Sometimes I become Facebook friends with someone before our first date (e.g., she lives far away, and we can’t meet right away, but messaging is going well), and then you can look at a lot of photos and get a better idea.
OTOH, I’ve dated people who were not photogenic whom I would probably have rejected from seeing pix beforehand, so it can work both ways.
I usually pay on the date, but I usually try to keep it something inexpensive at first, like a coffee date.
They still do that. Or other negative stuff like, “I’m trying this again, not expecting much, but here goes.”
This is another thing that hasn’t changed.