Thank you dstarfire… I’m trying my best she is still angry but she said I giving you one more chance …
As I understand it, it seems like you have two different things that are giving you problems.
First, your family is pressuring you to live at home with them and not with this girl. Do they like your girlfriend and do they approve of this relationship?
Second, you’re worried because your girlfriend is now living with an exboyfriend of hers and you’re concerned that they might start up their relationship again or that she might cheat on you.
Do I understand your post correctly?
I know she won’t start relationship with him again and I trust her a lot and she talk to me whole night and whenever I want but she is so angry on me and she keep saying me I came there and I left my everything and you sent me back to my ex!!! How a men can do that … and that thing hurt me a lot … yes my family first like her but I told my family I will marry her anyhow but without them I will have financial problems I’m doing by best to resolve it …
coz I’m earning well but I need some money to rent a place and put things in it … which I will do till January… but that sentence hurt me a lot “how a men do this “
You asked her to leave her home and move to a different country, then you essentially kicked her out.
She is unhappy, and telling you she is unhappy, but she is still speaking to you and has not taken up with the man who has given her a home.
You know that you do not deserve her, right?
I told her all the problems before I told her about financial problems I told her about family problems I was giving her money for all her needs since two years even I didn’t meet her before I never saw her before we started our relationship on internet… I told her it is better if she come after 3 months … but she said we will manage some how but it couldn’t happen that’s why I sent her back… I wanted that she back to her home and come back after 3 months… I still sending her money…
I didn’t know you could return mail order brides. So is 3 months the standard warranty period? Do you get a 100% refund, including shipping and handling?
answer if you care to -
how old are you all?
how long have you known her?
how long did her & her ex go out?
why did they break up?
does either of you have children?
what countries does this involve?
how much money have you been giving her?
do i understand it correctly that you were sending her money before physically meeting her? if so, why?
how many girlfriends have you had prior to her?
Is pigin english your first language?
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English not my first language… when we started our relationship she was Student and sharing apartment with her ex she told me everything in the start. And she told me we are just friends and she told me everything about her past … I don’t have any trust issue she is loyal to me after that she moved to her home town 2 years ago she visited her ex Home few times in that 2 years too … problem is not about trust or she will cheat me … she is angry coz I put her in this situation… I know I will resolve money issues soon coz I’m already working on a project so I will earn money… purpose of this post was I just wanted to share my feelings… like my gf came to me we lived 1 month then I sent her back she is staying at her ex place ( she is paying bills and rent) and she is angry with me… but this anger only because of love … we love each other a lot and i trust her a lot … she is not alone with her ex there are 3 more students who sharing apartment…
If you’ve got Internet, probably the best suggestion that we can give is to keep a running dialogue with her via text/chat and try to webcam often. Try to make it seem like you’re together regularly.
And work your ass off to get money again (and keep her up-to-date on what all work you’re doing, how much money you’re making, how much you’re putting aside for her, etc.) Prove that you’re doing what it takes and that you’re committed to it, and she’ll be happy and wait for you (if you’re actually doing what you should be doing.)