My gf moved to my country and I shifted with her in a home but my family pressurized me a lot and I had financial issues too so I asked her to go back your country and give me 3 months to resolve these issues so she said I can’t go back to my home I can only stay at my ex home she visited before too and when I started relationship with her they lived in a same home cause both were students and she said to me by herself my roommate was my bf before but I don’t have any relationship with him now… so I was comfortable with this idea now she staying at his place but she not feel comfortable and blaming me it’s me who sent her there… now I feel so bad …
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Welcome to the SDMB, Rago.
Please note that the General Questions forum is for questions with factual answers. Since this seeks advice and opinions, I will move it to our In My Humble Opinion forum for you.
Moving thread from GQ to IMHO.
I used first time this site so I don’t know about it… yes you can move
Thank you
To where, Runonsentenceberg, Whogivesashitistan?
Rago, we all feel bad. See what you’ve done? It’s all your fault.
The world’s first incidence of the rare 132 bar blues.
3 months isn’t really a long time to ride things out.
I think his grasp on English might be lacking. I am willing to cut him a break, sounds as though he’s in a pickle. Dude, grow apair and tell your family," This is who I want to be with"! If GF goes home you may not ever get together again. You are taking a huge gamble. IMHO
This sounds like a personal attack.
…I’ve had a few…
In English, sentences which are not divided up with commas between clauses, and periods at the ends of complete thoughts, will be so hard to read that few will try.
This forum is more literate than most and will be even less apt to try.
Also, this forum has a larger percentage of sarcastic smart asses than average.
My serious advice is to learn to use punctuation.
Puh-lease. It was commentary on the total lack of grammar in the OP. For all I know the Op is a veritable Prince Among Posters, yea a Bodhisattva of the Intrawebs. We should all wait with bated breath to see what further communications the Chosen One makes with us.
I didn’t mean to post that. My apologies.
Enough, folks. Your heartfelt advice about the OP’s sentence construction has been given. Now either address the actual content of the post, or stay out of the thread.
What’s done is done. Focus on what you need to do to fix the situation.
What is your home country, Rago? Here in the U.S., I know quite a few exes who live together because they can’t afford housing otherwise.
WHat specifically are you upset about? There are two things I would worry about in your situation.
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You and your girlfriend made plans to live together. Your girlfriend spent a lot of effort to come live with you. You are no longer able to follow those plans. You’ve discovered she can’t go home. The only place she can stay is with an ex-boyfriend. You feel bad about breaking your promises and putting her in an uncomfortable situation.
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You’re worried that she’ll resume dating the ex-boyfriend while you straighten out the problems that are holding you back.
I have no advice for the first problem. If it’s the second problem (jealousy), think about why she broke up with that person. Usually people leave a relationship because something about their partner was unpleasant or bothersome. He may have realized he made a mistake and changed his behavior, but it’s unlikely (people generally don’t change dramatically in this short a time). However, if she left her previous BF simply because you’re a better choice, than she may go back to him.
Either way, your best course of action is to put every effort into solving your problems as quickly as possible (the problems that made you send her away).
Regrets are the only thing I have left.
Regrets. I’ve had a few. But then again, too few to mention. I did what I had to do, and saw it through without exemption.
Regrets and sadness are what I survive on. If it weren’t for that I’d probably be happy or something. Ick!!