Relationship with a Narcissist?

alliw76, I might suggest that you take a look at this youtube video. It is a 12 minute TED talk by Guy Winch, and the title of the talk is “How to fix a broken heart”. He speaks of some possible ways to overcome some of the pain you are experiencing: e.g., the racing thoughts and continually trying to dissect “what happened?”.

Perhaps this will be some use to you (and others whose hearts have been broken).

A video isn’t going to make the pain go away, but perhaps it will invoke some new thinking or new approaches.

Thank you. I will certainly watch this!