bleach
May 1, 2018, 10:31am
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alliw76:
Who needs a therapist with all of you to help! (I really am seeing one though!) Your thoughts and advice have been so helpful. I have read over your posts several times and you have given me insight and things to think about, that perhaps I wouldn’t have.
I would really love to believe that he has some good in him and that he will find that some day. I realize that what I miss and the heartbreak I feel is for someone that doesn’t really exist…it was just the person he showed me, to win me over. It doesn’t make it any easier knowing that…it still hurts like hell. We did have some really great times and wonderful memories mixed in with the lies, deception and manipulation. I truly loved “him” and thought that I could be enough to help him and make him happy. And believe me, I tried. But, all he ever seemed to do was things to hurt me and was never sorry for any of it. I held on as long as I could and I forgave him for MANY things along the way.
I worry about being able to trust again, IF I ever decide I am ready to try. I have stopped all communication with him. I just wish my head would stop thinking about him and memories would quit rushing back. “Racing thoughts are the worst kind of plague.” So very true.
Thank you all!!!
alliw76 , I might suggest that you take a look at this youtube video . It is a 12 minute TED talk by Guy Winch, and the title of the talk is “How to fix a broken heart” . He speaks of some possible ways to overcome some of the pain you are experiencing: e.g., the racing thoughts and continually trying to dissect “what happened?”.
Perhaps this will be some use to you (and others whose hearts have been broken).
A video isn’t going to make the pain go away, but perhaps it will invoke some new thinking or new approaches.
bleach:
alliw76 , I might suggest that you take a look at this youtube video . It is a 12 minute TED talk by Guy Winch, and the title of the talk is “How to fix a broken heart” . He speaks of some possible ways to overcome some of the pain you are experiencing: e.g., the racing thoughts and continually trying to dissect “what happened?”.
Perhaps this will be some use to you (and others whose hearts have been broken).
A video isn’t going to make the pain go away, but perhaps it will invoke some new thinking or new approaches.
Thank you. I will certainly watch this!