Suppose two men had the same gross pay each month but one man had his health insurance covered and his retirement contribution covered while the other had neither. Should the individual with the insurance and retirement fund add that to his reported earnings? This is actually from a discussion I had years ago, not sure why I am thinking about it now as it is irrelevant.
In Canada those would be considered taxable benefits and you’d both have to declare them as income, and pay taxes on their value.
Geez, for a dating site, who cares? I suspect that half the guys are lying anyway. I’d just use whatever appears on my income tax form.
Suppose you had a retired guy, house paid for, cars paid for, no bills and enough money in the bank to handle a new car or any other things that might pop up. Say his income was only $50,000 a year. He could easily support a lifestyle typical of someone in the $100,000 a year bracket. Would it be deceitful for him to list his income status in the $100,000 range?
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I’d ask myself first - what sort of person would only consider the person with the $100K income and not the $50K income. Sure, you have more disposable income than a person with 50K and a mortgage, but you’re also not looking to encumber yourself with a mortgage, so that person looking at the $100K and up people might feel like you misrepresented yourself, because you’re not going to buy them the over-priced house of their dreams.
And what social class do you think you belong to? Did you make $100K before you retired and are you keeping up that level of lifestyle? Did you downgrade your lifestyle when you retired?
I doubt people on a dating site are going to audit your books to make sure you make the amount you said you were, but they are going to have general expectations of what your life is like based on what you make. If you want to raise your supposed income some, I don’t think that would be a problem. It’s more about managing expectations and finding someone you have things in common with.
Yes. How is that even a question?
His income is what’s asked for, and you’re saying his income is $50k, if he puts anything other than that, then yes it’s obviously deceitful.
But I agree, it’s a dating site, they aren’t checking, and most everyone is fudging their answers, I would guess.
So why would anybody actually care?
Sure. Of course, if you want to go to McDonald’s on your first date it might blow your cover.
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I would never put my income into a dating site and I would assume anyone who did was joking or lying about it.
Dating sites ask for your income? I guess it’s been too long since I’ve used one of those sites. I honestly didn’t know that was a thing.
It was a Sat afternoon, our second or third date. I was hungry so I asked her if she wanted to go to to a French restaurant. She said yes; I pulled into Roy [del]Roger’s[/del] Roget’s. 
No, she didn’t dump me.
^ This. No effen way! Besides, we have this current thread about a couple who makes ½-million & can’t cover their expenses so salary alone is misleading.
This. And anyone who’d accept or disqualify me based on that isn’t worth dating.
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I put in really low numbers on those sites. I’m hauling in a smooth 12K per year. Yessirr. I don’t think anyone even reads that shit.
Back when I used to fill that spot in, I just used the number on my W-2. But, then, I’m an over thinker. If my W-2 said 29,900, I couldn’t get myself to check the 30,000-40,000 range.
It should be kept in mind that (at least in the states), the employee portion of a health insurance premium isn’t included on your W-2 (since it’s not taxable) and that can add a few thousand extra.
Coupla things:
1)While anyone can be in debt up to their eyeballs, some people making, say, 60k per year worry that if they end up in a relationship with someone making 17k/year they’ll end up footing some of their bills.
Granted, how much someone makes shouldn’t really be a deciding factor in who you date, I can understand the fear of going into debt because you’re helping your SO swing rent or credit card bills every month. Of course, just because you’re making X amount doesn’t mean you don’t manage your money just fine.
I think also that even if we ignore financial class, people are often hoping to find someone at the same level of career as they are. That is, if someone is a partner at a lawfirm, they might skip past someone slinging drinks at a bar.
2)I heard (read?) a study years ago that (and I’m making the numbers up) if you take two men that are otherwise equal, the shorter one has to make $10,000 per year more for every inch shorter they are than the other one. That is, if one guy is 6’1’‘, then the one that’s 5’10’’ has to make $30,000 more for women to consider them ‘equal’. I assume this isn’t done consciously. And it probably says more about height than income*.
Some quick poking around makes it look like the number is more like $30k per inch shorter.
*I’m guessing just about every guy that’s been on a dating site for even a short amount of time sees how many women make statements like ‘I’m 5’8 and like wearing heels, don’t message me unless you’re 6’ or taller’.
The funny thing, to me, is how sexist it would come off if a guy said ‘I’m 6’, don’t message me unless you’re shorter than 5’11’’ when you have heels on’.
This is an interesting example of how economists and accountants have radically different views. If you’re trying to attract a professional economist, go ahead and include the value of your imputed rent, because you should have little difficulty convincing her that imputed rent of a home you own outright is equivalent to income. If you’re trying to attract an accountant (or just about anybody else), and you include imputed rent as income, you’ll have a hard time convincing her you’re not full of shit.
Logically, I tend to side with the economists. But I still wouldn’t include imputed rent because virtually everyone except maybe economists would find it deceptive when they find out the details.
This. I am not currently on dating sites, but any questionnaire that asks for my income I always choose the lowest bracket.
I never had a maximum height but back when I was dating I had a must be 5’6" or taller to ride policy. None of the girls I dismissed seemed to have a huge problem with it since it was obvious why I didn’t want to date girls more than a foot shorter then me.
As far as telling people how much you make if saying you make $50k more then you do gets you more women do you really want to date the girls that makes a difference to? I could see lying if you were making less than $15/hr so people didn’t think you had a Mcjob but once you’re making 40k per year or more you’re in the regular job range and I doubt it matters much any more unless they are hunting rich people.
People tell the truth on dating sites?