I have been worried for three days or more. I get nervous and it makes me sick to my stomach. I have a feeling of impending doom. I fear my boyfriend is going to break up with me tonight. On our last email today he said “I’ll be over around 9. I want to talk, preferably in person.” This is after he’s been really upset about his job all day, so I don’t know. He did call me “bebe” at the end of the email.
I am a paranoid freak.
If you’re that worried about it, it probably will happen. Hope that doesn’t sound too harsh. I’ve been where you’re sitting so many times just hearing about it makes my stomach clench.
Sorry, honey.
Have a beer, maybe two. Put on some kick-ass girl music that makes you shout and jump around dancing. Have some fun, and then answer the door with a smile.
Since you know it’s coming you can prepare a little speech to really make him feel like shit. Grin the whole time, giggle a little, and change the subject, like, “That’s too bad. By the way, what do you think about my new lip gloss?”
My BEST break-ups were when I walked away feeling totally in control of the situation.
Then I could cry until my eyes were red, and still feel proud about the way I acted.
Speaking as a guy, I wouldn’t get too paranoid just yet. If, he’s been upset about work recently, it might be that he’s made some big, important decision that he wants to share with you. He might have decided to quit his job and see what you think about it, you never know.
Have you guys been going through a rough patch recently? Have you been arguing or fighting about anything? Break-ups don’t usually come out of the blue, there are often at least a few warning signs.
Let us know how it goes, hon, and we’ll be here for you if it turns out that your fears were right.
Maybe he wants to propose.
Luck Indygrrl
That’s assuming the big IT is comming. Of course, you would know best by subtle (or not so) signs leading you to your decision.
If it comes to your fears, I don’t think immediate vindiction is the way to go - I don’t know if you have ever been on either end of the line but neither is fun. I agree that being in controll is important, but being in controll of your emotions includes empathy toward your friend as well (yes, it does). Try to (calmly) hear him out and thank him for being respectful enough to see you in person, that’s it. If you feel like talking fine, but refrain from arguing - it is doubtful that you will change his mind and it will probably make you feel worse.
Remember; this shouldn’t be about one-upmanship (besides, If he intended on hurting you - a simple “thank you for telling me” would be significantly more insulting than any line you could think of - it shows you’re mature, in controll of your emotions and ready to move on [so quickly, ouch!] - ok, a little one-upmanship, but only if he’s a jerk about it :wally).
This sort of thing is tough on everyone involved, being upset is expected but being crass is disrespectful - to yourself as well as your friend.
And again, maybe he just bought some Cubs tickets…
How did that whole “birthday” thing go, anyway?
How is Rap like Porn? Both are better with the sound turned off.
If a guy is going to break up with you, there are usually signs before hand. Like he starts to call less, you’ve been argueing more etc. So if he’s been acting the way he usually does you’ve probably got nothing to worry about.
Good luck.
I was wondering the same thing. After that party surely he isn’t going to dump her! 
Ok, I’m on crack, I guess. He came over with his overnight bag and everything was perfectly normal. He vented about work and then we just talked about random things and went to bed.
I have this anxiety problem sometimes. It’s uncontrollable worry for no reason. I never used to be like this until I dated one particular guy who dumped me in the blink of an eye. I had no warning it was going to happen. My current bf is my first serious relationship since that happened. I think I’m just freaking out because I’m worried I will be heartbroken again.
The birthday thing went GREAT. Yet another reason I am crazy for worrying.
Indy - chronic anxiety is not a good thing to live with. There are wonderful medications out there with minimal side effects that can work miracles. And be weary of Self-Fulfilling Profecies. They have a tendency to come true…
Luck and good vibes to you.
Isn’t medication a little over the top? She’s just a little nervous because she thinks her boyfriend may dump her. I think most people would feel like that in her situation.
She said she wasn’t a little nervous. She said she has an “anxiety problem”. People with “anxiety problems” may find that medication and/or therapy helps with that.
Indy, medication may not be necessary, but I’d suggest you go see a therapist. It may be enough to talk about your problems.
If medication is necessary don’t be afraid to use it. I have for a number of years now and it’s a big help.
Opps. I somehow managed to miss Indygrrl’s second post.
Details woman!
Photos, videos ect.
Was any funiture broken or at least stained?
Indy, you might not be overly anxious.
If he’s having a bad time at work he may be less communicative, more distant, a little short-tempered.
He’s not telling you because he doesn’t want to whine, but you know something is wrong.
good to hear things are OK and the birthday went well.
I’m coming out for the Grand Prix. You are invited, with BF of course, to come drink copious amounts of home brew beer with us at the track if you are so inclined. I’ll get ahold of you as the race gets closer and plans firm. Beware, I cook.