Per a discussion with Vestal Blue, I thought I’d put this out here. Let’s see which one of us is more right. Ladies, does your SO still send flowers for no reason, call you out of the blue to say ‘thinking about you’ or are those just memories. Guys, be honest here, how many of you actually do romantic things just because you know she’ll love it?
No and no, but they’re not just memories either because he never did.
So, whose case am I helping?
“It’s okay. I wouldn’t remember me either.”
Well, I usually only get flowers on my birthday or when he has screwed up big time. However, he calls me all the time just to tell me that he is thinking about me. Pretty sweet, but we have been married for only eight months. I’m sure five years from now, I’ll be complaining that he doesn’t call me enough.
Shadowfox
Flee at once, all is discovered!
I call my wife once a day to tell her I love her. I buy her roses once a month minimum, sometimes more often. I work from home so I do laundry, housecleaning and most of the cooking. No, I am not a wimp. Marcie saved my life, really, actually saved my life and there is nothing I would not do for her.
Yeah but Neobican did introduce you to the Straight Dope. I can’t think of a more loving act!
“You CAN’T be evil. 'Cos no matter how many ‘bad’ things you do on purpose,
you MUST be doing it because you think it’s the right thing to do.”
Yeah, as I told PB, I still do stuff like that, and take heart Shadow, we’ve been married over 17 years now.
I:
Send flowers to her office (great for ‘good guy’ points 
)
When we lived in Indiana I collected wildflower bouqets for her in the Spring.
Call her just to say “I love you”
Back rubs
Foot rubs
Cook special meals for her
Give her cards for no reason
Anything else I can think of when the mood arises
VB
I could never eat a mouse raw…their little feet are probably real cold going down. :rolleyes:
I’m impressed. So, romantic males are not just a dying breed. Cool! Even though some of you guys still need work. I told you,VB, my man needs lessons. How much do you charge? And Shadow, I’m celebrating my 21st anniversary today, and I just got flowers, the first time in many years. So,it depends on both of you to keep the flame going. It’s the one-sidedness that hurts us.
CrystalGuy, I would never call you a wimp. You sound like a wonderful guy to me. Can we clone you and VB???
I am in a marriage of convenience, so there is little romance to speak of. I once got a big florid anniversary card signed simply, “Steve”. Like I wouldn’t know who it was from? I told him if he was going to give me a card with “To My Dearest Dariling Wife” on the front, he might as well go whole hog and sign it, “Love, Steve”.
So he does that now. And on Valentine’s Day he gives our daughter and me flowers , he heard the music and danced! I’m talking major flowers, an arrangement that wouldn’t look out of place at a society funeral! (I think the women he works with pick them out.) Now, my big-bucks brother threw a surprise 40th birthday party for his wife with 200 guests. And he “kidnaps” her on her birthdays now, you know, mystery trips - to a concert, to a weekend in New York City, to Jamaica. MUST BE NICE!
Why married women get fat:
A single woman looks in her fridge, doesn’t see anything she wants and goes to bed.
A married woman looks in her bed, doesn’t see anything she wants and goes to her fridge.
Been there, done that. Once you say the “I do’s” it’s all downhill from there.
SW
Salinq, if you don’t mind my asking, what are the circumstances of your marriage?
Remember, I’m pulling for you; we’re all in this together.
—Red Green
My hubby is the best. Buys me flowers (occasionally), lets me buy what I want (which isn’t much cause I do the finances!), gives me back rubs, and wants to be with me all the time. PLUS, he does laundry, vacuums, takes care of dishes, and doesn’t leave his underwear laying around.
I notice that this seems to be going all one way or the other, not much middle ground here. Interesting! Salinq, I too, must confess to being quite curious as to what you meant by a ‘marriage of convenience’. That sounds rather lonely to me. And as for not leaving his underwear lying around, I wish I could say the same. And socks and jeans, and his briefcase, and… you get the idea. But he’s a great cook when he’s in the mood, and he has loved me through thick and thin, good times and bad, in sickness and in health, and way too many surgeries. That counts for a lot to me.
I try to do romantic things to please her. I call from work just to say hi. I give her back rubs, foot rubs, anyting else rubs. For Valentines day I made her truffles because I know she loves them. I like doing things for her becasue I want her to know how much I love her and I want her to feel as special as she is to me. I think I’ll go call her now.
John
Not being one to toot my own horn, I shall lure GBS here (she always searches for my username) so she may tell you what a great/romantic/sexy guy I am.
For excessive smiley useage:
“Cancel the kitchen scraps for widows and orphans! No more merciful beheadings!! And cancel Christmas!!!”
My husband may not send flowers or call out of the blue but he brings me a cup of coffee in bed every morning and when our son wakes up in the middle of the night he says “don’t get up, I’ll take care of it.” That’s worth WAY more than flowers.
Note to batgirl: I agree. It’s the little every day things that show us that we’re loved; however, a little romance never hurt either. I know beyond any doubt that my hubby loves me, I still want/need to hear him SAY it and SHOW it now and then. Show that he thinks of me enough to get me a card, pick some wildflowers, whatever, just because he’s thinking of me. I don’t know about the rest of you, but that kind of stuff is a MAJOR turn-on in the love dept. 
I must confess, I do not do that stuff nearly as often as I need to.
My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years. She is the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I try to do things around the house and do stuff for her. But as life gets hectic sometimes I forget to romance her. (Having a 3 year old and another on the way does not help a whole lot).
She stays home with our daughter, so I do not send flowers to the house. We are watching what we eat so no candy. But I should do more in the romance department.
Thanks for reminding me and for making me fell guilty ;).
Jeffery
My hubby and I have been married almost 15 years.
This year for my birthday a friend said, “Do you still look forward to birthdays or are they something you dread?”
I thought about it and I realized that I always have this secret hope that someone (read:hubby) will do something really neat. I’m not disappointed when it doesn’t happen (because I don’t really expect it), but, strangely, I actually look forward to having a special day with my name on it.
For my birthday, I got a book, bubble bath stuff, & 2 cards, from the kids & him. My neighbor surprised me with a birthday cake. My first birthday cake in 17 years-So naturally I was pleasantly surprised this year.
For Valentine’s day-nothing. Not even a card. This year, like every year he said, “Well it was just your birthday last week, so I didn’t think you felt like making a big deal again”.
Aren’t you glad you asked?
My chief… I could not begin to tell you the things this man has done for me. Flowers… not just flowers, but crystal vases to put them in. Dinners out… only in the best of places. Home cooked meals… not only home cooked meals, but this man has cooked for two weeks, just to fill my freezer so that I might enjoy his meals while he is gone. But most of all this man filled my heart with love. He gave me my life back. He put the sun and stars in my life again. In return I have give him all my love, my heart and a partner to always stand beside him…
Girlbysea (AKA: ChiefScott’s GBS)