I’m a guy, but I will answer. We’ve been together for nearly a year and a half, we don’t live together.
**cleans or cooks without being asked? **
Me: All the time. I would say that unless we are going out, I typically cook. Often I drive to Jefferson City (30 miles), get there before she is off work, cook her a meal that is almost ready when she walks in the door. I would say at least once a week, sometimes 3-4 times. Also, she is very messy so when I visit, I typically have to do her laundry, dishes and pick up things around the house as well as take out her trash.
Her: Once a month or so. She offers to pay for dinner quite a bit, but I think she feels I am the better cook.
leaves you a sweet romantic message (note, phonecall, e-mail)?
Me: Less now, but I would say at least several times a month, sometimes as often as once a week.
Her: Once or twice a month on occasions, sometimes a month goes by with nothing.
**surprises you with a small thoughtful gift when it isn’t your birthday? **
Me: Often if you count flowers, a card or a surprise dinner. I don’t buy her jewelry and such, mostly because I don’t have loads of cash. I am a poor student.
Her: Not too often, Once or twice since we have been together.
takes you out to dinner? There has to be some planning involved, so “I’m hungry and we both
forgot to get groceries, so let’s grab some pizza” doesn’t count.
Me: At least once a week.
Her: Rarely if ever.
surprise you with flowers (If you like flowers?)
Me: At least once a month, sometimes a couple or several times.
Her: Never, but I would think it would be weird to have a girl buy me flowers.
rub your feet or back? (If you like massage)
Me: At least 5 minutes every time I see her. I swear sometimes I think she takes it for granted and she is always talking about how sore she is and how this Petella sticks out more than her other one or some other PT talk. (I think she is a hypochondriac and gets it from her job as a Physical Therapist)
Her: Once since we’ve been together. Mabey two or three times, but I have forgotten about them if so. The one time was like 10-15 minutes of Myo-Facial (sp?) release or something sounding like it. (I’ve never asked her how to spell it, sorry)
**do something you like, but he doesn’t ? Does he show some initiative: “Honey, I bought two tickets to the ballet” or does he go along grudgingly “Okay, Okay, I’ll go with you to that stupid ballet if that really makes you happy” . **
Me: I watch movies with her I wouldn’t have any desire to watch, but she refuses to watch movies that I like but she doesn’t. I do kind of complain about things I don’t like though. For example, Her mom is coming out this weekend and they wish to go dress shopping. Her Dad is coming and she wants me to hang out with him (keep in mind that when she goes shopping it isn’t for a couple hours, typically all day). He is very quiet, very religious and we don’t share much in common. I am pretty quiet around people like that, so I just know it is going to be awkward. I told her I would do it, but I had a bad feeling it was going to be a bad day.
**go out of his way to do something really romantic (that involves at least two weeks planning) for bigger occasions, like anniversaries, Valentine’s day or birthdays? **
Me: Uhh, two weeks planning for something really romantic? I guess If I had money and her work was more flexible, I would plan a retreat or something, but what else is there? Plan on buying her a present two weeks in advance? I can do that. In fact, I would say that I am planning on buying presents for her Birthday, Anniversery, Christmas and Valentines day nearly a year in advance each time!