I like Tisha, but was three minutes of brow-beating necessary?
I guess I’ll have to wait for my arms to fall off to find the answer.
I thought it was pretty funny. She was good on Tosh too. She probably get’s a hundred emails/comments a day asking literally the same question and she was probably sick of it so maybe this was a good way to tell everyone at once that she’s not going to answer it.
The only exception to that is when the children were all born before any of them were diagnosed.
Based on what a few other conjoined twins have said about dating and mating, typically the one “not involved” does his or her best to tune out what’s happening with the other twin. Chang and Eng Bunker had separate wives and apparently when one twin was doing it with his wife the other was pretty much ignoring what was going on. They usually spent three days with one twin in charge then switched to the other being charge, to the extent of traveling to a different household every three days. They made it work… they didn’t have a choice, did they? A female conjoined pair stated once that while one was dating the other usually buried her attention in a book.
Anyone dating either of the Hensel twins is simply going to have to be someone who can handle another person being present all the time. It’s going to definitely complicate their love lives. You can’t use normal standards because in that respect they aren’t normal. Their lives are full of constant negotiation and compromise and they have to make it work because they simply don’t have a choice.
Of course, we’re assuming conjoined twins are monogamous. Be a hell of a lot easier on everyone if they could both fall in love with the same man, and he both of them. Not impossible, and also none of our business.
(My ex and I used to have a tag line, which is appropriate here: “Another plot line solved by…polyamory!”)
That was obnoxious. Jeezus.
The Hensels always seem like such normal girls (well, now women) other than being conjoined twins. They seem like the type who would marry super normal men and have super normal families, the kind you would see in an LL Bean catalog. So, I’m not sure how that’s going to work, because I think most people who would consider dating a conjoined twin would be huge weirdos.
Well, it depends on whether the main attraction is Abby or Brittany or if the attraction is conjoined twinning. There are people who marry the disabled/deformed/odd because they love the person, and others who are fetish chasers. The former learn to work around the difficult/awkward bits because that’s what you do in any relationship. The latter… well, they’re not there for the person but for the physical oddity.
Mine isn’t exactly a question, but a response that I want to give to a coworker about her life situation. Don’t get me wrong; I really do like her. She’s as sweet as the sun on a spring day, intelligent, and enormously cute. However, she keeps getting herself into emotionally and physically abusive relationships. I have never cried at work, but I will admit that when my boss showed me the photo of her battered face and why she wouldn’t be at work for a few days, I had big fat ploppy tears in my eyes.
She keeps wondering why men treat her so badly. I want more than anything to take her by the shoulders and point her towards a mirror. I want to tell her, “That’s why. You consciously choose bad guys. For every bad guy you date, there are 100 good men that would treat you well and make you ridiculously happy. Your problem is of your own making.”
The next time she’s out for a week because she’s had the shit beaten out of her, I may actually say it.
That doesn’t seem rude to me at all, that just seems like a genuine attempt to help her out.
(Be warned, though, if my experiences in the past is anything to go by, the chances are that she will not want to hear what you’re saying, or take it in, no matter how up-front you are with her. I’m guessing her reaction won’t be: “Oh, right! Why didn’t I think of that before! Problem solved, then.” Stuff like this goes deep.)
I feel the same way about women who gave birth to more planned children than they could adequately care for, especially if their husbands don’t co-parent. Folks, there are ways to prevent that nowadays. :rolleyes:
Unless they were all born at the same time, I’d think that after two with the same condition, you might consider the possibility that more will also have it and stop having kids.
My question plays off one of the above: I’ve seen tons of situations like that on TV shows where, usually, women engage in a never ending stream of abusive relationships. I’m not curious about why they’d stay in one or go back once they’ve left, but why after having many of them repeatedly, do they even have any at all? If I had the personality that lent itself to choosing men like that, I’d finally prefer being alone to being beat. I just don’t understand the constant need for any relationship instead of being by yourself.
I think the great majority are probably born into it. For the rest…well, I guess if you experience what you consider a divine revelation and decide to convert, any “earthly” concerns seem secondary?
Not necessarily even “abusive” relationships, but bad relationships in general. If you, for whatever reason, can’t seem to maintain long term, healthy relationships at what point do you consider that maybe you’re just not good at them? I’m talking about people who have been married and divorced over and over but keep getting married. Maybe try some therapy or something first, damn. Because even if the split is always your ex’s fault (and it always is), maybe it’s time to explore why you keep choosing that type of partner.
I wonder if dogs are intelligent enough to wonder how humans lick their balls.
Wow, that came off more ranty than I expected. My sister is wife number 4 to my brother in law and he’s a complete douche, so it’s more personal than my other questions. My question to her would be “Hey, why’d you marry such a colossal douche?” but there isn’t any answer she can give that would make sense to me so I tend to keep my opinions to myself in that situation.
We have lots of community service workers where I work. I always want to ask them what they did.
If you do, please also add that she can learn how to recognize the red flag behaviors of an abusive asshole before she gets involved with him, and then take that as a sign not to get involved. Otherwise it may simply come off as you telling her she deserves what she gets. I’m sure she gets enough “It’s your fault I hit you” from her various asshole boyfriends.
BTW, LOVE your username. 
I think in some cases they aren’t mentally/socially prepared to be on their own. I briefly had a co-worker a battered woman’s shelter was trying to rehabilitate, but the problem was that she had never been “habilitated” in the first place. 45 years old and she had never had her own bank account, a paying job, housing in her name, or quite a few other things I had managed to obtain by age 18. She had truly been taught to depend upon a man for such things, and openly called the rest of us who were able to support ourselves “losers” and speculated about how unattractive we had to be and how we obviously were working because we couldn’t land a man (never mind some of us with 20+ year marriages…)
She was a problem at work because of the blatant favoritism she gave male customers over women and children, and eventually left after she convinced one of those male customers to take her in.
Anyhow - due to her perceived need for a man to take care of things she probably had a deplorable tendency to glom onto any that showed any interest at all, without much regard to the quality of the man as a human being.
I’d love to ask one of my friends, who wasn’t in the best financial, emotional, work/life situation, why the hell her and her husband deliberately decided to get pregnant. Instead I just eyeroll to myself when she complains about not having any me-time anymore.