I don’t understand what this means
All that does make sense. I feel kind of stupid for not having thought of it. I think it’s partly because I’ve just had a fairly crap pregnancy and couldn’t imagine why anyone would go to that much hassle just for the sake of being pregnant (as opposed to for the sake of having a baby who’s your blood child, for which I personally still wouldn’t have gone to all that hassle, but I can understand people who do).
I’m pretty sure she needed an egg because of age. I think she’s in her mid-forties.
I was going to guess that maybe he has some sort of wound on his body and bandages it semi-regularly, and the bandages cause a different shape sometimes.
Does she also have facial hair and/or adult acne? Polycystic ovary syndrome can cause this too.
Depends on where you live. Maybe they got the house paid off (or a previous house) before they had the kids, and the kids are going to the private school on a scholarship? It’s also possible that the SAHP has a lucrative at-home business.
If they were deeply in debt, trust me, you’d hear about it. :rolleyes:
My pastor has 7 kids, and the ones who are school age all attend a local private school that costs something like $15,000 per child per year. :eek: I had wondered how they could swing this, and found out that this school has an endowment that provides free tuition to children of clergy.
Plus, some people really want to experience being pregnant and/or breastfeeding. The later is sometimes possible without giving birth, but you can really only experience pregnancy by being pregnant. 
I went to college in a town that has Asians of all types, and I can tell them apart.
I also did clinical rotations on the Zuni Indian Reservation, which borders the Navajo Nation and has a sizable Navajo population, and was told that I would quickly be able to tell them apart. At first, I was skeptical, but quickly figured out who was who, just by looking at them. The Zunis look Hispanic, while the Navajos have an Asian appearance to the point where some of them were held as POWs by American soldiers who assumed they were Japanese based on this and their own non-fluency in English. :eek:
Later, I worked in a town that had a lot of Bosnian refugees, and I could quickly tell them from native-born Americans too, because they all looked very similar. They are taller than most Americans (the women are the same height as the average American man, as am I, and the men average around 6 feet) and have very round faces with pointy noses. About 90% are blond, and 10% have dark hair. I never really appreciated the “American melting pot” until I worked there.
More recently, my parents and I were at my brother’s house, and while we were there, three black boys, aged about 9, 11, and 13, walked by. My dad kind of went “harrumph” and :rolleyes:. I wondered what that was all about, and later, he asked my brother if this city had any Sudanese refugees. My brother replied, “No, we don’t. Are you talking about those boys we saw earlier?” Dad replied that he was, and my brother said, “They’re American. They live up the street, and go to the convenience store on the corner every day about this time and get Slurpees.”
She and/or her husband/partner may be a carrier for a deadly genetic disease, and don’t want to risk passing this on to their children.
I was thinking a colostomy too, but shouldn’t a properly fitted, functioning colostomy bag not be visible under clothing, on top of there being no smell?
Again, it depends on the part of the intestine which had to be removed, and how urgently, as well as the patient’s shape. My husband’s colostomy was an emergency, so there was no “proper fitting”, and he’s got a tum like Tweedledee. The part of the intestine that had to be removed in emergency surgery only allowed the stoma (the part the bag goes over) to be placed on the most pointy-out bit of his tum. While we did what we could with clothing, it was still pretty noticeable at times, especially as it filled. (It’s since been reversed, and the plumbing returned to normal, thank goodness!)
The rectangularish shape sometimes seen is probably the empty bag, while the bag full or filling of fecal material is going to look lumpy and irregular.
Ugh, yes. The same thing is happening with a friend of my partner’s, and it’s really fucking annoying. “This dude had jealous meltdowns whenever he saw you hug a male friend. He frequently stopped talking to you for days at a time for no reason. You’re convinced he’s hiding a kid from a previous marriage. He stood you up on what was meant to be your wedding day because ‘work got busy’. He dumped you on your anniversary by showing you pictures of his new fiancée and TELLING YOU HE HATES YOU AND NEVER WANTS TO SEE YOU AGAIN! WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU TRYING TO GET HIM BACK?! YOU SHOULD BE THANKING GOD THIS ASSHOLE IS OUT OF YOUR LIFE!”
I read as “If you knew your family’s less than stellar psych history, why would you have natural children knowing these problems can be passed on and why would you continue to have children after the first one was born with problems?”
I can tell just fine when I’m done wiping without looking at the TP. It’s not that hard.
That’s what I figured, but I am trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, you know?
Many have thought they were clean when in fact they were not.
I really have to bite my tongue at many religious remarks. I mean, really, you think your sick wife got better because all the 150 people in your church prayed for her?
No, I mean, do you really, REALLY think that? Seriously?
I always try to translate it. “Ill pray for you” can convey roughly the same friendly sentiment as “I’'ll send you good thoughts”. Or, if meant sarcastically, it translates as: "“Good luck. You’'ll need it”.
But how should I translate that kind of remark? As “We tried to stay positive, and the love in our family gave my wife the strenght to battle her illness”? (Which is also nonsense woo, but the non-religious variety. )
But if they really, literally mean it, I’m baffled. I don’'t even want to ask a rude question; I just want to back away slowly and never trust that person with any important factual decision ever again.
This chartmay come in handy.
Certainly, it’s a rude question. I think it’s valid though. Sort of like my “Why not abort the mermaid baby?” question, except in that case they knew with certainty that their baby wasn’t going to be “normal.” It isn’t that I think they should have aborted, or that I think people with a negative psychological background should not have children, but it would be interesting for me if I could see into the minds of people who choose to start a person off at a potentially severe disadvantage.
I wonder the same thing about families with Down Syndrome babies. Not because I think DS babies should all die but I wonder, did you not test? Did you just not know, or did you know and not care? Or that woman who had the kid who was born with just a brain stem. Can’t hear, see, talk, move deliberately, etc. In that case, why bother?
Rude and absolutely none of my business. Still, I wonder. Not because I have opinions on what they should have done but because I’m curious about the why of what they decided.
OCD and Asperger’s are such wildly different conditions, it’s like assuming a parent with a family history of cancer is responsible for their children having Type I Diabetes and Arthritis. All psychological conditions are not created equal. There are many different causes, and we often can’t tell one way or the other. Some are very treatable. Others, not so much.
I will admit one significant factor in my desire to adopt rather than give birth is the possibility that my child will inherit the severe treatment-resistant depression that runs in my family. It’s a pretty fucking miserable way to live.
ETA: Forgot my rude question. I want to ask my grandmother if there was an autopsy on her dead son and whether they were able to determine if he had an accidental heroine overdose or actually deliberately killed himself. But considering I’m not even supposed to know he died of a heroine OD, I don’t think that will go over too well.
What on earth are you talking about? There are documented physiological health benefits to stress reduction, one method of which is having emotional and physical support in times of stress.
“We know stress is a contributor to all the major modern killers.”
They couldn’t in China. I worked there with a very good Filipino friend, who didn’t look particularly Chinese at all- she was generally darker and rounder than your average Chinese woman. For the entire two years she was there, she would have a very difficult time explaining that she was not Chinese. Most people she encountered were genuinely baffled as to why she couldn’t speak particularly well, and assumed she was mentally challenged or something. Some people would even argue back with her when she protested that she’s not Chinese.
That said, when you factor in clothing, body language, etc. it becomes a little easier to make distinctions. I couldn’t tell if a random person on the street is Chinese, but I can certainly tell when a Chinese tour group rolls through.