Seconded. Just be aware that a certain contingent of high-horsers is gonna be gunning for you, either viciously, snidely or coyly. If you take a posting sabbatical with the express intent of letting the trainwrecks subside, all you’ll accomplish is to deprive yourself of whatever you might get out of the board in the meantime, and whenever you try to return all the high-and-mightyers will still be waiting for you. I’d suggest you try more innocuous threads for a while and try thereby to develop a personna that isn’t so easy to find fault with. If you are posting threads and comments that are relatively harmless (surely you’re interested in at least some innocuous subjects ) and people still come gunning for you, they’ll look like jerks then and it’ll backfire on them.
Now, to get down into the dirt and talk about peoples’ looks, I guess just about everybody will be shocked to find that I am totally mystified as to why anyone finds Demi Moore attractive. I don’t, at all! I think Rumer is far more attractive. (A Google search turns up lots of pics and I think she looks just fine in most of them, although a bad camera angle does seem to exaggerate her chin.) IMO, the worst thing about her is that ridiculous name.
There is something about Chelsea Clinton that I find very alluring and always have (well, since she hit majority, anyway ).
She hangs out with vapid partiers, I’ll give you that. What exactly does that have to do with her looks? Not everyone is blessed with good looks, especially by Hollywood standards. To attack a girl because of how her parents’ genes happened to mix during conception is pretty damn shallow, no matter what the premise.
Yanno, back in the day I thought Demi was absolutely adorable. But then she did the monumental MUST BE BONE THIN thing (that’s gotten so many, like Nicole), that now she’s nothing but angles. Don’t get me wrong, I still see the appeal and I think she’s a beautiful and striking woman, but geez I’d like her to eat some and not just work out all the time. Their all gorgeous enough as it is without resorting to such extremes.
As to Rumer (and I like her name, by the way), I think she’s very pretty and will only become more so as she ages. About who she hangs out with, I’m not really sure that at 20 (or whatever), that really can’t be held too much against her in regards to the fenzy-freeding press. I also think Alexa Joel is a freakin’ knockout! Those eyes and lip combination conjure up, to me anyway, a bedroom sultry, kind of exotic, look. Rwwwr. Chelsea has turned out to be pretty striking too in a natural beauty sense. And they all have amazing bodies that I’d kill for. Damn.
Anyway, Ashton … I certainly understand the flocking of the female species. He’s incredibly pretty, like an Abercrombie model brought to life straight from the catalog pages. Tasseled hair and stubble and forever the best clothes in the most stylish way. Plus, we aren’t exactly privy to the escapades that take place in the sack. Perhaps he’s hung like a horse and can perform like Don Juan. Might explain a lot.
You don’t get a pass, but your behavior IS more explainable. It can be written off as a misguided attempt at competition, or perhaps jealousy.
Not that I am ascribing either of those motives to you, but among a group of people the same age, given your self-description, it’s a safe response.
On the other hand, MizGrand’s posts in this thread have the creepy “why is Mom in her PJ’s at the slumber party?” vibe. It’s… out of place.
This is the kind of thing that someone DiosaBelissima’s age ought to be just about growing out of; to see it coming from a 41-year-old woman just seems… desperate.
Rumer Willis is an eighteen year old woman who goes out partying. STOP THE PRESSES!
Sheesh. Unless she is getting arrested or her face is so ugly she is causing traffic accidents, leave her alone. She’s a perfectly okay looking person doing nothing illegal that I’ve read about. Let her have a life.
I always thought Ashton was gorgeous, particularly his eyes and smile. I once thought I’d like to make a movie of Steven King’s Rose Madder with Bruce&Demi as Norman & Rose, since they were together when I read it. If I could do it now, I’d cast Ashton as Bill Steinman, the younger man Rose meets after leaving Norman.
I don’t entirely disagree with your statements about acceptance of flaws, but I still feel that it is better to err on the side of kindness- and I know that this is possible because the evidence is in the last Doper pic thread. Someone who shares the same small, close set eyes and largish chin was lavished with compliments instead of dissected. Why the difference?
What makes me sad is that there are women reading this thread who have similar features who are hating their reflections and their ancestry today- and that is unfortunate. Body image issues arise from exactly this kind of feedback- how can it be anything but harmful?
I am concerned about coming across as defensive, so I will just lay all my cards on the table. I am the woman whom everyone would insist needs to “eat a sandwich” and would compare rib for rib to the photo of Kate Moss depicted in the “obese” thread. Yeah, I could increase my calorie intake and be less active and maybe gain a few pounds. Lucky for me, changing my appearance to please everyone wouldn’t require surgery or drugs. But if I had a prominent chin, or squinty eyes I would be doubting myself today, and feeling ugly and unwanted after reading this thread. Is that what the OP and the other critics want? For those with unconventional looks to feel like crap?
No, we’re not going to play this game in Cafe Society. As Dex clearly states in the Forum Rules:
If you feel the thread violates some rule, report it; if you just want to make assumptions about other posters’ personalities, take it to the Pit. But it doesn’t belong in Cafe Society. Please don’t do this again.
Beaucarnea, if my comments about how thin Demi Moore is in anyway upset you, I sincerely apologize. In my ham-fisted way, I was simply trying to convey that I thought she looked even more amazing than she already does and that’s only because I like people to be a bit more fleshy, filled-out. That way I know they get to enjoy themselves from time to time with a yummy treat. But I do like people just the way they are … as long as they’re as healthy as they can be and are happy, as far as I’m concerned, it’s all good.
I’m sorry again if what I said was inappropriate or bruised feelings in any way. That wasn’t my intent. So now I think I’ll go take a nap. And just hope I can continue to watch my step as I hang my low.
faithfool, I didn’t notice your comment, and if I had, it wouldn’t have bothered me. I didn’t mean to express discomfort about my own appearance, I just wanted to qualify my statements as coming from someone who is far from perfect and certainly wasn’t looking for reparations. At my age, I don’t feel personally insulted when anyone disparages a skinny model or actress. But if I had an unfortunate physical feature that could only be changed by expensive plastic surgery I would be feeling very insulted and ashamed after reading this thread- especially if I were a young girl.
Marginally pretty, above-average celebrities who are marketed as beautiful are perceived as beautiful by the general public. But take away the make-up, the $200 hair-dos, and the fancy clothes and you’re left with someone who’s no prettier than the rest of us. Lindsay Lohan doesn’t look all that great in one of those pictures I saw, but we’ve all seen her wash up nicely. Rumer looks like she could as well, if given the chance.
People in tabloids always look hideous.
If Rumer’s parents were not celebrities and she was “commonfolk”, most of us would rate her as pretty or average. Not ugly. She has an unusual look, but that’s all.
That said, I think people should back off from the OP. There are plenty of threads–usually started by guys–devoted to women celebrity’s looks. They are just as petty and superficial as this one.
Now is the time to begin cultivating a personality, and let the wisdom of your years shine. There’s nothing worse than an aging beauty who is desperately grasping at the past. I think you have plenty of personality and wisdom to share. I gently suggest to you that poking fun of someone because of physical features which they cannot control is not becoming. YMMV.
Well isn’t that all big and grand of you, given that you, personally, have not been wounded by any of the OP’s actions. I think it’s shameful to not only pass judgement on someone in another thread, but then to follow that poster around and bash her for everything she posts just because you have decided she’s an unacceptable human.
This thread is not about you or the OP. It’s about how stars look. Why don’t you quit hijacking with your lecturing?
I would dearly hope that any woman reading this thread would place much more value on her personality and character than she would on the accident of genetics that is her outward appearance.
People have no choice in the face they get. It’s horrid that anyone should allow her feelings about herself be based on the skin on the outside of her bones.
Carl Sandberg said it fabulously:
What you know for sure is that anybody who judges you because of your appearance isn’t worthy of your notice. It’s a great way to weed out people you don’t need in your life.
Actually, she already did–right after I asked her to do so. So, your hijack to lecture on morality is even more out of place. If you feel a post is not appropriate to the thread or the forum, please do not play a junior mod; instead, just report it and we’ll look into it. This will help those instances when you come in late and lecture someone for something they’ve stopped doing. Cafe Society ain’t the place for that, anyway.
Several people have commented on this, and now I’m going to mention it. If you want things to die down, one way to help is to stop mentioning it. Period. This is the latest in what seems to be a long line of references to something you’ve clearly stated you wanted everyone to drop. Well, here’s your chance. Amd, quite frankly, I don’t want to see any more references outside the proper thread/forum. Cafe Society threads aren’t about you, personally, as a poster, so please keep that in mind. If you feel someone has broken a rule, report the post and let the mods handle it.
QG, I agree. Sadly, many young women are very susceptible to criticism about superficial things and this sensitivity can have devastating consequences. But not me. I have a very thick skin- it is the best trait that I inherited from my two attractive parents. But we digress from the topic at hand- so c’mon down to the Pit with me and we can discuss it further there.
) and people still come gunning for you, they’ll look like jerks then and it’ll backfire on them.
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