This is at least partly why my dating history has been a series of epic failures, I just can’t respond to subtleties like this, because I don’t trust my own judgement about what something indirect like that means, or doesn’t mean.
Have you ever said something and as soon as the words left your mouth you realize it might be taken the wrong way?
When she said, “…I haven’t had a man in my life in five years…”, she may have realized that might hurt your feelings so she came up with, “I didn’t count you because we only went out on a couple of dates.”
That’s called a ‘save’. Let it go.
Every time I see a version of this question my default is to think “Keep your mouth shut” without even reading the thread.
Having read the thread, I do not change my default. Keep your mouth shut.
It’s just like the “Is this a scam?” threads. Yes. Yes, it’s a scam. I would place bets blind that it’s a scam and win 99% of them.
I was going to say “Say something!!!1!!” just so the decision wouldn’t be unanimous, but **handsomeharry **beat me to it. Since he’s taken care of that angle, I’ll go ahead agree with everyone else and advise you to keep your damn mouth shut.
Another “mouth shut” vote here.
Why dubious? She knew that you saw her with a handsome BF and thought you might be a little hurt by that, and was trying to spare your feelings. I’d call that kind, not dubious.
A distinct possibility.
(And someday, I hope I too can find a girl who happens to be a friend who likes the same geeky things I do and who WOULDN’T get her intestines ripped out via her mouth by my current girlfriend who understands none of them.)
I agree. I don’t see anything in her remarks that suggest that she misinterpreted your position in the “relationship.”
This is as far as I read. The answer is “keep your damn mouth shut.”