Hell, women masturbate while in relationships. Not all men, and not all women, but I’d wager that it’s a lot of both.
Sometimes men and women even masturbate together.
I can’t deal with your problems right now, OP. I have my own.
Like, why the hell would the tone of the OP piss me off so much? The ridiculousness of the premise, and if taken at her word, naivete, is so backwards and hung up, I’d wager these kids have GOT to be the product of some serious puritanical mind fuck.