Ok… Thanks to my new board friends (You know who you are) I’m starting this thread.
My mom broke her leg. So what you say… or gee sorry about your ma you may also say…
But this means my mom has moved in with me and my family for the next few weeks. (Yes my husband is a saint but this is not the thread for that!
So… we’re forced to be really quiet when we have sex as she is sleeping in the next room. I haven’t been really quiet since my husband and I were teenagers in college hiding from roommates!
Anyway… do I have any friends in the screamers anonymous guild? How loud is too loud? I’m thinking positive feedback for my partner is a good thing but what do you guys/gals think?
So, what, I say. Oh, wait…gee, sorry about your ma.
Well, I certainly can’t claim to be a screamer. I’m often accused of not being communicative enough. (I’m getting flashbacks to the “Quiet People” thread.) But, I’ve experienced a variety of sound levels from my partners.
And, I have to say I do like it when a woman audibly expresses her satisfaction. I find giggling a little…well…peculiar. No offence to any gigglers, out there. And, there’s that initial “Omigod! She’s laughing at me” reaction. But, they do tend to be in a really good mood, afterwards. Moaning is nice, especially when they get my name right.
Screaming…hmmm. Have I mentioned that bears have really acute hearing? A little screaming is flattering. A LOT of screaming, anywhere near my ears is painful. And, I’ve found that you can’t “kiss them quiet”, at least the ones I’ve known. Anyone else have that experience?
Snazzy title, by the way. But, if ya don’t keep the screaming down, you won’t be anonymous for long.
I’ve got that problem at the moment. Being a newer college student, I’m still used to having to keep myself quiet, even when in an empty apartment situation with a partner… but, more often than not, I goof and let out a too-loud noise in a situation where I have to be quiet than keep quiet for long when I don’t have to be. My suggestion is to invest in a gag if it’s really difficult for you to keep quiet…and resort to more quiet forms of feedback in the meantime.
P.S. If they can hear you outside he door and you don’t want them to know you’re having sex, then it’s too loud.
Yes, I am a screamer. I know of no twelve steps that could help this. I can name twelve things that will make me scream, though!
I always tend to get very vocal. It’s not a constant blood-curdling scream like Davebear mentioned. It’s more like moaning, the occasional loud squeak, YES!YES!, Ohgodohgodohgod, (hubby’s name), loud squeak, moaning, panting, NOW!
Hubby is a little more reserved, so I suppose I would be the only one that anyone could hear. I don’t know what to offer in the way of advice, though. Sure, a gag sounds good. We bought one. I could still make a LOT of noise wearing it. Mostly I just cram the corner of the covers in my mouth and bite down really hard if I need to be quite.
Maybe screaming isn’t quite the most appropriate adjective… more like what Faeriebeth said
Giggling… well if I’m giggling it is because he’s tickling. The worst part is once you tickle me too much then EVERY touch tickles for quite some time afterwards.
I’m sure at this point that my mother knows I’m sexually active… I am pregnant with my second munchkin after all I’m just trying really hard not to flaunt it…
ugh I remember being a kid and hearing my folks have sex… the rythmic thrum of headboard against wall matched with their moaning… I always wished my room were further away… like zimbabwe!
I’ve got one step for you.
Have the woman in the apartment below you (in your 8-plex) come upstairs and politely ask you to be less enthusiastic in your love making.
Trust me, it’ll kill your sexual drive for weeks, and cause you to be much much more aware of your vocalizations.
Okay, I’ll admit it, by day you don’t hear a peep, but at night – ::rowr!::
I’ve been told that I am loud. Quite loud. Not screaming necessarily, but it just doesn’t seem to work without the gutteral grunts, moans, and occaisional petitions to dieties. I don’t even realize that I’m doing it, really. I think I’d have an incredibly difficult time if we had to live with someone else!
The first time my husband and I had sex, he was living with some roommates. One of them was home, and I had neglected to inform him of my er, habit. We noticed at one point that through the thin walls the sound of music blaring at full blast could be heard from the other room. The song playing? Nine Inch Nails – Closer. The part of the song? You guessed it. We laughed our asses off.
Okay, I’ll admit it, by day you don’t hear a peep, but at night – ::rowr!::
I’ve been told that I am loud. Quite loud. Not screaming necessarily, but it just doesn’t seem to work without the gutteral grunts, moans, and occaisional petitions to dieties. I don’t even realize that I’m doing it, really. I think I’d have an incredibly difficult time if we had to live with someone else!
The first time my husband and I had sex, he was living with some roommates. One of them was home, and I had neglected to inform him of my er, habit. We noticed at one point that through the thin walls the sound of music blaring at full blast could be heard from the other room. The song playing? Nine Inch Nails – Closer. The part of the song? You guessed it. We laughed our asses off.
Personally, I’m kinda quiet. I give lots of positive feedback in the way of words, but you don’t get much out of me besides heavy sighs and slight moans. of course, the fact that I’ve only engaged in oral sex so far may have something to do with that. But I can’t help but think of pornos when the subject comes up, and the kind of sounds guys make just sound too stupid. I know it’s not a time to be self concious, but still, if I let all my inhibitions go, I’d probably end up barking like a seal, and I’m pretty sure that would kill the mood right away (although, I have gotten a few requests). When I meet the right girl, though, I’ll let you know if I change my mind.
From her, on the other hand, I like to hear a LOT of noise. It’s a HUGE turn on for me. I like a lot of the soft sounds (the gentle sighs, the little wimpers, the slow moans), but when things start to peak, I love hearing loud screams (and even a bit of profanity on occassion). Again, having only engaged in the realm of oral sex here, you gotta admit…it’s hard to hear when you’ve got a pair of thighs sqeezing your head, so I appreciate the extra effort.
One night I was dispatched to a possible domestic violence assault in a local motel. The people in the next room heard a female screaming like a banshee.
My partner and I banged on the door,which was quickly opened. When we explained why we were there, the poor girl blushed more deeply than I had ever seen in my life.
She and her boyfriend were just trying anal sex for the first time, and she apparently enjoyed it!
ROFLMAO!! I bet that put your professional poker face to the ultimate test!
Now, see…that would be a good time to scream. My ears would be far enough away, and there might be a pillow near her face that’s avaiable for muffling purposes, depending on the position they chose, of course. Ooh, BABY! Ride 'em, cowgirl!
tanookie - Yeah, the first thought that goes through my head, when a woman giggles during sex, is “What am I doing wrong?” But, I’ve known women who just giggle during orgasm. Kinda cute, kinda weird, kinda…I dunno.
It’s a little more difficult to be a screamer when you have children. I’ve also lived in very unfortunate places for the last several years. We lived with my mom for a while, with our daughter in the same room, so were happy when we finally moved on to a different apartment building. All was well, but one evening my husband said that the upstairs neighbor wanted him to pass on a thank-you to me for getting his wife in the mood. I blush every time I see him now.
We’ve moved apartments again. When we went to the neighbor’s place, we saw that they are sleeping in one of the small bedrooms instead of the master bedroom. Guess they’d rather hear the baby’s screaming than mine.
I gotta sign in here too - I make noise - all sorts of noises. If you tickle me, I yelp and giggle and can really scream (I have been recorded to use my voice as a sound effect - I am officially a screamer!!!).
I love to make noise - its far less fun without it. I adore to hear it back to - that is a major turn on. As my bf and I are long distance, we have phone sex (yeah I’m admitting it, what else we gonnna do???)… and oh my god the first time, well just the noises he was making was enough to make me wanna crawl down the phone line. I am very aurally (orally? LOL) aware and sounds can be so enticing… that little breathing sound he makes, the way he giggles breathlessly when I suggest something really bold, the way he shouts my name (oh my god hearing your name shouted at just that point almost makes me faint lol)…
Last time we did it, we had to be quiet as he had visitors. We could talk normally but they couldn’t sense anything was up (:D) - so we were very quiet and, though it was fun, it was not a patch on anything we did before.
I was with a guy before that made NO noise - you couldnt even hear a change in his breathing pattern - that kinda creeped me out to be honest; didn’t seem normal.
I have a date with bf in 2 hours and his house will be free and hopefully mine too soooo ROWRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! :D:p
BTW I knew for sure I was in love with him when I heard him speak the first time on the phone - it was a Fireworks moment for sure… that voice by itself is enough for me to… well you know
Some gags are more useful for stifling sound than others.
Tape gags are the best, but don’t use duct tape, it leaves a sticky residue and is painful to remove. You can get medical tape from a medical supply house that does’t leave a residue and works very well. If you put a medical tape gag over a ball gag, you wouldn’t be able to make very much sound. (No gag is going to completely inhibit sound, as in order to inhibit sound completely, it would have to inhibit breating completely.)
But gags can bring full-throated screaming down to levels that can readily be concealed by a radio, CD or TV played at reasonable volumes.
You can also improvise an effective gag by balling up some cloth and putting it in the mouth (be sure and raise your tongue to block its entry too far into the mouth so you don’t get gagged for real.) Then tie it in place with a necktie or something. Very sexy in a role-playing kinda way, and also an effective gag.
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Normally, I am inclined to merely lurk for this type of thread, but I have to ask: uh, Badge, how did the conversation get to the point where the woman volunteered the specific act that led to the screaming? Wouldn’t “oops, loud sex” have been sufficient?
Another screamer checking in … my (now ex) bf once complained that it sounded like I was trying too hard to be loud. WTF??? He lived at home, so when his family was gone, I liked to show my appreciation. Now my hubby and I live alone in a house - I’m surprised we haven’t broken the windows yet!!
Well, that’s convenient SN for such an informational post
As far as screaming/noise making/etc, as long as it’s genuine, the more the better. If there’s no noise going on, unless you are both struggling to keep quiet (but then you can hear all you need to hear in the breathing patterns), it’s just creepy like Rhino’sHoney said. Especially during oral sex. I need feedback! Besides, there’s nothing more of a turn on than just the right type of moaning at just the right moments… I remember this one girl, I swear it sent shivers down my spine.
Unfortunately, my most sexually active period so far in life occured when renting a house with three other people (my SO also lived with roommates). So I really haven’t fully enjoyed the “aural” experience often. But the few times we had a place to ourselves (or a beach house on vacation), well, it was quite fun.
