Here’s the deal: We rent a 3-bedroom house, 2 bath house. About six months ago, with the consent of our landlord, we decided to sublet one of the rooms because we’re in a tough spot financially. In the craigslist posting we specified no drugs and no overnight guests. The main reason for the latter is that we have a one-year-old baby. The other reasons, I suppose, are that we don’t want some sort of swinging door situation where random people are spending the night. Our renter is a good guy, a college student who is, on the whole, fairly serious, if a little immature (actually, I think he just acts his age, about 22) and he pays the rent on time.
Yesterday he told us his friend was “stranded” and so was going to hang out at the house for awhile. They stayed in his room with the music loud. It was kind of funny because we have never said “no guests at all,” but I think he felt like he needed to make up an explanation for her presence. Anyway, they obviously had a scripted conversation about her not being stranded anymore when she was leaving and it seemed obvious that it was a hook-up. She seemed nice and normal enough.
Tonight we realize he has snuck her into his room and she’s obviously going to spend the night. I’m not overly concerned, I don’t think she’s a threat to anyone’s safety, and I think in some ways it might be unrealistic to expect that a college student is NEVER going to have overnight guests.
My husband is concerned that if we allow the overnight guest situation, we would be opening ourselves up to random people. We would both be more comfortable if we thought this girl was going to be the only one. We will definitely be bringing it up because the sneaking someone into the house is a no-go – if there are going to be people staying overnight in the house it needs to be known and OK with all concerned.
As far as hard economics go, we had a lot of responses to our ad (the house is nice enough, the room has a separate entrance, he has sole use of a bathroom, and the rent is pretty cheap) and it probably wouldn’t be that hard to find another renter, but we don’t want to do that – we like him, we think he likes us, and we hope we can work it out to the satisfaction of all parties.
I’m interested in 1) whether you in this situation would relax the rules, and how much and 2) if not or if so, how you would handle the conversation? Thanks!