Hey, what in the hell’s wrong with you?! I’m not pissed off, and fuck you for thinking I am!!
kidding!! Please don’t hurt me. 
Kidding right? Last thing I want is to draw attention.
BTW, I love chic…erm, ladies with piercings. Especially the ones on, well, never mind.
Right, that aside, sorry you feel the Boards are getting meaner. Just on account of you I’m going on a “Be Nice Week” and promise not to go beyond a paltry “fuck you!” And whispered even.
Why thank you, glad to know I still have that effect on the ladies.
~Red
Well, that reply you linked to was kind of jerkish, but it was a direct, truthful answer to a direct question. I prefer honesty over feelings (until its my feelings getting hurt, heh), but there is no reason to deliberately offend, IMO. I don’t disagree with you, really–but remember your input in the thread about letting stuff go (the garbage cans and all–or was that someone else?)? If you don’t let some of this just roll off, you will not be able to fully function here!
I can identify with your feelings, though. I have also been feeling weary of the oddly enforced “tolerance” here–things you think are simple and noncontroversial are somehow… not sometimes here. Now there is strong defense for incest ongoing in a thread nearby. I for one do not believe for a minute that those in that thread are as accepting of this as they say they are. It’s an anonymous forum on the internet–people can be who they want to be. Too bad that it’s often the worst part that comes across, but again, some of that is perhaps a misconstruction due to lack of tone etc.
Take a page from Hazelnutcoffee’s book: she said, “people are weird.” and leave it there. I had a nurse friend who also used to say, “don’t stick your hand in the crazy.” Words of wisdom.
Okay, I think this is the thread that struck me as being meaner than usual lately - Tuba being an ass again (to paraphrase). It just seemed like people were teeing off of each other at little or no provocation.
I do like your perspective, Bryan, that we really aren’t any better around here than anywhere else online - we just like to tell ourselves that we are. We do use better grammar and spelling, though - I’m sticking with that one.
faithfool, you will be so much happier if you can find your sensitivity dial, and just turn it down a bit. I mean this in all seriousness and kindness. Over the years, I’ve been in good ole Customer Service in many capacities; one thing I’ve learned is that the more you get paid, the more shit you get from customers. It’s all part of moving up the food chain. I really try to consider the fact that if someone is being hostile/angry/stupid in my direction, their lives probably are kinda sucking right now anyway. Now, to put that into terms of day-to-day interaction with the world, I don’t mean to say that anyone who disagrees with me is actually having a shitty life, but anyone who is reacting extremely negatively probably also has an unknown issue which is driving their peevishness/irritability/hostility. If that’s what makes em feel better, let em have at it. If nothing else, find the humor in their judgmental attitudes. “He/she/it said my waxed and shaven glommenheimer means I’m sick in the head. What a sillypants! I know better than that!”
If you learn to laugh, or at least shake your head, at behaviors and opinions that seem far-out or wrong-headed, I guarantee it will reduce your stress level. Just grab a beer, throw on some Pink Floyd, and laugh about this crazy, mixed-up world we’ve all found ourselves in. 
[Sub]I’m not a hippie, guys, I swear. Please don’t release the hounds.[/sub]
freekalette, you say that like hurting you would be a bad thing… And RedFury is over here whispering sweet, paltry "fuck you!"s. What ever is this thread coming to? Huh??
Again, I’m glad to at least know others have kinda been tugged by this stuff too (thanks featherlou for bringing that to my attention – I had stayed out of there) and there are words of definite wisdom to be had here. bufftabby has very good advice (“Sillypants”!! I love it!), as does eleanor again. [Which, by the way, I have no idea what you’re talking about with regards to garbage cans. I don’t think that was me, but as usual, I could be mistaken. :p]
So, I’ll repeat that I’m going to try harder not to get my panties in any bunches and even more speak softly, to make sure that my own ‘tone’ doesn’t mitigate circumstances. I really do appreciate everyone’s help with this. It’s been a very civil pit. 
It wasn’t you–but you might want to read it, just to see another perspective on it. Here’s the link:… Um, I can’t find it and don’t have time to do a search. It was started by elbows last week sometime and dealt with neighbors all up in arms about garbage cans and co-workers upset about dishes left in the sink. It had something to say about people’s overreaction to small things-which overlaps with your issue here because it also dealt with how people deal with anger and irritation.
[sub]Never mind[/sub]
Funny. I was going to say something about that, too.
I see two things:
- People are mean on the internet because they can be–you don’t have to see the look of hurt on someone’s face when you slag them off.
- Sometimes people answer in a hurry and don’t bother to frame their post in more tactful words that they might use if they thought about it.
- People are under a LOT of stress these days. That comes out in some pretty unpleasant ways, sometimes.
Me, I try to think about what I’m saying, and how I’m saying it, and how the person reading it might interpret it. And if I don’t have time to do all of those things, I don’t post until I do have that time.
I think more smiley usage here would help. Seriously.
:rolleyes:
Hey, neat, a pit thread about me.
I thought everyone else thought a piercing was pretty passe. Ascribing the entire identity of a piercing as being something “rebellious” is to me almost as laughably anachronistic as thinking women who wear pants are whores. Having an older crowd, I expected most posters to think that piercings were unattractive but otherwise not worth thinking about, but to read that anyone with one suffered from catastrophic stupidity and mental unbalance not just from a few loonies, but from the solid majority?
Yeah, consider me shocked. But I asked for opinions, and didn’t complain when I got them. I think most of these opinions are rather short-sighted and bigoted, but I wanted to hear them, and I’m glad I did, too. I hear slight echoes of what is said here in real life, where people are polite, and realize that what I’m hearing here is what many people are privately thinking.
You and many other respondents to my thread have not only made zero effort to understand the words that are coming out of my mouth (so to speak [or type]), you have remained gleefully ignorant of my intentions in order to hold onto that precious stereotype that makes you feel better about yourself. An eyebrow piercing isn’t rebellious and is, in fact, common? For the sake of humanity, you’ve got to spread the word. It seems you’ve convinced yourself that you alone have found the golden ticket and are gliding above the rest of the humanity in your glass elevator, marveling at the unthinking little ignorant people who simply aren’t capable of the same stunning insights. Get fucked.
ForumBot, I think you’re a good guy, but 1) this Pit thread is not about you and 2) this whole piercing saga seems a little attention whorey and I’m sorry that you don’t want to hear that, but it’s how some people think.
You mean the dope doesn’t revolve around telling me I’m attractive and intelligent? Nonsense.
There’s pretty well-supported evidence that aggression increases as temperature does.
Yadda yadda yadda. You need to get over yourself, kiddo. The “solid majority” were not telling you that you were catastrophically stupid or mentally unbalanced. That you come in here saying as much makes you look like a drama queen as well as whiny.
Do it, or don’t. I don’t give a rat’s ass. But I’m ever so sorry to tell you that this sequence of
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lamenting about how young you look & act
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followed by the “look at me! I’m a badass for getting these piercings!”
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and then “I’m taking out the eyebrow piercing, I can’t handle negative opinions of me”
does not shine a favorable light on you in the maturity department.
Now, pardon me while I go off for the evening to get fucked.
Not to get too deep in a dickwaving contest for online superiority, but if I do something to accomplish one goal and instead the complete opposite happens, I’d be a moron (or a “rebel”) to keep doing it.
Which is all well and good, but your reaction to the discussion of whether piercings are rebellious or not was more than a little pissy:
You can’t be both the nice boy and the rebel and that’s the vibe I got (and I’m sure others did too) from that thread.
I’m glad I’m not the only one. The hostility is the reason I rarely post anymore.
I recently came out of lurk mode to post a thread in IMHO. It was a simple poll type question for “parents”. I got a couple of direct replies and a shitload of “opinions” on my apparantly horrible family members. And I seriously doubt (and hope), that not everyone who replied was a parent.
So does your arse look big in those pants?
Go on, tell me to piss off, I can take it
I’ll have you know that I have a fine arse. It’s my gut that is the problem.